You may have thought it was all over, but during some routine tidying up of files saved on my computer I noticed that I had forgotten to post about girlfriend #15. She shares a first name with the three famous women shown in the photos above and below.
I met girlfriend #15 while I was working at the University of Portsmouth; I was a lecturer and she was a researcher. We didn't work together but she did share an office with one of my researchers so we gradually got to know each other during my very regular visits to their office.
After one visit when my researcher wasn't around, I asked girlfriend #15 whether she wanted a drink as it well after 5pm. She agreed. We walked to a nearby pub and stayed there chatting and drinking until last orders, 11pm. I then asked whether she wanted to come back to my place. She said yes.
Drunkenly we walked back to my home, about a 15-minute walk. After fixing each other a drink, we carried on chatting in my lounge. But the conversation was getting sexually charged. I started to take my clothes off. As soon as he saw my cock, she made a beeline to it and started to lick and suck my cock. I still vividly remember her look and then intent to play with my cock. Very soon we went upstairs to my bedroom and had lots of sex. She was having a period so there was a lot of blood on my sheets in the morning.
The next morning I asked for her phone number which she readily gave me. We saw each other probably about three times a week for the next three years. The sex was fantastic, or at least from where I was standing.
We made up our own game, called VKS (short for very kinky sex), based on the hangman game which we used to play in a pub. At the end of the evening, we'd go back to my house to re-enact the winning fantasy scenario, which was usually my scenario. The sex would involve lots of oral sex, vaginal sex and anal sex, plus plenty of blindfolding, bondage, nipple clamps, ball weights and spanking by hand, paddle or crop.
As well as spending many dirty weekends in Amsterdam, we'd also spend long weekends in a BDSM-styled cottage called Ess and Emm in a village in the English county of Warwickshire. At the self-catering cottage, our favourite accessories were the spanking bench and St Andrew's cross. The spanking bench was well used for licking, sucking, fingering, fucking and, of course, spanking. loved being tied to the St Andrew's cross while girlfriend #15 used ball weights on me, and she loved being tied to the cross while I flogged her voluptuous breasts.
Sex with girlfriend #15 was magical, probably the best sex I've ever had with someone. Though we were very sexually compatible, we weren't necessarily romantically compatible. Our relationship was distinctly unromantic. She had met my parents, and I had met her mother and brother - her father had died before we got together. We didn't behave like a boyfriend and girlfriend. We never showed any public displays of affection, we never talked about our feelings for each other, and we never planned a future together.
Though we rarely talked about our relationship, I assumed that we we weren't in an exclusively relationship. I certainly had sex with other women while seeing girlfriend #15 and, off the grapevine, I heard that she had sex with other men while seeing me. Rather than having a mature conversation about the terms of our relationship and agree to have a non-exclusive relationship, we just sidestepped the issue by not asking any questions to each other and not telling each other who we were having sex with. At the time, the ambiguity suited me as I didn't want to commit myself to girlfriend #15 in an exclusive relationship. I suspect girlfriend #15 felt the same way.
Towards the end of our relationship, we must have had a break of seeing each other, girlfriend #15 started dating one of my friends and colleagues who was clearly smitten with her. During a one Friday night out where many of my colleagues would attend after work. they were both there. I don't think I was jealous but I wasn't happy about the situation. I texted girlfriend #15 during proceedings and asked whether she would come back to my place that night. She texted back to say yes. We had sex that night and she then called things off with my friend. We then started seeing each other regularly but sex, at least for me, was the agenda. At this stage, I started to think girlfriend #15 wanted more commitment from me. I was torn as I quite enjoyed the ambiguity of our relationship.
However, the relationship with girlfriend #15 became strained soon after for at least two reasons. First, girlfriend #15 became pregnant. Now I wasn't going to play the 'prove-I'm-the-father-card' as I accepted on the balance of probabilities that I probably was. This was the third time that a girlfriend of mine got pregnant, I felt quite experienced about my response. Like the the past two times, I said it was girlfriend #15's decision whether to have the baby or not and that I would do my bit in supporting the child if she chose to have the baby, but that I couldn't commit myself to her on the basis of her choosing to have the baby. Reading what I just wrote back and looking back, I feel I was probably a little heartless or at least a little clinical.
And second and probably foremost, I moved from Portsmouth to Nottingham with a change of job. Though we saw each other a few times both in Portsmouth and Nottingham, the relationship, albeit an ambiguous one, never really survived that move. One time when I went back to Portsmouth, we met up for a drink and I asked her back to my place. She said no as she had just met someone special. That left me a little flabbergasted though I readily accepted her answer as I knew deep down that I didn't or couldn't give her what she wanted.
