( I change the lyrics of this song from being a "poor boy" to poor Joy" for this post.)
Being the Lone parent now and Mother of the Groom after his Dad's death, it is my responsibility to foot the bill for a few things in regards to the wedding itself..
Things I could not nor can afford at all due to travel costs, and expenses for three weeks while there for his wedding. Things if split with his Dad I possibly could have prior his death.. I have saved up some money to help with their Honey Moon and/or whatever they decide to use it for though..
My heart is breaking at not being able to afford any other Financial responsibilities for my Son's ( Grooms) upcoming wedding, especially since his Dad's death..Has me kind of wishing that there was no "Yes To The Dress" and the two of them happy enough to just Live together avoiding all expenses..
Here are a few things that parents of the Groom are normally responsible to pay for. Ones this Mother Of The Groom can not afford at all, being the Lone parent and one who lives over 3,000 kilometers away..
What Does the Groom's Family Traditionally Pay for at a Wedding?
According to traditional etiquette, the groom's family is responsible for paying for the bride's rings, the groom's and groomsmen's attire, the rehearsal dinner, gifts for the groomsmen, some personal flowers, the officiant's fee, the marriage license fee, certain aspects of transportation, and the honeymoon. This list can be cut or expanded based on the couple's preferences and financial situations.
Not being able to help my son financially with his wedding other than what I have saved without his Father any more and being able to split all expenses and costs for our oldest son's special day, has left this poor Joy heartbroken..
So: both Fathers of the Bride and Mother's of The Groom when you have lost your ex, and are the Lone parent and can not afford paying for much of it, due to circumstances like possibly my own..
What do you do? What did you do????
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There is a big difference in refusing to pay and not being able to pay. Just your raising a nice young man for her should be good enough. And I bet they understand. Try to not feel bad about it. The greatest gift a mom can give is a good man for his bride. And being a great Mother in law.
Thanks for that. I felt so bad, yet they both understood so all is well. I am so looking forward to being there for the wedding.Thanks for sharing your thoughts..xoxo
Yeeeees it's good to know old joy.. yes perfect
Thanks Hun..xoxo
This was my favorite Queen album, went a bit to commercial after this one for me. But they always were a great band.
It was mine too Raven.. We both have great taste in music I say..xoxo
@author51 Seems that way.
Both my daughters refused to let me pay for anything for their weddings. They both contented that I had spent so much on their education and all that went with it. They both were very successful with great incomes. They are special girls. One 47 and other 45 text me good morning each day and goodnight each evening with Love You attached. I fell so blessed.
Your daughters are so very blessed to have you for their Dad Hun and kudos to them for doing what they did..They obviously love you so very much..xoxo
Queen always very good, first marriage, groom family did not pay anything mom and dad were separating, bride family paid for reception, bride paid for gown and both paid for license and testing, 2nd marriage groom dad dead, groom mom did not attend, bride family paid for reception, bride and groom paid for testing and license
Wow Hun. In my opinion if it was the second time around the couple themselves should have paid for it all..xoxo
@author51 2nd time, engagement and wedding ring cash check and charge by both, reception was small and held in a condo complex clubhouse, sandwiches & such, with a donated cake
In the US the grooms parents do not pay for many of the things on the list you posted. The rehearsal dinner is the big one. Depending on families....there could some expenses paid but nothing like your list.
And the rehearsal dinner is not something I can afford at all.. Luckily my son does not want me paying for anything at all. As long as I am there for him, that was his only concern..xoxo
If they know you can’t afford it they should not be expecting you to pay for much , the should be happy enough just having you there. Everything else is just stuff…. It doesn’t make the marriage. Xoxoxo
Thanks Hun. Happily my son does not want me to pay for anything and that as long as I am there, that is all he needs..xoxo
looking good Joy 40 yrs ago I hope he appreciated you have fun and don't sweat it. I'm sure both of them understand it.
Thanks Hun. Wish I looked like that now still..xoxo
@author51 your like a fine wine very smooth and spicy and can't dink enoygh of you. mmmm
@moonbeam1 Thanks my sexy moon..xoxo
Wow... Weddings are expensive when you think about it.
Perhaps that's why many people skip the ceremony, the reception, the gifts, the DJ, the rental hall, the formal wear and the flowers... and go straight for the honeymoon. Disposable income for both the "couple" and their guests ain't what it once was.
Or they just live together until it barely matters anymore.
Especially if they're not sure if they want kids: it's all about being in love, isn't it?
Times sure have changed. 💕
... seven thousand dollars for a dress she wears ONCE in her life... WOW... 😲
I know eh! I have no idea why people pay that much for something they are only going to wear once. Yes weddings have gotten pricey compared to the days we got married..xoxo
Me and my parents in 1985 who flew those 3,000 kilometers on my own B.C. wedding day from Ontario, knowing the travel costs and expenses were pricey even back then.. More so now in 2025, 40 years later. My wedding dress was "Free" by the way. Being the Bride myself way back when and how far they traveled to be there neither myself or my ex, who is the father of our three children and our son getting married now, had no other expectation of financial responsibilities from our parents at all, other than in this Brides case at the time, just arriving for our wedding..
Those are touching and beautiful pictures of a happy time for you. I know you cherish the memories. 🤗💕
@Paulxx001 Thanks Hun. I sure do cherish them..xoxo
@mufdiver69er2 Congrats to your brother Hun and hope it works out for him..xoxo