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howlindog50 73M
509 posts
10/20/2016 6:01 pm

It's not just you . . . I've experienced the same thing . . . on this site, especially . . . was a long-term "regular" in one of the chatrooms . . . left it almost a year ago after a verbal assault by 1 member . . . believed that I had "friends" from the room that would keep in touch on my blog & elsewhere . . . lo & behold . . . they've all "vaporized" . . . a real learning experience!


sasha3676 66F  
114 posts
10/20/2016 6:04 pm

I find that its best to only add people to my friends network when I have actually met them in real life Its hard to really know someone until you have met face to face and once they have made the effort to do that its a step towards true friendship.People that make excuses about meeting don't really want to meet.Those that do will make the effort.I like to say keep it simple everything else will fall into place


Maize32 55M  
1391 posts
10/20/2016 6:12 pm

Sorry to hear of your frustrations. Unfortunately people can be fickle and worry about themselves and not how it effects others. True friends do not necessarily have to talk everyday, every week, but when they get do talk it's like no time has past.

In regards to why bother pretending to want something (e.g. Relationship, meet up, etc.) some individuals like the illusion of the concept, but they can not handle the reality. It's somewhat similar to what people are willing to say from behind a keyboard vs what they would actually say in person.

Hope tomorrow is a better day.


wjb1958 65M
3739 posts
10/20/2016 6:29 pm

Not just you , experience the thing also hope you have a better tomorrow.


mc_justmc 63M

10/20/2016 6:31 pm

Sadly, I know what you mean. Wish I was there to help. I could use the exercise. Moving is an ass kicker!


BrownEyedBBW 55F  
8831 posts
10/20/2016 7:03 pm

I'm seeing this in the community I'm conducting research in right now. A person (or people, it's not clear if it was a shared profile or not) just disappeared and shut down an online outlet without warning. Needless to say, people were upset.

The hard thing about online relationships (friendships or romances) is that trust tends to develop either very fast or very slow and one it develops it's actually stronger than trust between acquaintances who socialize offline. That can be a recipe for misunderstandings, hurt feelings, missed cues, and all sorts of avoidance techniques.

It's normal to have friendships come and go. Most friendships don't last all that long. But it's much more visible in online environments, and because of that deeper trust bond, it can feel more painful.


I_giv_pleasure 60M
2891 posts
10/20/2016 7:07 pm

I'm there for you. Just unfortunate that we are 3000 miles away. Moving will let you know who your friends really are. I hope all is going good.


AmorphousAmor 64M
3574 posts
10/20/2016 7:08 pm

Friends should enhance your life, not detract from it... find and keep those that make you feel good being around them!


topherific 61M
5209 posts
10/20/2016 7:24 pm

i'm here for the long haul


Brenda_New_Gurl2 56T  
35 posts
10/20/2016 8:23 pm

True friends are important... and there for you!!!!


lok4fun500 M
51906 posts
10/20/2016 8:36 pm

It's not just you, dear misskissin!
I struggle to find someone to help me when I need assistance, but have a hard time saying no when I'm asked to assist. It's the kind of person I was raised to be.


08540Tantrafun 60M  
1072 posts
10/20/2016 8:36 pm

The problem is not them. It is us. It used to happen to me all the time. I was the go to guy for every one. Help/money/ride/moving help, you name it. Then in 2003-4 when family members and 2 close friends were stricken with cancer most of my fair weather friends disappeared. It took me about 5 years to figure things out.
I realized i was using people to boost my ego, just as they were using me for their needs. I took total responsibility for my life and happiness, strictly enforced a reciprocity policy. Before I was a great giver and poor receiver. Now I am still a great giver but also an excellent receiver. i don't associate with users and don't use anybody. i have great friends and so much free time. It is a big world. The key is learning to pick the right friends for the right reasons.
Now when I travel, I go to the nearest Hilton or Sheraton and take their airport shuttle.(very cheap). I haven't picked up any body from the airport since 2009. Tell them to take the shuttle and I pick them up locally. I don't get offended if they have some one else pick them up at the airport.

