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The Negotiation  

sexyldy1000 68F  
10181 posts
2/7/2019 4:08 am
The Negotiation

She walked through the doorway and stopped in front of him. She was so close, only inches away and he could feel the warmth of her body as her essence filled his nostrils.

“If I tell you that I want you to kiss me, will you?” she asked, looking up into his eyes.

“If you want to kiss me because you are desperate, I’ll take a rain check,” he responded.

“I don’t do rain checks. This is a take-it-or-leave-it offer. And for the record, I have wanted to kiss you long before today.”

“Oh stop it. You are just being emotional,” he requested.

She took a step backwards. “For the record, I am not being emotional. I know exactly what I am doing,” she fired back at him.

“Damn it. Don’t do this,” was his frustrated response.

“Forget it. If you don’t want to go to bed with me, just say so and I promise I will stop bothering you,” she called over her shoulder as she started to walk away.

“Wait! You don’t understand,” he called out to her.

She hesitated and turned around to look at him and said, “What exactly don’t I understand?”

“The future. I simply can’t offer you one.”

“What are you trying to say? Do you have some terrible illness?” she queried.

“No, it’s nothing like that. It’s ….complicated.”

“How complicated? Are you gay?” she asked in disbelief.

“No!”

“Do you have a wife and stashed away somewhere that I don’t know about?” she asked.

“No. Of course not. It’s nothing like that. I have a lousy track record when it comes to relationships. They never last long and it’s always my fault. I don’t want any misunderstandings between us. I can’t make you any promises about a futue.”

“Ah.. So you have commitment issues,” she stated.

“Yes. Something like that,” he admitted.

She thought about it briefly and then nodded once. “Okay.”

“Okay? That’s all you have to say?”

“Yes. I am good with your issues if you are good with mine.”

“Your issues don’t begin to compare to mine,” he warned.

“Oh, so now we are comparing issues?” she accused him.

He stood there shaking his head incredulously. “This isn’t a conversation, it’s a damn negotiation,”

She raised her eyebrows. “Oh really?”

“So let’s get this straight. You would be okay being with me, knowing I have a lousy track record?”

“I will put my lousy track record up against yours anytime,” she said defiantly. “However, it must be monogamous for both of us, while we are involved together,” she stated.

“Agreed,” he immediately responded as he knew he couldn’t bear the thought of her with another man. “Anything else you want to negotiate?”

“Nothing comes to mind. Sounds like we have established the terms and conditions of a relationship.”

“So now what? Are you going to whip out a contract for me to sign?”

“What?” she angrily responded.

“Geez. Talk about taking the romance out of things.”

She hesitated for the briefest of moments. “You started it.” she accused. Her voice was harsh with indignation, anger and yes, maybe even pain.

“Me? You are the one who wanted to compare issues” he shot back. “I can’t believe you are trying to make this my fault.” He moved closer to her. “Damned if I will let you put all the blame on me for this fiasco.”

“First you accuse me of taking all the romance of our relationship and then you call it a fiasco. You are right! Whatever happens between us probably won’t last very long, not at the rate we are going, so I suggest we get started before it fizzles out completely."

She closed the short distance between them, clamped her hands around his shoulders, stood on her tiptoes and kissed him. It was a kiss fueled by the energy that had been charging the atmosphere between them for almost 3 months. It was fueled by frustration, anger and desire.

“To hell with our issues and the future,” he said against her mouth. ”All I care about right now is tonight.”

“Yes. Tonight works for me. It's a start,” was her response.


Would you get involved with someone who couldn't offer any kind of future with you?


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
2/7/2019 4:11 am

Some may think it's a cliché, but honesty really is the best policy.


justl00knatu2 49M
26 posts
2/7/2019 4:30 am

hmmm... i dont know.. guess it would depend on how much i wanted anything at the time


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
2/7/2019 4:43 am

    Quoting  :

Agreed, otherwise it could lead to unexpected surprises, misunderstandings and hurt feelings.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
2/7/2019 4:53 am

    Quoting justl00knatu2:
    hmmm... i dont know.. guess it would depend on how much i wanted anything at the time
Knowing our own boundaries is important.
Thanks for stopping by.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
2/7/2019 9:37 am

    Quoting  :

Is that good or bad?


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
2/7/2019 9:38 am

    Quoting  :

Jack...Thanks 🙏 for stopping by and commenting.


pb889 39M

2/7/2019 9:42 am

Gray post


Tmptrzz 61F  
107039 posts
2/7/2019 9:46 am

What a negotiation there, I don't think I have ever negotiated with someone over a relationship. So glad they worked it out and I have been in relationships that offer no future as we were all just enjoying ourselves but being safe as well. I hope you have a great day hun as this was truly an interesting read this morning..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
2/7/2019 9:58 am

Future...? How does one measure the future? A year, a month, a week.... perhaps a moment? 😶
How about a kiss and we'll take those seconds to the bank.. Let's deposit those few, and see what future, grows from it? 🏦🤔


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
2/7/2019 10:31 am

Really? What is a ‘gray post’? Is it one from a grayscale profile?


