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Yes, absolutely do Aut viam inveniam aut faciam Tips for Guys to Meet Women Things i miss most about relationships
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This is a good poll, but there are not enough option...also the system will not allow for the number of option for the true number of scenarios. Very well put for the selection of vote choices tho!!! The institute of marriage and reasons for marriage do not always line up! This is a very personal choice and decision between the people getting married and whether or not they should stay married when the grow and change as individuals. The reason you get married may not be the reason you stay married. Or not!!!
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Yes, but it can get complicated when there are different perspectives on sex.
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Absolutely it is wonderful to be with and committed to someone who you really love and care far and I say that after 50+ years. At the same time, we have shared each other with friends and that has been incredible, but not marriage threatening.
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Having been widowed, I think I'd prefer to live with someone.
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11/27/2016 7:59 pm |
The subject really is way more complicated than can be covered by any of the simple options on your list. The answer is 'all of the above and much more'.
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The answer is not so black and white. Does it and should it exist - yes! But thats not for everyone. Unfortunatekly, women tend to talk themselves into corners. They may end up in a plce like this looking for a particular and unwaivering criteria and yet fail to learn from their (generally "our"/people, etc.) past mistakes. Most of all, there is a widespread lack of effort in truly defining our expectations, area of compromise and the trade-offs we all make by being rigid and actually failing to discuss those wants, desires and expectations. There's more but you get the point....
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danm nice fuckin ass
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nice
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After certain points in life my lady , no CHeers - P
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what difference doe it make
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I guess if you found the right person marriage would be great.
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a pc of paper doesn't make a loving relationship, trust, doing for each other , saying I love you often, and other things
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11/28/2016 7:53 am |
All family law, is based on property law, so one person in a marriage is treated legally as though they were anothers property. Couple that happen to work out being married were going to work out regardless the institution brings nothing to the relationship. Not the Whole Truth but the truth that I can see.
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Any vote will be dependent on your experience or expectations. Those who haven't been married probably see it as a good thing, those who are happily married will definitely see it so. Negatives are going to come from those with one or more bad experiences - I've been through it, 15 great years, 5 OK years, 5 years working out that it really was over. Do I see marrying again myself? Highly unlikely. Would I try to dissuade others based on my experience? No. That being said. "marriage" needn't formalized through civil or church ceremonials. If people think of themselves as being in a stable, loving, long-term relationship without formalizing anything then they're more "married" than those who have the paperwork but have lives devoid of love, sex, and friendship. "Staying together for the sake of the children" can be horribly damaging for all concerned - my own experience is that my kids' not only handled separation but thrived once freed from a family environment blighted by constant rows and sullen silences.
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I strongly believe in marriage
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I'm happy single. I don't need someone to get in my way/bed/life or bring more stress than I've already got now. So, not for me. For other's maybe.
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11/28/2016 7:11 pm |
I was married for 26 years. I was monogamous. mentally I am a slut. I feel if people want to be happy what does a piece of paper do ? I found out that my ex played and took advantage of my goodness now she wants everything . I thought it was forever but we fell out of love. I don't regret it but if I could change anything it would have been to get a lawyer.
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With 46 years behind us I have to say "Absolutely". What I don't agree with is that sex should be restricted to only one person forever. Love and sex are two very different things.
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Found out the hard way anyone who gets into the institution of marriage should be institutionalized....lol
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11/29/2016 8:44 am |
I like this site because of its high member involvement and being around "like minded" people. Now, the stigma is that everyone here is doing a giant group orgy and we're all a bunch of promiscuous cum-dumpsters, I disagree. A dick is a dick, a vagina is a vagina, everyone who works hard on their physical appearance likes it when they are complimented. I'm not one to run around screaming "Oh no! You saw my naughty parts." I'm not married but a monogamous relationship or even marriage is something that is good for the mind, body and soul.
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We are very happy. We are very best friends, lovers, and just happen to be married over 40 years. Our kids are all together with their spouses as well so our kids and their kids have been fortunate with a two parent household. Of course we like our alternative activity but we only became involved in it a year ago. So far we have had a lot of fun and love what we do. I guess the short answer is marriage is great if you have the right person for you and are in love.
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MARRIAGE IS TERRIFIC .... IF The Right Two People Come Together- Otherwise It Can Become A NIGHTMARE
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Human beings are NOT hardwired to be monogamous...it's a learned quality. How do we learn it? From the Church. The Church has a VESTED interest in controlling human interactions. Part of that control is through "religious intervention. Marriage is a control mechanism to keep the masses under control. If marriage was simply a legal contract between two people, any two people then I would have more respect for it. Those of you who have been married for a while, I congratulate you and always wish you the best. Make it work. Bottom line is I've been contacted by so many married women who just want great sex with someone other than their husband but like going back to their families and living their lives that I stopped counting. I stand ready to help them because I know monogamy is a challenge. Sin Remember everyday is a great day, just keep overcoming temporary challenges!