Have you ever had an ambiguous relationship not knowing whether it's inclusive or exclusive?
Have you worked out the first name of girlfriend #15?
I tried to keep in touch with girlfriend #15 while I was in Nottingham, but it was clear that she had moved on from me. She didn't reply to my texts wanting a game of VKS when I was down in Portsmouth and texts asking her to spend a weekend with me at the Ess and Emm cottage, roughly halfway between Nottingham and Portsmouth. The last I heard off the grapevine is that she married that special man. On hearing that news, it told me that I needed to move on myself.
I apologise to those who may have read this post on a very reputable blogging platform.
For links to previous blog posts about my girlfriends, see the first comment below.
It's all over now unless there is demand for me to write about girlfriends #3, #4, #10, #18 and #30, for which I will presume there isn't such demand!
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My guess: GIRLFRIEND #15 name is Ursula for Ursula Andress.
I can see where you're coming from. It's Catherine after Catherine Deneuve in the first photo.
Thanks for stopping by.
Really love the lingerie and stockings, and that Waspie in the last photo is stunning!
I'm pleased you liked the photos. Thanks for stopping by.
Most of my relationship ambiguous. Always assumed they also doing it elsewhere. And they thought you had finished 😂 keep going with the other ones,you vks dude.
I'd love top play another game of VKS!
@spunkycumfun after being on this site found am pretty much white bread
@bignicktx There's nothing wrong with white bread.
Am I the only one thinking you should've been more careful years ago? You got 3 girlfriends pregnant? How many children do you have out there? (Not being mean, just curious.) I've been married since I was 18 years old, and have been in the "Hotwife" lifestyle for years. One time, a guy fell head over heels for me, and I almost made a huge mistake. When I told him about a 3some I had at a biker rally, he was furious. He wanted me all to himself, but I know he was getting sex from other women. One of them tried coming after me on this site. It was messy. He was an idiot.
I have no children out there. In all three times, I practiced safe sex. The choice to terminate was made by the woman and if she chose to have the baby I would have financially supported the child.
love the panties and pussy hair showing
That's Catherine Deneuve.
I have never had this type of relationship but reading about it somewhat lets me live it vicariously through you.
Looking back it was one of my more successful relationships in terms of longevity.
My first inclination was to reply that I don't recall ever having an ambiguous relationship. But really, the more I thought about it, there were many "fuck buddies" that I kinda adored (and still do even though we're no longer sexual), some that I think adored me, but there was never any discussion of any of this.
Lot of sex, and fairly kinky, I'm not sure I'd let Catherine go!!
I do hold certain regrets about how my relationship with Cath fizzled out, but I don't think I was prepared to commit to her. She had a fierce temper when angry.
You have had some very interesting girlfriends, and most of them have been very sexual. I am sorry once again that this one didn't work out either. I haven't guessed her name as I don't recognize the ladies in your photos.
I hope you enjoy a wonderful weekend..
Catherine is her name.
Catherine? VKS is always a lot of fun! Your relationship with Catherine was really complex from the beginning, maybe too much so? Perhaps one of you, or both, feared commitment? If it's already difficult to understand one's own feelings sometimes, it's even more challenging to understand the relationships of others. In my case, although I've had sexual relationships with many men (I think they are comparatively many), I've only been in love with two and married to one. That's why my life is varied from a sexual point of view but quite simple sentimentally. Yours seems to have been much more complex. in both aspects.
Catherine is correct.
Commitment was definitely an issue for me at the time, and maybe for Cath too though we didn't talk about our relationship much.
SEXY 😍
She is sexy.
This blog post is part of a series of posts on the 31 girlfriends (including two wives) I've had - see my GIRLFRIEND 1, GIRLFRIEND 2, GIRLFRIEND 5, GIRLFRIEND 6, GIRLFRIEND 7, GIRLFRIEND 8, GIRLFRIEND 9, GIRLFRIEND 11, GIRLFRIEND 12, GIRLFRIEND 13, GIRLFRIEND 14, GIRLFRIEND 16, GIRLFRIEND 17, GIRLFRIEND 19, GIRLFRIEND 20, GIRLFRIEND 21, GIRLFRIEND 22, GIRLFRIEND 23, GIRLFRIEND 24, GIRLFRIEND 25, GIRLFRIEND 26, GIRLFRIEND 27, GIRLFRIEND 28, GIRLFRIEND 29 and GIRLFRIEND 31 blog posts. I readily accept that my view of a girlfriend is different to others - see my GIRLFRIENDS AND BOYFRIENDS blog post.