We met a couple who lived about 20 miles away. We met a few times and we got on. On the first meet, because they were a 'no-play-on-the-first-meet', nothing happened. They did say to us on the second meet that they were tempted to break that rule.
For our second meet, we invited them to my partner's house who had a hot tub. We also laid on some food and drinks. That was a good meet, not least we had sex.
On our third meet, after when my partner moved in to live with me, they came to my apartment. That meet we had sex but I got the impression that there were issues between them. My evidence base was very slim. It was after I had sex with the other woman and I came before the other man who was having sex with my partner on the same bed.
They were clearly enjoying themselves. I got the impression she wasn't happy at her husband shagging away next to her. So I suggested we go downstairs. We went downstairs to chat, and the evening passed without incident.
We invited them to a couple of our sex parties. I know she shagged other men but he seemed reluctant to shag other women. But at one party, there was an incident. News came downstairs that he was bleeding. Everyone stopped what they were doing, it was a killer moment in a sex party.
It turned out that his wife went upstairs while he was shagging another woman and just punched him in his face causing a split lip. It looked much worse than it was, but even so it wasn't good.
After a while, the couple were persuaded to get into a taxi to go back to their hotel they had booked. It was a scene but the show must go on!
Soon after the party it was clear that they were no longer a couple. Quite often the problematic relationships aren't the relationships between couples but between the man and the woman in the same couple.
Do you like gossip? If not, how do you handle it?
There was then a flurry of mail to me about them. Were they okay? What's wrong with them? Some claiming that she was having an affair.
I found those mails uncomfortable to answer. It's not for me to pass judgement on their relationship even if I think hitting a partner is beyond the pale.
I must admit I like to hear gossip and may even spread a bit of gossip myself, but generally I prefer to be above the gossip. I much prefer evidence rather than speculation.
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I think we all love gossip. Some admit it, some don’t. The sad thing is if it is not true.
Untrue gossip, especially gossip that's known to be untrue, is malicious.
I've never been to a sex party where someone got punched. Wow! We used to go to biker parties with over 10,000 bikers in attendance. Most of the women were topless, public sex here and there - never a fight.
Thankfully that was the only party in which a punch got thrown.
I would love 2 couples
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Off topic, but what's the etiquette with swinging in regards to sexual health? Is it male condoms, female condoms, sti test cert's, all of the above. Just curious, and please pardon my vanilla inexperience.
ps - not condoning it, but at least she hit her partner and not the woman he was shagging!
We provided condoms at our parties; we didn't provide femidoms. Guests would often bring their own condoms.
With our friends, we would talk about condoms, tests, etc. My partner and I got regularly tested.
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Thanks for clarifying. I wonder if there's a blog post for you in this, though I expect it's been said and done before?
@lindoboy100 I've got a blog post in the pipeline about this issue. Obviously practices varied between couples. I wasn't on condom patrol at parties!
Gossip based on facts is fun and informative. Gossip that is all lies ..... meh. There is enough truth out there to keep us tittering and pointing fingers for weeks.
Malicious gossip, based on lies, isn't good.
this is probably a reason why i don't want to do swapping or a sex party. i don't want to see my partner having sex with someone else. to each their own.
It's good that we know our preferences and limits.
When I was editor and publisher of my Branch Local Union newsletter. I had a section of "Letters to the Editor". Being I had just taken over as the new Editor, I re-vamped the whole look and feel of the newsletter. Before it was just xeroxed copies of 8.5 X 11 paper and I had it printed in 11X17 folded in half. It was basically in booklet form.
Since I wasn't getting any mail yet for the Editor, so I crafted a few letters and kept particular names out of it. It was some juicy work gossip and some shady relationships via quid pro quo and even advice was asked. Oh boy, did I get the work place buzzing. Folks just love gossip. Even if it wasn't true, they couldn't stop talking about it and wanted more.
I don't like gossip but since none of it was true, it wasn't like I was hurting anyone.
It sounds like your branch newsletter was a satirical magazine.
@spunkycumfun Well I wanted to start things off with a bang. I didn't delve into it for that reason, but I will say, that the members were always waiting for the next issues. They would definitely give me an earful if I delayed it, or if it wasn't above par.
@CallMeMrWrong69 Sounds like a very successful venture.
@spunkycumfun I ran it for ten years until I moved to Illinois. I left my good friend take over after showing him the ropes. I enjoyed putting it together and would have done it for free....oh wait I did do it for free. I have to say it was a labor of love. I loved the punishment..yuk yuk
@CallMeMrWrong69 I can't ever remember receiving a union branch newsletter in my job.
