When I first started on this site, I never thought I'd have to resort to blocking anyone. I stupidly thought that I can deal with all sorts. But my naivety was soon shattered. There were members who were just repeatedly rude and offensive in their mailings. They were the first type of members I blocked.
When I started blogging, I didn't again naively expect to block members other than for reasons that they were repeatedly rude and offensive to me. How wrong I was. I started to block members for being misogynist, racist, fascist and those who just peddle hatred about certain groups of people without regard for the individuals of that group.
But it didn't stop there. Though I very much enjoy blogging, my enjoyment soon dips when I come across members who play mind games for their entertainment. Yes, I'm talking about trolling.
I've now started to block members who I find annoying. I never expected to do this. But blogging is a voluntary activity that should be a positive experience for the person blogging. If it's not a positive experience, then in my book it's better to block those members who turn it into a negative experience.
What are your reasons for blocking members on this site?
How many members have you blocked on this site?
How do deal with the trolls?
Since joining this site in 2008, 16 years ago, I've blocked about 30 members. Perhaps I'm not so intolerant!
I'm not good at dealing with trolls. I know the best advice is not to feed the trolls but I can't help myself sometimes.
Yet again perhaps naively, I compare online behaviour to offline behaviour. I realise that online communication, despite the ever increasing number of emojis available, can never be as tuned as offline communication. How can online communication match the tone of a voice, the look of a face, the gesture of a body and the immediacy of a conversation of offline conversation? But I naively hope offline norms of communication are the norms of online communication. I am quite naïve sometimes.
But since joining this site, I've become less tolerant. Though I'm a liberal and try hard to be tolerant of difference provided no harm is done, a liberal's weakness is how they deal with those who are illiberal and intolerant. Intolerant blocking is my answer here.
I know those blocked members can come back in another reincarnation and, even if blocked, through a back door passage into the site.
Below is a poll where you can anonymously indicate the reasons why you block members, whether on the Dating or the Community side, or both. Multiple selections are allowed for the poll.
I don't quite understand the site requires you to block a member both on the Dating and Community side of the site for them to be well and truly blocked. I feel the site should take online safety more seriously and if a member wants to block someone for whatever reason then there's no need to make them jump through two hoops. One hoop is surely enough!
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For other, they sent dick pics in the initial message or they didn't get the hint when I ignored their messages and they keep sending one-liners.
I think I've blocked over 5000 in my 15 years here
I though you are the blocking queen of the site. Over 5,000 is an incredible and a very creditable achievement.
@spunkycumfun
Most were probably from the days when I basically lived in the Japan chat room.
@JN63JPN That chat room sounded wild!
You left out one of my largest categories of people blocked - “they left a dick picture in a comment on my blog”.
I forgot that reason!
I've started blocking men who write very vulgar messages describging what they want to do to me. Very often it's the first and very last contact I have with them.
That sounds like a smart move.
Other= They have a dick pic as their main profile pic. This means, every time they view our profile, their DICK is back at the top of our "viewed me" list! We can't just remove their offensive pic from our "viewed me" list, all we can do is block them so they don't keep showing up. Some are really cool people and we don't want to block them but we don't want to see their dick or asshole anymore either! Straight husband's/straight men and most women/wives DON'T WANT TO SEE YOUR DICK! Without any other options, we have to block them.
I should have included a dick pic as a poll option, my mistake.
@spunkycumfun Yes, the dick picture as a profile is a no right off. most only have dick pictures close ups???? He replied, well you show your goodies. My reply, I do not do close ups and I have my whole body without my face now due to people like you. There is a difference.
@RavenMoon696 I never understand why heterosexual men lead with unsolicited dick pics as it's well known that most women don't like them.
@spunkycumfun Maybe because they ugly with no personality. LOL
@spunkycumfun I do understand why people don't want to show their face, just for the record.
@RavenMoon696 It's their choice.
@spunkycumfun Work has a lot to do with it also.
@RavenMoon696 Very true.
Do you remember why people come to this site? And you are offended by a picture of a cock????
