If you'd like to leave me a message - maybe something that's off topic from the blog post du jour - you can do it here. Just be aware that whatever you say is going to be visible to anyone who pops in here.
If you're a gold member you can leave a message on this post: Message Box that will remain private.
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I'm an exhibitionist. I want everyone to see everything I do, hear everything i say and read everything I write. What you gonna do about that AFF? Maybe not quite as smart as you think you are.
I suppose the private posts were shut down because they thought people were using them to arrange meetings. Maybe some people did, but that was less than 1% of the activity in mine.
Oh to be gold. The FREE kind in your case I presume.
Yes, I have an Icebreaker membership. Sometimes I feel like I should give it up in solidarity. It’s not like I’m actively trying to meet people.
@smartasswoman Nahh, men around here are used to being treated like the dime a dozen we are.
Hey I’m in north Myrtle beach im down to see u
Yeah, no.
Hello, hope you're okay McSmarts!
I left a comment on your Japan post, received an alert to say you'd replied, as had Spunky, but the post seems to have disappeared.
Even worse though, both of Spunky's posts disappeared, and now he seems to have gone too!!!!
I also put a post up hours ago, still no sign of it in the feeds.
Some absolute nonsense seems to go on in the community these days.
Hope all's well in your part of the world.
Slainte. . . .
Looks like my first reply to you was denied, sorry!
Looks like any posts in support of the land of the rising sun are getting 🪓
Indeed! MyBaffies does have one that still seems to be up, with no links to anything and comments turned off.
@smartasswoman Yes, I noticed that. Everyone else’s no matter where it was posted have disappeared. Silence is not golden.
Why not just use your own chat room? You can chat real time and also clear the content whenever you want?
Yeah maybe...wouldn't you still have to "make a date" somehow letting the person know when you'll be going in there?
One of things I like about this is you don't have to be in here at the same time as the person you're messaging with.
@smartasswoman Why would it be a date? You can post your hours and then anyone can drop in and have a conversation. You can share pictures in there too. The ‘clear room’ feature clears the content so it’s no longer viewable by all. Otherwise, I agree with a previous comment that what you are proposing is no different than a blog post.
@sexyldy1000 I'm sure that would work for some people but I'm not willing to commit to chat room hours. 😊
@smartasswoman You can change the hours whenever you want. It seems many people are following the same trend and promoting their 'not-so-private mailbox'. Folks will find whatever loopholes they think are necessary.
I'm guessing the recent restriction the site implemented was put in with the reasoning in mind that women meeting certain criteria always have the option to sign up for the Icebreaker so they won't be affected.
Instead of limiting private messaging, they should've just blocked access to the blogs and groups to Standards levels 4 and below. That way, the feed won't be flooded with the "hmu" or scammer posts. Of course, Golds would get access from day one.
If this was to be a 'Social Site for Adults,' as someone originally envisioned, preventing anyone from entering — who is not gold — crushes inclusivity. Our tastes are managed by the 'block' or 'hide' buttons.
Perhaps the site could do a better job splitting 'flavours' before we have to press any additional keys.
I don’t get how that would work - how would anyone ever GET to level 4 if they’re blocked from using blogs and groups from the get-go?
Or are you suggesting that they could read and comment, but not be able to post until they get to level 4?
@smartasswoman
I probably had the old Kudos system in mind.
I suppose they'll need to be able to read and comment to up their levels.
Well, you popped in and clicked the green "check-mark" back at MY place, so that means you made it out of there and are now conscious and lucid. Yay for you. 🤗
I won't ask how it went. I have heard from others that it is quite the memorable experience. 😶
The important thing is that they didn’t find anything. Clean bill of health. 😊 You haven’t ever had a colonoscopy? You’re past due. Screening guidelines used to be to get first one at age 50. I think now they advise at age 45.
Hola, espero estés bien, apenas te leí un poco y note congruencia. Eso me agrada, si algún día quieres parlar de cualquier cosa quizás proceda. Solo escribe, saludos chinos.
