Up until now I had only ever attended one swinger party. Long, long, ago! It was somewhat of a comedy of errors and I never really had the desire to repeat the experience.
Swinging - The Rest of the Story
Meanwhile, about a month ago I attended a meeting for group leaders in the kink community. We get together every couple months or so and chat about any issues that might currently be percolating, we network, give each other support and advice, etc. During the introductions one of the attendees said that she hosts swinger parties at her house, including some all male parties. I went up and introduced myself after the meeting and said that I might be putting my partner in touch with her.
HWD is bi (can't remember if I've ever mentioned that) and as part of our open relationship he has a hall pass to hook up with men, although he rarely has the time to take advantage of it. As it happened the host I met was having an all male party while I was going to be in NYC, which seemed convenient. So I passed the info on to him and he ended up going and having a reasonably good time.
We were looking at her profile earlier this week and noticed she was having a party for bi people. He seemed somewhat interested in going. I paused and said, "I'll go with you if you want". He said "Really? I thought you weren't into that." I said, "I'm not, but it might be fun to see you interacting with a guy". He was surprised and pleased and we made plans.
We made it there just as the hostess was explaining house rules. It was quite crowded. I immediately felt the desire to go into my shell when confronted with a house full of rowdy people. We listened to the house rules and then I dithered over what kind of name tag to put on. The options were:
Blue - only want to hook up with men
Pink - only want to hook up with women
Green - pan, will hook up with any gender
Yellow - only here to watch, or interact with my partner
I was leaning toward yellow but decided I wouldn't be averse to at least making out with a woman, so I went with pink. I knew chances were slim since it was a younger crowd, and more men than women.
HWD is not at all shy so he almost immediately went down to the basement to check out an improvised glory hole they had set up down there. I followed a little while later and found him putting a condom on, while another guy waited for him behind the screen. The guy behind the screen was very tall and thin and wearing a pink latex schoolgirl dress.
So, we kind of went back and forth between hanging out together, vs him going off to have little encounters with men while I chatted with people. I went upstairs a couple of times and no one was using the bedrooms. So I suggested to HWD - "Maybe we could go up and roll around a bit together and see if we can get things going?"
We started getting undressed but then the moderator wanted us to put a "puppy pad" on the bed which felt weird, so we kept our underwear on. HWD got on top of me and was doing some grinding but eventually he did want to take off his boxer briefs so we put the pad down and I started sucking him. Meanwhile, we were getting an audience on and off. One fellow boldly stepped up and asked if he could participate - he ended up standing by the side of the bed while HWD fondled him. Eventually I stopped sucking and put the guy's hand on HWD's cock. HWD seemed really turned on by the situation. I looked up and an older guy who I had chatted with earlier was standing at the end of the bed jerking off. That I wasn't so crazy about, but whatever.
HWD reached one of his non-ejaculatory climaxes and asked the guy if he could take a break, at which point he thanked us and disappeared. HWD and I looked at each other and he said, "Well, that was different!"
I had brought my strap-on harness and dildo, but it just didn't seem like the vibe at this party? In fact, as we were driving home we realized that we didn't see anyone fucking. We had arrived at 7:45 and left at 10:30 so it seemed like it should have been happening by then? I'm kind of tempted to email the hostess and ask "did anyone ever fuck last night?" but of course I won't.
I still don't think this is really my thing, but I think I should get some brownie points for trying something different.
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Cool post! I’ve always liked the idea of color codes: on a necklace, a bracelet, or even a naughty little anklet, to show what you're up for and what you're offering. It's such a clever way to cut through the small talk at parties where half the fun is not knowing who you’ll end up with
I agree that it’s nice to have a shortcut! Then there’s a lot less of people being bothered by someone who they’re not interested in.
Definitely deserve brownie points for being a supportive partner and stepping out of your comfort zone. I have several things in the never say never category, but I'm generally not looking to expand my horizons much. We've only ever been to one house party and it was ok, but it really hit home afterwards how much I don't really like the idea of sharing my husband even though he quite likes sharing me. I did find I am very comfortable with being watched and wouldn't have been phased by someone jerking off watching although mildly rude for him not to ask for permission based on my understanding of the "usual" rules of such things.
I understand feeling that way about your husband. With HWD, interestingly I don't feel threatened by him interacting with other men - I think because for him that is a purely physical thing and he doesn't usually feel romantic attraction to men. But I think I would feel insecure if he ended up hooking up with a woman at one of these parties. Maybe it would be OK if I were involved too, a threesome situation.
Awesome story! Id like to get my partner on board with it.
Kudos for supporting HWD and acknowledging that it’s not really your thing.
Thanks 😊
It's interesting to hear your adventures and reassuring to hear that age doesn't have to have barriers to new experiences.
I'm not gonna lie, I think it is somewhat of a barrier. It was a mixed crowd but I was probably one of the oldest people there. If I had been interested in finding hookups, it may have been challenging. Then again, there are a lot of guys who probably wouldn't say no to any NSA offer, even from a woman 20 years older than them.