@BiTxn4Cock people come here for many reasons, not just for sex and definitely not for unsolicited dick pics. Yes, I get offended by people sending us a pic of their dick without us asking. It's bullshit! I am offended by people using their dick pic as their MAIN PROFILE PIC! Why is this hard to understand? I don't care if you have dick pics in your profile, I can CHOOSE not to look at them! Using a dick pic as your main profile pic takes that choice away from us and others.
@RavenMoon696 There's also the Terms of Service which, as I remember them, allow AFF to use your photos for their own commercial use. Plus there are sites trawling the internet for photos to collect and sell off.
@RavenMoon696 Something that I only found out recently: I'd been a member on this site for a number of years, but left in August for a couple of reasons. I rejoined earlier this month, and found that by viewing a member's photos and clicking on one twice (it used to just bring up a "superphoto" ), you now have the option to send a photo link to Twitter. I can't see an option to turn that off
I told a friend of mine on here, and she wasn't aware of it, and was not impressed. So a photo with your face on it could be posted all over Mu$k's site 
@BiTxn4Cock No one is offended and U think you know why everyone comes to this site I take it. Post your whole body and if you don't want your face in the picture block it out or just don't include it.
@BiTxn4Cock, @Dodi77772 You could be right.
@Acanthodes2024 You can also stop that on same page I spoke of but who knows if they honor that??????????
@RavenMoon696 Hi...I couldn't find the reference you mentioned, but digging around I found a "Social Media" switch in "Privacy Preference" and told my lady friend. She set it to "no", but it's made no difference. She's had people trying to contact her after seeing a photo on "X". I'll keep looking, but this could be disastrous for women who post photos on here, if those end up on "X".
@Acanthodes2024 I suggest stating on your page any use of material on it will be considered an invasion of privacy and will result in legal actions. These most likely are people on here coping picture and posting them else where. And social media if contacted can find out who is doing this. There is a place that you can shut down this site from doing it.
Especially the Blacks !! They only want to hook up with other Blacks and Not Whites or other races !
This is nonsense, and even racist nonsense. I've known many black people wanting to hook up with non-black people and I've known some white people only wanting to hook up with white people. And if a black person only wants to hook up with another black person, then that is their choice and none of your business.
@spunkycumfun THANK YOU. I swear, some folks really feel "entitled", thinking they can and should get WHATEVER they want just because THEY see what they like. Life doesn't work like that, all the time. Folks, no matter WHO they are, need to learn to accept being rejected. There are billions of other people in the world to interact and engage with. They gotta move on and accept other people's PREFERENCES.
@CumGetSumDis I think that sense of entitlement isn't helped by the site's 'get laid tonight' marketing slogan to get men to join the site.
@LovingOral1964 People should be less entitled and more tolerant here.
That is so biased!
On the site since 2002....and just a month ago...blocked my first person,on this community side, since i became mod of a group. His conversation and my response led to my being banned in Oct. He keeps in that vein of convo...and i didnt want his antics to get the group shut down. So he is my first. I have none blocked on the dating side.....and when i see him or others with negative behaviors.....i just blocked them in my head. I am of the belief of keeping ones eye on whatever is surrounding you...to be prepared. I say its akin to keeping your eye on a child...lots of what they do/say you can ignore....but you need to stay vigilant...in case they are in danger. ~
It's good to be vigilant.
And I'm glad I'm not the only one who's been banned!
I hear you my friend and your right to have done just that. It's amazing to me how this hasn't changed over the years. And I am sure the members of your group appreciated it as well..
I never blocked anyone on blog or community side- but on dating side - yes. ANY and ALL men sending a message, IM, viewing profile or pics/ I SPECIFICLY state NO MEN, not Bi. But they are IDIOTS and do it anyway. I do have men followers on blog but none ever comment
I'm the other wat round to you - blocked far on this Community than the Dating side. Thanks for stopping by to comment.
A great topic today my friend, when I first joined the site people were rude and very unwelcoming imagine that..
Then I learned about the block button especially in the chat rooms where I was present a lot back then.
Here in blog land I have only had to block a couple of members for being intolerably rude and also reported them. I hate blocking anyone really, as we all have our own opinions but for me I guess it's all about how they implement them.