For moving I pay some one( they do it 4 times faster than me, without me pulling some muscle or getting exhausted) and no longer help any body move other than pack. I don't use my van to transport other peoples shit. Recommend they spend 19.95 and get a uhaul at home depo. Some get offended, others are happy for the suggestion.

Life is simple and no stress,and the friends that I have now are just like me. We call on each other when absolutely necessary and we can count on each other 100% without any drama. In other words I dumped my fair weather friends and picked all weather friends very very carefully. It transformed my life.

"Rules for happiness: something to do, someone to love, something to hope for.”― Immanuel Kant .


gardenboy321 60M  
41936 posts
10/20/2016 9:13 pm

Real friends help load up your sofa, and even will carry it up the two or three story walkup.

Thoughts from the Garden...


tickles4us 62M
7262 posts
10/20/2016 9:44 pm

Life can be difficult sometimes and true friends stick by when you need them but life is busy and complicated sometimes.

I'm getting way behind in my blog reading and commenting lately because I've been a bit busy and my internet is so slow right now, I waited about half an hour for kzoo's blog to load yesterday before I gave up. So I feel bad that I haven't been keeping up with my watched list very well. I guess I really need to call on the cable company but ADD isn't helping out much there. I will get to it one of these days though.

Vive La Difference


oldbstrd55 67M
3292 posts
10/20/2016 9:47 pm

I have few friends and a bunch of acquaintances, some of which I can count, some slightly. Mostly those I work with are the ones I can count on. It's usually on the barter system, but we can usually count on each other for assistance.


proteus_2a 58M
7979 posts
10/20/2016 11:03 pm

Sad but true my lady
But it's always been like that :
In fair weather, everybody is a friend
- it takes a storm though to see who's
there at the helm with you

( Now, is it probably that with the move and all you're
exhausting yourself ?
Please, do take care - and dream naughty
Think how it is going to be when you are settled
and ready to make a home out of it )

Cheers - P


s2ndegree 65M
9800 posts
10/21/2016 12:44 am

I have to tell you living on the sun and having friends that prefer the apartment life.They get the greatest deals in May and June.Whats moving an oak bedroom suite ,a four piece sectional couch and all the assorted trips up three flights of stairs when it's 110 degrees at 8 in the morning?
It's what friends are for and that's part of cherishing a friendship.
It builds character.The snickering from all the tenants within earshot as you're
trying to explain the best way to get a king size box spring off the railing while
keeping your composure,It builds character.Selling your beloved Pick up truck immediately afterwards.It builds character.

Sorry to hear the news.Wish I lived closer. I love walks in the park!

Using more than all the road!


t34s3r 65M
68 posts
10/21/2016 2:57 am

it is real life with the wall of sex removed, we can all assume that everybody likes sex here thats all lol


txslowpoke 70M  
2557 posts
10/21/2016 3:52 am

i agree with you... it doesnt seem in todays world that friends are what they use to be... use to be if you made a friend , they were always a friend..no matter if you argue or not, if things in life change an one moves away , if new friends come into ones life... you still were friends... today tho your a friend if its convienent, or you need something from someone, or it fits into what you need for awhile... an then poof , like a bic lighter , when its empty or you quit smoking , you just throw it away... amazes me how some forget what the word means or use to mean.


citizen4722 66M  
74582 posts
10/21/2016 8:26 am

I would never intentionally just cut somebody out of my life without giving some reason for doing so. Even here on this site.


HermanG67 56M
8464 posts
10/21/2016 8:27 am

acquaintances disappear

friends remain


Tmptrzz 61F  
107039 posts
10/21/2016 8:45 am

Oh I agree with you one hundred percent here my friend, I found that out recently myself. But I am just going on and doing my thing..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


Han54boat 71M
11637 posts
10/21/2016 12:14 pm

Friends come in all kinds of flavors. Yet, the flavor can change when digging deeper.


Cum to my blog and respond. Have a great kissing fun time.


scott6250 61M

10/21/2016 1:37 pm

I've found this to be true as well. Have a lovely weekend!

