Because we hadn't met this couple, we mailed and phoned each other before our first meet. Everything seemed to be okay for a hotel meet halfway for a drink, meal and maybe more.
We always phoned a couple whom we hadn't met before. One reason we did this was to establish they were a genuine couple. This phone conversation weeded out any single men pretending to a couple or attached men who hadn't told their partner that they were looking for couples on the site as we insisted on talking to both the man and woman of the couple. Other couples would often insist on doing the same to us before meeting for the first time.
Over the meal, the conversation was good, far from awkward. It helped that the man of the other couple was into music so we talked music a lot. The conversation flowed, and I even got an early signal from my partner that she was up to taking things forward with the other couple.
At the time, our signal was three taps on my hand or thigh, and vice versa. It's not as if we could just ask each other whether we wanted to shag them or not in front of the couple. We operated a below-the-line or above-the-line rule in terms of shagworthiness. We were both heterosexual, so she had to make a judgment about the other man, and I had to make a judgement about the other woman. We tried to keep things simple. Some couples we met had a no-sex-on-the-first-meet rule which allowed them time to talk things through before arranging another meet with sex on the agenda. We didn't operate that rule, though we were quite happy for the first meet to be non-sexual if the other couple so wanted.
Back to the meet, there was a moment during the meal when I felt a little uncomfortable. After going to the toilet, the woman of the other couple accosted me before I could return to the table. Her conversation was very sexual. I had no problem what she was saying, my problem was that I preferred she said what she wanted to say in front of my partner and her partner. That way there are no secrets. I extricated myself from the conversation and returned to the table.
After paying the bill - we went Dutch, we asked whether they wanted to come back to our bedroom. They agreed to come back. Rightly or wrongly, I and my partner took that as a sign that the other couple thought we were shagworthy.
On retiring to our hotel bedroom, we sort of got paired off. I was talking to the woman of the other couple on the bed, and my partner was chatting to the man of the other couple at the desk in the bedroom. He was sorting out the music, which is always good. I had already sorted out the lighting so that it was a dimly lit room. I can't stand sex in the bright lights.
Me and the other woman started to get a little frisky on the bed. Our clothes were gradually taken off by each other and there was a little bit of foreplay. Oral sex not kissing - in my experience, kissing or at least passionate kissing rarely happened between swinging couples. I guess because kissing is seen as quite an intimate act.
While naked on the bed, with the other woman almost naked, I heard my partner say, "Who's kicking me?" I looked round and my partner was sitting naked on the lap of the other man still fully clothed who was taking a long time to sort out some music.
After a short while, my partner said, "Stop kicking me." I hadn't got a clue what was happening. But my partner said that the other woman was kicking her while she was almost naked with me on the bed. I didn't really know what to to do. But if my partner said she was being kicked then she was being kicked. At this point, I realise the kicks weren't an accidental flailing leg of the other woman.
There was the devil in me wanting to request Carl Douglas' Kung Fu Fighting to be played but I managed to control the monkey in me.
The mood just changed, and we all drew a halt to proceedings. Sometimes things just don't work out. They soon retired to their bedroom. And we retired to bed to have sex and sleep. We met up with the couple at breakfast and thankfully there was no problem between us all.
Have you had moments when you stopped having sex with someone, or other people, soon after starting sex?
We remained friends with them and saw them a lot at our sex parties and their sex parties they used to organise on behalf of another couple. Though there was social chemistry, there was no sexual chemistry between us. Rightly or wrongly, I and my partner had her down as a slight drama queen and that she hadn't got her head around her partner having sex with someone else in front of her. We never shagged whether as a twosome, threesome foursome or moresome. They may very well have a very different recollection of events than me.
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The other woman wanted attention from your wife, you or both. She should have just asked or made aphtysical move like touching and rubbing your back
The other woman claimed she was heterosexual not bicurious or bisexual. I don't know why repeatedly kicked my partner, perhaps she didn't want her partner to have sex and that she was a hot wife or a cuckquean. Who knows what really goes on in people's heads?
She would get naked and shagged in front of her partner but didn't want him to have any fun?!? How rude!!!
Once while kissing, a man abruptly asked for a bj. It ruined the mood.
I suspect she was the only allowed to have sex with another in the relationship.
😃 Back in the day Everyone was Kung Fu Fighting. Y see t when Monkey bad, a need to spank the monkey 🐒
I'm not going to mess with that woman!
@spunkycumfun your posting inspired me to make my last two postings on my blog.
If you are going to drop kick Carl Douglas "Kung Fu Fighting" you got to toss in the song and video into the foray!!
Thanks for posting the clip.
@spunkycumfun Thank you for sharing your journey
Sounds like another interesting evening you all had there. I am glad things didn't ruin your friendship. I have never been in the swinging world so I hope everyone who is enjoys it.
I hope your Friday is a fun start to your weekend..
No we became good friends. In some ways the unsuccessful first meet just clarified our parameters.
The answer to your question is: yes, of course… I’ve been through almost everything in this life.
For example, a few years ago during a meeting with Dean (you know, the guy who’s been something of an obsession of mine for several years), he said: “Take your clothes off, girl!”
So I did. I lay down on the bed, naked. He looked at me… and said: “I have to go.”
He mumbled a few incoherent words and practically ran out the door without offering any explanation, leaving me there: naked, horny, frustrated, and humiliated.
He’s never told me what happened. Never apologized.
Oh well…
That was very mean of him, even very childish.
@spunkycumfun yes, it was… Dean behaving as Dean, you know 🙄
I guess Carl Douglas was correct - "In fact, it was a little bit frightening".
It could have been if a fight had broken out. Thankfully the other man calmed things down and led his partner out of the bedroom.
This blog post is part of a series of my swinging moments. See SWINGING MOMENT 1: FROM THE HOT TUB TO THE LOUNGE VIA THE KITCHEN, SWINGING MOMENT 2: THE SMOKIN' HOT CHAIN MAIL DRESS and SWINGING MOMENT 3: NEARLY A DOUBLE-PENETRATION AT A LUXURY HOTEL for other swinging moments.
These posts are solely my recollections. I readily accept that others may recall the swinging moments differently, especially the interpretation of the moments.