I am a black 30 year old computer programmer. I am 5'10, with nice body and good looks. I am at a point in my life where going out to clubs and bars does not appeal to me. I was in the army and got all that out of my system. I would much rather come home and spend some time enjoying the peace and quiet after a hard days work. Unfortunately this doesn't make it easy to meet women. And the ones I meet are all about games. I am honest and direct and expect the people around me to be the same. I hate having to figur3 people out and play lifes little games I'd rather meet someone i get along with can talk to, who has similiar interest and can be open and honest. that i can hook up with from time to time.

My Ideal Person I am looking for a mature lady (and your age doesn't make you mature) who knows what she wants and is not afraid to ask for it as well give it in return. Someone who is honest and doesn't play games. After all lets be serious we all know what this web site is about you wouldn't be here if you didn't want to have a little adult fun. Clean, safe, reponsible fun between two consenting adults. I don't want some stranger i meet in a parking lot or motel sleep with and never see again. I want someone who is my friend as well as my adultfriend. I want to know how you live, work and play. I'm not trying to wake up with something i can't get rid of. This is about exploring fantasies and all the pleasures sex has to offer without feeling ashamed or embarassed for asking for the things you truly desire. Sometimes you just want to try stuff you've never done before, you may like it you may not but how do you know unless you try it. Being discreet is very important to me as it may be to you. What we do is what we do and it should not be anyone elses business. I don't feel the need to brag or boast. Some things are better when only two people know about them, those are the best secrets. You must be mature, openminded d/d free and ready to explore with a new friend. Respect me and I'll respect you. You may not like everything i say but it will always be the truth and i expect the same.

Tell one of your favorite sexual fantasies. Don't hold back!:
I simply want to have a woman give herself to me totally to do what ever i please. As to the specifics I would just let the aituation dictate. But to have a sex slave for one day or a weekend someone who doesn't know the word NO and no matter what i do would beg for more. Im not interested in hurting her unless its something she wants but just being totally and unconditionally satified

What location do you fantasize about for a sexual encounter?:
A bed

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Candle Wax, Spanking, Role Playing, Slave/Master, Mutual Masturbation, Making Home "Movies", Participating in Erotic Photography, Handcuffs/Shackles, Leather

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Sexual experience, Physical attraction, Same/similar fetishes, Experience in a certain role (top/bottom; master/slave), Ability to be discreet, Open to ménage à trois and/or orgies, Sexual appetite, Willingness to freely discuss and try anything, Agreeable to a commitment free sexual relationship, Creativity/Kinkiness level, A little of each

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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