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this is way too complicated a question to have just a few answers. Men marry women thinking they will never change. Women marry men and think how they like them to change...call me crazy..(I've been married to crazy) but I think marriage can work if there is compatibility and work put in from both halves.
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I do agree with marriage itself however, I voted live together instead from a personal perspective. I don't believe I'll ever get married again at this age. Questions asked may, or may not, have an answer. Questions unasked, most assuredly do not.
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12/1/2016 5:49 am |
Yes I do, this is when maturity comes into play. Before you get married talk about everything. Plan to have a sexual experimenting, finances, goals and dreams. Make sure most line up and most important plan on compromising. Write it down even so no one can "forget". Sure it may change as time goes by, but for both parties comprise is critical. Way too many broken homes and kids hurting because of selfish adults.
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Marriage is strong bonding...
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Marriage would be awesome however after 2 failed marriages " not my fault" of course Im not perfect but i was the innocent in my 2 cases, Would love to get married again but I'm not too hopeful anymore I'd rather just have FWB.
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I have had the same experience as blqberri69 , above, after the two failed I have decided that single is best...
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To tell the Truth I am not sure anymore on Marriage.
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I don't think of marriage as an institution. I don't think institution is the right word for it. I don't think people respect their vows and or each other like they used to back in the day. I think a lot of people act in haste in getting married instead of really taking the time to get to know each other and don't get me started with the cheaters. Marriage is about being a team, best friends and takes working together to maintain the integrity of the relationship. When things fall apart it's usually because someone did not show their true colors and manipulated things or the red flags were ignored. I would be open to getting married to the right person but most times people don't want to take the time to get to really know a person because they have an agenda.
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I think marriage is all right if any only if nothing changes after the vows Most ladies will do anything before but after the vows its a different story.
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Marriage is only great if two people are IN LOVE with each other. The problem is that most people who get married are fooling themselves/each other because they may love each other deeply but they are not IN LOVE. There is a difference..
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12/2/2016 7:03 pm |
I do, and I love my wife dearly. This is something we both wanted to try to spice up our love life a little. If we find it don't help, and or work, we go back to being a boring ol married couple>>!
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12/2/2016 7:08 pm |
I have to disagree with Joepusetr. I am on my 3rd marriage and will be celebrating our 2nd anniversary at the end of the month, and 4 years total being together
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Marriage is a great institution, for those that want to be institutionalized.
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Since I am divorced, I can say yes to marriage but only if both people want to make it work. It's not for the fainthearted. It requires time and effort and a lot of caring. Would I marry again? It would depend on the person.
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Marriage is hard...
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yes I do..its a beautiful thing underneath the rubbles and dust is the diamond.
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Married 34+ years & had some ruff times but still going. Very fortunate to have a wife who allows me to play outside. I only wish she would join me to let me watch her having pleasure from another. Thanks.
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12/3/2016 8:54 pm |
Nope. I Rather live Togeather
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Only if it a open marriage no lies, no BS.. BS should only be ... Breakfast and Sex..........only....
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Marriage is like anything else, it can be great. But then again it takes 2 to make it that way !!
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I completely agree with classycocolady. The word institution is most definitely the wrong word. Marriage is a full time job, but it doesn't need to be a hard job, it should be fun and exciting. My husband and I have been married 17 years at the end of this month and been together for 21 years. We dated and lived together for 5 years before we got married and we've known each other for 24-25 years. We've had our ups and downs, but we've always worked through them. If we got divorced tomorrow, would I marry again? No, because I would want to be on my own for a while. Btw, we have been in an open marriage since late 2014. This lifestyle almost tore us apart, but we survived. It actually made us stronger. Eyes are the windows to the soul Are you made of vinegar and water? No? Then quit acting like a douche. Not my monkeys, not my circus Luscious Lips
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We have a strong marriage together but still does not stop our sex life together and with others
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12/4/2016 11:35 pm |
I think marriage is all right if any only if nothing changes after the vows Most ladies will do anything before but after the vows its a different story.
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I m married for 18 years now. and i luv my wife.. though i am looking for some extra marital sex out here..
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I've been married and divorced twice now. First was for all the wring reasons and ended badly. The 2nd marriage was for all the right reasons (at the time) but ended after 19 years due to his infidelities. Im fine embracing my wild child and just finding a man to live in a committed but open relationship.
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I am very happily married but don't have to be. I could just live with her and be ok with that and so could she. I married the kindest person ever and would do it again but I believe the legal "certificate" of marriage makes it more difficult for someone too just up and walk away from a relationship. When children involved, doesn't matter, they just need to see and understand how a loving couple treat each other and do things together.
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Just live together
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Survive and replicate is what we are programmed to do. With the growing ability to survive without being attached to another person, marriage is becoming less important.
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I would love to marry someone special but for me I have to much to lose If i remarry I lose my miltary medical plus I would lose my Surving Spouse benefit that I I fought for it took me two years to win and I am not willing to lose that. I can live with a man all i want. The way I look at it you can love someone with out a piece of paper LadyTeddieBear
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