Whereas, the older guy I chatted with for a while was complaining that he'd been attending parties for a couple of months and nothing was happening for him, nada. He was putting it off to there being so many more men than women but I'm sure being an old guy doesn't help either.
@smartasswoman That's a fair point, what we need is a special event.
Yes, you certainly earned your brownie points. I'm sure HWD appreciated your efforts, too. It's weird that you never saw anybody actually fucking, tho.
I probably would've gone with the yellow badge in that situation since it was a room full of strangers. But, I definitely would have enjoyed my partner having fun with another dude.
Yes, it effectively turned out to be a yellow badge situation anyway. 😊
INTERESTING - and HOT. And NO, can't recall you ever mentioning this aspect of HWD.
Good lesson for everyone really. A little adventurous streak and it all worked out.
LOL, funny that you found this hot. I was glad that I checked it out - if nothing else I have an idea of what he'll be doing if he goes to more parties on his own (although he did give me a very full blown account of what happened at the men's party he went to).
@smartasswoman Perhaps not to you directly, but I've long said that there is not much I WON'T do if it is suggested/requested/encouraged by a lady who is participating, or at least watching.
Now be honest, did his account of the doings at the men's party turn you on, or just appeal to your intellectual side?
@CleavageFan4U answering honestly, the party account didn’t really turn me on but I was glad he shared. I thought perhaps seeing the action in person would be a turn - on, but here’s even more brutal honesty - none of the guys he connected with was as attractive as HWD (with possible exception of the pink latex guy - he was good looking but his dress killed my lady boner haha!).
@smartasswoman Fair enough.
I would need a 2 color badge - yellow and pink. Having other people sort of participating in the action or wanting to just join in, puts me off. I am not at all comfortable with strangers. A friend maybe but not strangers. Thats the yellow badge part of me. I will watch but I am not the floor show.
If a good female friend is there, some making out is awesome. I would also make out and do some petting with a male friend but not if people are going to gather around.
First party I attended, there was a guy who wanted to jack off watching one of my GFs. No big deal. Until he leaned in and ejaculated on her and her partner. That's a big No for me. No stange body fluids. And technically he broke the house rules by doing it. But once it is done, it's done.
You get major brownie points for going. More brownie points for participating.
I don't really mind people watching me - I guess I have a bit of an exhibitionistic side. The guy who asked to join - at least he was respectful about it, but technically he was breaking a party rule. The hostess spelled it out pretty specifically that people should not interrupt things to ask to join, they should wait to be invited. That said, I knew HWD would be into it so I wasn't going to make a thing out of it.
As for the guy who ejaculated on your GF and her partner - RUDE!!
Qudos for trying. We are all different. I have attended a few parties, had a great time and met some friendly people, but I have found a 3some or 4some more to my taste. Even better if the other peoples are an ongoing thing. The better you know them, the more people will relax and enjoy the experiance.
Never say Never is a good thing to keep in mind when it comes to sex and many other things in life. I understand you not finding it to have been your thing but you do get plenty of brownie points from me for checking it out.
Sending you big naked hugs and may you have a great summer with plenty of sex and other sensual experiences.
Thank you.
Yes, I like the idea of summer being for the senses.
@smartasswoman Sadly, too many people think of sensual being mainly about sex. While I admit sex is very much about the sensual that word covers all of the senses and in so many non-sexual contexts. In that context, both spring and summer are very much about the senses.
Sending you big hugs just because you know all of the meanings of sensual.
You get some brownie points from me.
I know all swingers parties are different, but at my parties things were quiet on the fucking front until about 10pm. Until then everyone just chatted, ate and drank.
I'm guessing you had some regulars at your parties who already knew each other, which probably helped with getting the action going. I think most people aren't really up for having random sex with someone you just said hello to for the first time, so it makes sense that a couple of hours is needed for people to chat and get to know each other a bit.
@smartasswoman I did have many regular couples attending which certainly helped things along. A hot tub helped too.
Yes, swingers parties can be interesting, Went to one with a partner, we were having sex in one of the bedrooms and a guy came in with a pierced cockhead. We were not interested and both of us commented about the viability of a condom on the pierced cockhead later on
I think that concern was wise on your parts!
I go away for a couple weeks and there you go collecting stickers. Sounds like an interesting party. Glad you and HWD could do it together.
I didn't realize that I get a sticker for going to a sex party!
like the post too.i have not done that befor but want too
Nice story we have not been to a swinger party in about ten years. Moving to Delray Beach Florida snd hoping to find a nice group for a bi orgy
Good luck!
@smartasswoman thanks
You are a good sport to have gone with HWD.
Stickers to hide your identity yet they didn't blur the mirror in the photo.
I did try to blur it when I edited the photo, using the “lens blur” effect in Snapseed, but I guess not enough. Maybe this will be another short shelf life photo….