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
2/7/2019 10:33 am

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    What a negotiation there, I don't think I have ever negotiated with someone over a relationship. So glad they worked it out and I have been in relationships that offer no future as we were all just enjoying ourselves but being safe as well. I hope you have a great day hun as this was truly an interesting read this morning..
I am glad you enjoyed a different take on things.
Thanks for stopping by.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
2/7/2019 10:38 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Future...? How does one measure the future? A year, a month, a week.... perhaps a moment? 😶
    How about a kiss and we'll take those seconds to the bank.. Let's deposit those few, and see what future, grows from it? 🏦🤔
Having a ‘future’ with someone can mean different things. It’s why honest communication is important to avoid misunderstandings and hurt feelings.


stefanfranka 39M
1 post
2/7/2019 3:49 pm

hello


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
2/7/2019 3:53 pm

Did you have a comment to share about this post?


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
2/7/2019 9:45 pm

Communication is great.. but guarantees?🏦
Please choose the winning lotto Max numbers for me and let's roll. 🔢🍥🍾
What about just playing it one day at a time and enjoying the moment? 🤔⌚
Otherwise.. what.... ? You're in a rush?
Kiss me... I'll tell you where it's going.... after that.. 😘
Ever had a dream where you knew what the ending was, before you closed your eyes and fell asleep ? 👀
Neither have I ..... 🤔
I'm willing to give it a shot. Is that enough for you?


CynicusMaximus 52M
1844 posts
2/8/2019 4:38 am

Honestly?

I have to watch my step constantly.

For some reason, whenever i have told a woman that i am emotionally unavailable. They don't get it, or don't quite believe me and take it as a challenge. Then they find out that i am emotionally available.

So, I'm intrigued by the scenario that you have presented. The tension should be amazing.


mc_justmc 63M

2/8/2019 6:43 am

Lack of a future wouldn't bother me as much as that type of negotiation. That would really be a turn off.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
2/8/2019 8:36 am

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Makes sense. Thanks for sharing your perspective.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
2/8/2019 8:37 am

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Ooh - it's good that your are self-aware. Not everyone is.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
2/8/2019 8:39 am

    Quoting CynicusMaximus:
    Honestly?

    I have to watch my step constantly.

    For some reason, whenever i have told a woman that i am emotionally unavailable. They don't get it, or don't quite believe me and take it as a challenge. Then they find out that i am emotionally available.

    So, I'm intrigued by the scenario that you have presented. The tension should be amazing.
Women like to take you on as a challenge? Really?
Yes I think the tension could go either way.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
2/8/2019 8:40 am

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    Lack of a future wouldn't bother me as much as that type of negotiation. That would really be a turn off.
No doubt it wouldn't be favourable for everyone.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
2/8/2019 8:42 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Communication is great.. but guarantees?🏦
    Please choose the winning lotto Max numbers for me and let's roll. 🔢🍥🍾
    What about just playing it one day at a time and enjoying the moment? 🤔⌚
    Otherwise.. what.... ? You're in a rush?
    Kiss me... I'll tell you where it's going.... after that.. 😘
    Ever had a dream where you knew what the ending was, before you closed your eyes and fell asleep ? 👀
    Neither have I ..... 🤔
    I'm willing to give it a shot. Is that enough for you?
Agree. Sometimes you just have to take a chance and live in the moment. If it was 'meant to be', it will be.


Urban_Dave 56M
3 posts
2/11/2019 1:03 pm

We don't know what the future brings so why not live in the moment?
Through time and experience I would say Yes I could live for the moment. It is something I am trying to do more of theses days. As long as people don't get hurt and you are up front "why the heck not?"

From an early age I was raised to believe in long term goals. Save money, find a nice girl and settle down.
Well I saved money and the nice girl has left.
While long term goals are important; I believe we need to have three objectives:
Short term
Medium term
Long term

Short term goals/ objectives are just as important as long term ones. As long as you remember that they are short term


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
2/11/2019 1:45 pm

    Quoting Urban_Dave:
    We don't know what the future brings so why not live in the moment?
    Through time and experience I would say Yes I could live for the moment. It is something I am trying to do more of theses days. As long as people don't get hurt and you are up front "why the heck not?"

    From an early age I was raised to believe in long term goals. Save money, find a nice girl and settle down.
    Well I saved money and the nice girl has left.
    While long term goals are important; I believe we need to have three objectives:
    Short term
    Medium term
    Long term

    Short term goals/ objectives are just as important as long term ones. As long as you remember that they are short term
More people are realizing the importance to live for the moment and not have any regrets.


_IKanCu2_ 105M

5/7/2019 2:13 pm

When expectation*z are exceeded by stipulation*z .... run.
No one is an island undiscovered.
The Universe would not exist if everything in it did not work with anything else in it.
][t just wouldn't be !
What does not work NOW,,, will LATER.
][n order to get, you have to give.
Very very few truly understand that till they have too !
After all,,, are they not GIVING it their "thought" ?

A journey start*z with that first step, until that second foot move*z , it is nowhere.




sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
5/7/2019 2:22 pm

    Quoting _IKanCu2_:
    When expectation*z are exceeded by stipulation*z .... run.
    No one is an island undiscovered.
    The Universe would not exist if everything in it did not work with anything else in it.
    ][t just wouldn't be !
    What does not work NOW,,, will LATER.
    ][n order to get, you have to give.
    Very very few truly understand that till they have too !
    After all,,, are they not GIVING it their "thought" ?

    A journey start*z with that first step, until that second foot move*z , it is nowhere.


Thanks for stopping by and sharing your unique viewpoint.


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