"Sweet, steamy, sensuous kisses light the bright fires of passionate lust within us." scott6250


Leegs2012 51M
96137 posts
10/21/2016 4:16 pm

Good friends are hard to find.


flaguy522 68M
1483 posts
10/21/2016 8:36 pm

MissK...It could be exhaustion but you're usually right on with feelings. But don't take it too personally. They're just showing a character flaw. I'm sure that if you befriended them they must have a redeeming quality or two. I hope the move goes smoothly.


MyNameIsKay 62F  
11887 posts
10/21/2016 10:12 pm

Wish I was there to have helped! I'm quick as anything setting up at a new place.

Hugs...and their loss for sure.

Swim...Bike...Done


pacnwlover42 55M
9808 posts
10/22/2016 2:39 pm

I find it true, both here and outside of the cyberworld. I get disappointed, but then I think of those that haven't disappointed me and I snap back into happiness.

Funny women are incredibly sexy!


hrdallnght4u 67M

10/22/2016 5:05 pm

It is a shame that They play games like that..

You can't expect to be Old & Wise..If You were never Young & Crazy!!!


ProfPlayful 53M
3861 posts
10/22/2016 5:49 pm

I have had very few bad experiences on Xmatch, but then I keep my circle of friends and blog readers small and intimate.

My featured post this week: Pulling Fantasy Sex Out of My Ass.


redhotfun4you2 61F  
1596 posts
10/22/2016 6:55 pm

It is not just you, I am finding the same. Say one thing and do something else.


bent_whistle 72M
700 posts
10/23/2016 7:43 am


dafocker44 64M
986 posts
10/23/2016 11:06 am

I commented on a blog page, and this was part of her response to me.
"What still could be opportunities are what people should go for! "

Come here, I wanna bite you!! STILL!!!!! Sorry about your loss on Sunday, but life goes on!!!!!!! Aaron will rise again!!!!

[I]Da Focker!!


sexysixties2 106F
39750 posts
10/23/2016 12:26 pm

Sometimes people retreat when they need time from the world and cannot talk to anyone so they just vanish.

"Age does not protect you from love, but love, to some extent, protects you from age."

~~Anais Nin~~


luvexotic 62M

10/23/2016 5:26 pm

It is a sad reflection of people who profess to be friends but when you really need them, all they have is one lame excuse after another as to why they can't. So called friends like that don't remain my friends after that. Mind you, if I lived locally to you, I'm not sure how much work compared to play would have occurred in helping you move


submokey 69M/62F
10383 posts
10/23/2016 10:17 pm

Hello, Honey!
Through the years, have seen people "disappear", friends vanish here. A limited few I have outside contact abilities, but don't wish to bother them.
I still think of them and current ones, even with my "new", real daytime life, just have more important things going on now.


Romance her heart, tease her body, enjoy the company shared in bed n out! Treasure every moment spent together, in good times n bad!
Cum visit my blog, you're always welcum! submokey Become a watcher!
THINK PINK!


FreddiesFling 61M
3707 posts
10/25/2016 1:05 pm

There seem to be a lot of 'transient' friends or people in this world today. They blow in, get what they want or need and blow back out. Sometimes they help us before they are gone and sometimes they were only there for themselves.

Hope your tomorrow is brighter!

You can visit my blog here FreddiesFling!


ArkSoutherngent5 69M  
910 posts
10/26/2016 8:43 pm

Beautiful Lady, I am sorry, I am one of those that you were talking about.... tonight is the first time in months that I have been on my pc on the site.... My phone got stolen back in July and i have been using my new fancy phone to access the site... the problem with the mobile app is I can't read the blogs.... and I have missed yours.... terribly.....

I will try to quit being so lazy and start using the pc more..... I don't want to lose the Beautiful and Sexy Lady as a Friend....

The Gentleman bows and kisses the Lovely Lady's hand...

bye darlin


spankandsquirt20 45F
10597 posts
11/5/2016 5:08 am

Very true unfortunately.


BLUEICE1964 52M
8 posts
11/11/2016 11:22 am

Have a great day


oaky1777 66M

11/13/2016 2:48 am

I'm sorry you obviously had to learn that lesson the hard way ! I believe that's about how we all learn it ! People aren't as nice as we'd like to believe !
Your not far from me if you ever want to chat , or need a hand I'm a free member so you would have to message me first ! Cheer up that's what karma is for


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