@spunkycumfun Here we do have them. It was a way to keep members informed on what was going on in each of the seven offices of our branch. What was going on Nationally with our union. It was a place where we made announcements and calls to action. It was somewhat of a lifeline. I would have a union steward write an article each month about what was either going on in their office or some topic that promoted unionism. Once I got their material, I would review and edit any grammatical errors and such. I really can't stress enough how much I enjoyed putting it together. Grant it, there was more to it that I did like update the mailing lists and address changes. Print out the hard copy to drop off at the local office supply for them to print and put together. Then I had to put the address labels on them and tabs so they wouldn't open during mail processing.
Then it was drop them off at the nearby mail processing plant for distribution. Did I say that I did this for free? The branch paid for all the materials and cost that went into it. it was a labor of love because I enjoyed putting it together for my members.
@CallMeMrWrong69 I received national but not branch newsletters from my trade union.
@spunkycumfun Thats a shame. Maybe they have no one who will step forward to start one or maybe they rather not spend the funds on it. Our local had a little over 350 active union members which were active or retired. If anything, the newsletter kept the members of the branch connected. When activism was needed, the members responded, and it was because the newsletter put that information out there.
When we needed to do informative picketing, or even our community food drive, we posted for volunteers, and we showed the members in action. It was started years before I got there. Went through different variations of how the newsletter was put together. I took it to the max that I could.
I would mail it to and received from other branches of our national associations. At one training seminar, my newsletter was showcased as an excellent example of a newsletter which was totally unexpected by me. I just did what I did for my members. The accolades were unexpected.
@CallMeMrWrong69 I know there were great problems in getting volunteers to be branch officers and not many people turned up to branch meetings.
@spunkycumfun It's tough when folks don't want to be volunteers as branch officers. Usually, it's when someone is pissed off and has to find someone to step up and they decide that they may as well be the one who step up. I became a shop steward because I got pissed at management for getting away with stuff and belittling a co-worker. I don't like bullies. I became the change. When I moved and transferred to a smaller branch, I stepped up because I saw that branch needed help.
I witness an office that had a few scabs (non-union members) who had an out-of-control supervisor, and it turn into a full union backed membership because they got fed up with the supervisor and they signed up as members. The supervisor was removed from ever supervising craft employees.
The newsletter was a useful tool to keep members informed and was essential in promoting strength in unionism.
@CallMeMrWrong69 I think one of the reasons why there were volunteers is that people didn't want to be a management target and that it would affect their promotion chances.
@spunkycumfun I found that in my union, the new hires wanted to be union stewards or become active in union causes because they wanted to protect themselves from asshat managers and supervisors. The catch was that once they became a full-time employee, they no longer wanted to be union stewards which sucked. Money and time were spent training them only for them not to care to help others.
@CallMeMrWrong69 At work my managers were in the same union so it was quite different.
@spunkycumfun Our higher ups who were in my craft, stay paying dues to our union because they prefer our union backed health insurance. The supervisor union health benefits are somewhat lacking. When they become supervisors, they become complete asshats because they want to fire and torment the craft employees. If they don't do that, their higher up frown on them and think they suck as bosses and would replace them if they could find more asshat bosses.
@CallMeMrWrong69 Here because of the National Health Service (NHS), there were few perks apart from those of collective bargaining and representation for being trade union members.
That's pretty bad when a couple are swingers and one of them gets so jealous that she just couldn't take it anymore.
As for gossip I don't like spreading it but I do enjoy hearing it depending on the gossip. Some I could just do without.
I hope you enjoy a terrific Tuesday my friend..
The couple clearly hadn't agreed the terms of their swinging.
I'll admit to enjoying hearing juicy gossip but I'm a bad gossiper overall since I rarely spread any of my own.
I enjoy hearing gossip provided it's true.
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Thanks for stopping by.
Honestly, since my “conventional” social life has always been almost non-existent… and I’ve never really been interested in it, gossip has always felt quite foreign to me.
That said, I suppose I have been, and still am, the subject of many juicy bits of gossip, and I’m actually proud of it 😊
There's only one thing worse than being gossiped about and that's not being gossiped about!
This blog post is part of a series of my swinging moments. See SWINGING MOMENT 1: FROM THE HOT TUB TO THE LOUNGE VIA THE KITCHEN, SWINGING MOMENT 2: THE SMOKIN' HOT CHAIN MAIL DRESS, SWINGING MOMENT 3: NEARLY A DOUBLE-PENETRATION AT A LUXURY HOTEL, SWINGING MOMENT 4: EVERYBODY WAS KUNG FU FIGHTING!, SWINGING MOMENT 5: SWINGERS HERE LOVE A PREMIER INN!, SWINGING MOMENT 6: JUST WATCHING OTHERS and SWINGING MOMENT 7: HALFWAY AT UTTOXETER for other swinging moments.
These posts are solely my recollections. I readily accept that others may recall the swinging moments differently, especially the interpretation of the moments.