I hope you enjoy a tantalizing Tuesday..
Like you, I don't like blocking people but needs must sometimes!
Surprisingly, I’ve only had to block two users, both reported to the site support: one, who possibly has a mental health issue, for making serious threats, and the other for using one of my photos without permission and refusing to remove it... as his profile picture! You have to be an idiot! Aside from me, both were banned from AFF. Anyway, I’m very clear about this: I respect that others may disagree with some of my facts or opinions, but one single insult, just one, and I ban them on the spot. I come to AFF to have a good time, not to argue or fight.
You have been lucky on the site. I know a lot of women here receive quite a bit of abuse from some men here.
Men spamming me with messages and pics even though my profile explicitly says i'm straight with no interest in men.
Unfortunately a lot of men here don't read profiles.
...I'd like to know why AFF doesn't block a profile from MY view whenever I've blocked them from seeing me!?! C'mon AFF get with it! It's a simple algorithm!
Agreed, there should be an option for "I don't want to see this profile any more." There are people I know I'm not interested in (which is sometimes because I know they're not interested in me), and it would be nice to have them no longer showing up in search results, etc.
I wouldn't assume that blocking someone from seeing/contacting me always means I no longer want to see them. Both functions have their uses, but don't always go together.
The site operates two blocks, one for the Dating side and another one for the Community side. Blocking a member on one side doesn't work for the other side.
Preemptive reasons to block a profile
Why bother with pre-emptive blocking? I only block profiles that meet one of the above criteria AND if they are in my city/country where it is likely they will message me at some point. That's because the number of active female profiles in my country is less that 50 per day, so my profile usually ranks high in the list of local profiles.
estimate of profiles I have blocked -> 4550
Unfortunately you've had to do a lot of blocking.
preemptive blocking keeps my inbox safe
I've blocked a bunch of people. Usually, it's because I'm feeling a staulking/psycho vibe from them. Also, if the sex was bad when we got together, and they want to hook up again, it's easier than talking to them.
Blocking people serves a multitude of purposes.
I've tried various ways of stating I'm not bi, bi-curious, or anything remotely like that, but it doesn't mean anything to some people. So I just block them.
Unfortunately a lot of people here don't seem to read profiles.
Mostly rude and just thinks since you're on this site you want to have sex anyone. They don't read your profile first before being ignorant and after telling them no, they just keep the ignorant crap up. I had one idiot that thinks just because he was sending points to our page, I was obligated to him for sex. Just blocking him from messaging does only that. You have to go into your page and there is a place you have to block them from everything. Block them from commenting on a blog only blocks him/her from seeing them nothing else. Took a bit but found where you can block anyone from everything on this site that has to do with one's self.
It seems there are a lot of people that need to be blocked here. It would be interesting if the site published a blocked league; I bet you men would dominate the top placings.
@spunkycumfun There are some real winners on here for that for sure.
@RavenMoon696 They'd be fighting for top place especially if there were points to be won!
I see things like you spunky. I don't have a large amount of folks blocked but I won't hesitate to banish them to blocked land if they start any crap.
Crap should be blocked here. Life's too short.
You really shouldnt be blocking people on a blog that often touches on topics that are outside what you would normally expect to see on a website like this as long as the posters are at least somewhat respectful. Which checking your blog history you do although you haven't done it in awhile. Believe it or not its quite possible people don't agree with you! I honestly would avoid politics every time I see something even close to political its almost always from the furthest 30% left point of view and extremely elitist and dismissive of other points of view ie what I am saying is fact when it is in fact a highly debateable opinion.
I never ever block people because they disagree with me. I'd like you to name an instance when I have. I only block people who are offensive to me or others. I've blocked less than 20 members in over ten years of being a member here. I don't agree with your comment but you'll notice I haven't blocked you.
what is a group masquerading as a person known as night club
I'm not sure that I quite follow you. Thanks for stopping by.
Men setting up profiles as a man & woman couple who is bi. Damned liars!! As they don't have a female companion at all. I had to take Bi off my profile altogether. Just why?
