Update - not much has changed, but I should probably update my profile. Haven't had too much time lately, I'm recovering from a car accident. [B]Note:[/B] I have a female FWB who loves to play with men, women and couples (and more!), and loves to join me for fun times, and can travel with me from time to time. [B]Travel Update 9/11:[/B] Do you like to travel? I'm looking for traveling companion(s) - locally, but also out of the area (Maui, anyone?). I'm interested in a woman or couple who don't like the touristy stuff, wants to get off the beaten path, and loves a new adventure. Let me know and we can meet over coffee or drinks to discuss it. I'm looking for new friends to play with and add to my circle of friends, but also very open to anybody looking for a friend with benefits, fuck buddy, booty call, or whatever. I've been told that I have an above-average sex drive, and all I can say about that is that I love sex. :) I work in Salem and Oregon City, and live in Charbonneau in Wilville. If you live in Salem or Oregon City, I invite you to join me sometime after work while I wait for the traffic to die down before I head home. The job duties require me to travel around the state a lot, in addition to some travel to Washington and Idaho. Let me know if I come to your area and maybe we can get together for drinks or something! I used to have a more comprehensive profile up, but it read more like a bio and I pulled it after several years to update it. I hadn't found the time to really write what I wanted, plus I'm not really the type of per to extol my virtues; I prefer to let people see me as they see me. Having said that, here we go: I enjoy spending time with friends (both lifestyle and vanilla), I enjoy live music (playing and listening), wine tasting, wandering through the countryside, sailing, live theater, cooking, hiking, open wheel racing (I miss CHAMP car, but have been following Indycar, except when they're on ovals), great beer, college football, reading, politics, baseball, and sex. I realized several years ago that one can love more than one per at a time without taking anything from the love one has for another, and I'm quite open with the idea of polyamory. I have several couples and single women that I'm friends with, and we play when we can, privately or at parties. Two or three years ago, I had a relationship with two women for quite awhile and we all slept in the same bed when we were together. One moved away, and the other married her other boyfriend and also moved away. Right now I'm looking to expand my circle of friends and lovers, and I hope that some day I find a woman who is comfortable with being a primary partner with the full understanding that we can both love other people and enjoy all the physical and emotional aspects of them, together or separately. Drop me a line - I respond to all emails, and if it looks like we'll hit it off, we can call and set up a meeting. NOTE: I try to keep my displayed pics pretty current, at least no more than a year or so old (ok, some have been up awhile, but I haven't changed that much except I've been told I'm handsomer). I have recently removed face pics from the main profile page as my position at work is becoming higher profile - they're still available to friends in my network, and I'll be happy to send some to you if asked. More to come. Stay tuned. Come back often. Bookmark the page. Put me in your hot list. Email a clever note.

My Ideal Person Ideal person? Is that realistic? Ok, let's try. In general, I'm looking for people who have the same approach to life as I do, that is, open to new ideas, try something to see what it's like, build on past experiences, enjoy the day, embrace good energy. Some experience in the lifestyle is good, but an open curiosity and inquiring mind is even more important.

Are you still learning things, or have you given up on that? If the former, I'm interested. Are you ever bored? I learned a long time ago that the only people who get bored are boring people.

Age (physical) is not that much of an issue with me, but age (mental) is. If you need to take a bunch of pills and can't get up a flight of stairs without huffing for 15 minutes, then you should probably reevaluate your health, and I am not a doctor. If you are mentally still in junior high school, please take your drama somewhere else.

And drinking? I love a great glass of wine, or a wonderfully crafted beer, and have been known to enjoy a shot of Maker's now and then. I'd enjoy sharing that with you, but if your sole purpose in drinking is to get drunk, then perhaps we won't be a good match.

Women - I prefer women with bodies that are height and weight proportionate. I've tried to get turned on by overweight women, and sorry, it just doesn't work for me. I have many friends who are chubby, but we don't have sex. I'm 6-1 and 175; if you weigh more than me, then I'm sure we can become good friends, but the chance of sex isn't there. I can introduce you to some of my friends that would be interested, however.

Couples - either m/f or f/f couples. Again, the HWP thing is important to some degree. Both halves should be part of a whole, yet fully aware that their partner is an individual.

What are your favorite musicians or bands?:
Pink Floyd, Clapton, Green Day, Santana, Tony Bennet,
and a bunch of others

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Threesomes, Mutual Masturbation, Voyeurism, Massage

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Physical attraction, Willingness to freely discuss and try anything

Ever fantasized about having sex with a celebrity? Who? What turns you on about them?:
No fantasies about celebrities; real people are more fun.

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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