Hiya I'm new hiya all
Hey baby
Ya know- I just want to say that I was hoping for more from this website, so I'm trying to explore more of it's features. That's how I found you- the Smartasswoman. I'm hoping for people who might like to chat- to say hello, or share a comment, and I guess this is one place to do it. It's hard to be constantly alone with your thoughts, things go 'round and 'round and I feel like it's easy to spiral when you don't have input from others. So many topics are "taboo" in the office, or in public, even amongst friends- so where do you go to say you're lonely, you're horny, you're frustrated and starting to get a bit down about the entire situation? I want to scream! Doesn't anyone want to walk, share smile, kiss like teenagers and play dress up- and by dress up I just mean pick out something you feel good wearing and go someplace fancy, but a pair of silky lounge pants and a Mexican sombrero would be fun too, in the right environment and with pleasant company. I'm just in a bad place in my head right now, and I need to get outside myself somehow, find some truthful interactions. The only truth I seem to get these days is "You can't say things like that to people"... and "no, I don't feel like talking".
I’m sorry the site hasn’t worked out the way you wished - unfortunately that’s pretty common. The ratios are very skewed. There are many more men than women interested in casual sex and/or horny chatting.
If you’re getting the response of “you can’t say things like that to people “ maybe you’re trying to push the envelope too quickly?
@smartasswoman I guess it was more of a rant- I'm quite reserved in public. I'm actually a very responsible person who is dealing with life changes, and it's hard. Primary point I wanted to make is that, when you're alone in an echo camber, all the thoughts are your own. Interactions are very important for maintaining one's sanity. Thanks for replying- it's the nicest thing anyone said to me today.
(Not sure why but this comment was rejected in your other posting place.) Well I went to my second FetLife meeting last night. This one was the MN FemDom Collective monthly meeting. It was to be an educational meeting but they decided at the last minute to make it just a meet and greet. I went with a friend who has some interest in and experience in kink. That was good and bad I suppose. My friend is more the extrovert so he asked all kinds of questions and engaged in good conversation with the three doms at the table, one of whom was trans. The negative was that I didn't say too much being the introvert in the group. I suspect that it will make it harder for me learn what I want to know and harder to meet someone to explore with. My partner did ask about other venues in town and there was some discussion about Kinky Fridays which I believe is at the Gay 90's. We will maybe check that out next month. One thing for sure is that going to these meetings has certainly opened my mind to the variety of sensuality in the world.
That's great that you're still reaching out. Yes, it is more challenging to make connections as an introvert. For me it helped to volunteer to do some moderator tasks. It forces me to get to munches haha! Otherwise I'd be all too prone to bail at the last minute.
I messaged you this morning here on AFF. I phope you received it.
Smartasswoman, I tried to put a long post in your private blog space and it was rejected. Just wondering if AFF rejected it or you rejected it because I was being somehow dumb or inappropriate? If the latter, I apologize. If the former, I might try again. Thanks. Red
I didn’t reject it, so it must not have made it past the reviewers - sorry!
I'm a very cheeky man, so I I would love to see you with your smart ass?
You say the same to everyone
Everyone is beautiful, in their own way.
Hello again have not posted to you in a year ( in the now only gold members area) but do have few questions.
BTW am curious and am not asking if you need FWB in this contact.
One question is where did you get that Wonder Woman outfit?
I was going to a party where the theme was "cosplay" so I just did a lot of browsing on Amazon and separately found a blue skirt with white stars, and a tank top with Wonder Woman logo.
So looking for company
But you are in Kentucky and I’m in Minnesota.
This is the one on top. Hope that helped
Hiii can you tell. me if my dick is small or not??
Smartasswoma u online
Hi. Just hi really. A flying visit - no time to read what everyone has been up to, but I wanted to let you know I am still around. Hope all is well with you. I don't see Spunky anywhere - has he deleted? What happened, do you know?
Love, Dreamer
I do know, but it would be difficult to give very many details without it being removed by reviewers.
I'll try to figure something out. Maybe give you some points which you could then use to read a message from me?
OR, if you would be able to let me know a time when you think you could be online here, you could pop into my "private chatroom" on my blog and I can fill you in.
@smartasswoman We'll arrange something, or I will reply as per your other message
@hotdreamer1000 Sounds good. 😊
Hello smartasswoman, I was trolling around and had noticed your blog. Not sure what intrigued me the most, your user name or your picture. Any way reading your opening post I couldn't help but see that you say your into BDSM. Of course you did not say if your a mistress or submissive. My curiosity comes from the fact that I keep getting e-mails from young ladies wanting to be either my mistress or my slave. Before you laugh to quick I do know that there trying to scam me. But this does spark my curiosity, is the BDSM community that large and why. Do you get a kind of pleaser from being the user or the used. Can you please enlighten me on the subject.
Those are too many questions to answer in a blog comment. I suggest you go to my main blog page, find the search icon (a spyglass) and search on the word kink. You'll get a lot of posts that I've written about my activities.
So sexuall