Because they can't get anywhere with honesty, so they try lying, and hope their mark is too dumb to notice, or too desperate to care.
Yes, the "male pretending to be half of a couple" is a long-standing tradition here that always pisses people off, and never goes away. It's so blatant, too, when a guy messages first about how much his wife is into me, then asks if he could do A, and B, and C to me, and then says his wife isn't playing but he wants to meet one on one. It's obvious from the start that there's no woman involved, but if they want to waste my time, I'll waste theirs right back.
I've had plenty of experience of single men posing as couples when I first joined the site.
My other is a family member that seems to think that won't matter to me. I don't want him to get anything out of me being on the site at all, whether it's to see pics or see what I say in the chatrooms or blogs.
I think I'd block family members too!
When I chat in the public chat rooms on the dating side, i block all the members who keep on posting the same thing, over and over again...they advertise their off site contact info for pics, a good time, etc. I block the members who are obviously just there to cause trouble ie attacking others in the room i block anyone who starts talking politics or religion because that invariably ends up in a fight and they know it. I have been blocked by many, many women that i have never chatted with. When i mention it in the room, if one of their avid followers is in the room, i immediately get challenged with the fact that anyone can block anyone else on this site, it's their free choice, they don't have to have a fucking reason, what's the matter with you? and yep, time to block him lol all i did was ask lol
I've heard that chatrooms can get quite lively!
@spunkycumfun Take you post and double it, at least, and that's what you get in the public chatrooms...no moderators so it's whatever the members want to do and say in there. After over 4 years on the site, a lot of it just grays out for me, I hardly notice it but sometimes...yeah, being able to block someone is a good thing.
@AmyGood4Mea I don't want my blog to get too lively. I quite like boring!
From time to time , gay or bi-sexual men, or shemales, come after me thinking I'm one of them. Why? Got me. Maybe they can't read or don't have access to my Profile, or popup mini-profile. Not a big deal, but after a while its annoying. If you see an M after a members name, look closer, then walk away. If someone has been straight their entire life, they ain't looking for deviant adventures.
The popup profile now shows everyone's orientation as "prefer not to say." Quality bugs by talented developers.
As for the rest of it, yup. They couldn't read your profile, or didn't care to read it, or did read it but didn't care what it said, or did read it and assumed you were lying, or figured that with enough begging and whining they could get you to change your mind.
If you've been on here more than a few weeks, you've learned the hard way not to expect intelligence or courtesy from other members.
A lot of people here simply don't read profiles unfortunately.
from the home page, click My Account then Blocked Members List. you should be able to one-and-done block a member by entering their name and checking all of the boxes.
Unfortunately, it only works most of the time. And there are ways around it, things that aren't "covered" by the blocking function. I won't mention them because I don't want to give anyone ideas, but there are certainly ways for people to find "your stuff" even if they can't access the profile directly.
I've used that feature many a time. Thanks.
It's important when you enter the name you start typing, or paste, from the far left side of the entry field, so that there is no blank space before the name, or the block won't work, as I have found out.
I block a lot of people for telling me my profile is too negative, that i talk too much about what i am not looking for. telling them to mind their own business doesnt work. they just keep messaging me. the last dude who did this very kindly told me how i should be behaving and what to say in my profile, even after telling him to go away. the block feature can be our best friend. i have also experienced stalking.
The block feature is indeed our best friend. Life's too short to put up with unnecessary shit.
I block upon any type of interaction anyone of the same gender. I've even gone as far as asking for a site update that would allow us to select what groups (as AFF has defined) the ability to even see my profile.
I hope you're not going to block me being of the same gender!
That actually used to be a feature, only allowing people who matched your preferences to view your profile. Or maybe it was just limiting who could contact you. They discontinued that a long time ago.
Oh, I've lightened-up over the years. "Views," I let slide. "Views" just means someone looked, or read, or even mis-clicked, or hovered over my usersername and got the pop-up mini-informational. Men that like or comment on anything, messege me, or somehow get on my "you're more than interested in me radar" (flirt, hotlist, ect) and it's still an immediate block. I'm not here looking for men and I'm not on the table for men to be frothing-over and/or swooning to me.