This moment was probably the scariest moment my partner and I had encountered in our swinging adventures.
They were a local couple. We exchanged mails and face pictures, and we phoned each other before we met. Looking back, we stupidly agreed to meet at their home a few miles outside Nottingham. In hindsight, a public place like a bar, pub, restaurant or coffee shop is always best for a first meet. Also, we didn't pay enough attention to the cane he was holding in their main profile photo, not a sign of a swinging couple.
We arrived at their place by taxi on the outskirts of Nottingham. The man of the couple invited us into their lounge and plied us with alcohol. That was our choice just as much as his mission. What was odd was that his wife never made an appearance. Also what was odd was that the more he drank, the more strange his comments were. My partner and I were concerned at his comments, quite misogynistic and the lack of his partner during the conversation.
I asked him why his partner wasn't joining us. He then got her to join us in the lounge. She was very quiet. It was only when he went to the toilet that I asked her whether she's into all this. She said she wasn't. That's when I turned round to my partner and said we need to book a taxi to get us out of there.
Have you ever felt scared during or before a sexual encounter? And if so, what did you do?
The man came back from the toilet to re-join us in the lounge. He was getting very aggressive, more so when the doorbell rang for our taxi. My partner and I escaped, but I dread to think what happened to his wife that night.
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I made the mistake of getting into a car with a guy I had only met once (and who hubs wasn't super keen on). He drove me to a secluded spot (where it turned out I didn't have phone signal). I thought we were just going to make out and such to get to know each other. I agreed to get in the back seat to do so. I wasn't super scared yet, but I tried to text hubs to check in and it wouldn't go through. Apparently, he was trying to message me as well and was frustrated when I didn't answer. I turn around and the dude is completely naked with a raging hard on. And then I was scared. I realized I had put myself in a terrible situation. He was all over me trying to take my clothes off. He managed to get my shirt and bra off as I was trying to go along just enough that he wouldn't hurt me while I tried to figure out what my options were for getting out of there (which were pretty freaking limited given the stupidity of leaving my car). I finally convinced him to let me get him off with my hand onto my tits, figuring he would cum and likely concede to taking me back to my car. That's what I ended up doing. By the time I got home, hubs was super mad about the whole situation and didn't want to listen to how awful it had been. He said some terrible things and treated me very badly that night. It was one of the most awful experiences I've had in the lifestyle. I seriously considered stopping everything after that. Instead, I just set up better boundaries and safety protocols. But the dude had no clue how much he frightened me. He thought is was all "super hot" (direct quote) and wanted to know when we could meet up again. Umm...never. I know it was my fault for putting myself in that position.
That was an awful situation. The man was totally out of order. I'm glad you got out of the situation relatively unscathed.
That's very scary. Glad you escaped. Years ago, Hubby and I met a gentleman at a Hooter's Restaurant, then went to his apartment. Long story short, he couldn't get it up. Went home frustrated, but made up for it in other ways. A few years later, he was texting again. I thought, why not give him a second try?? Wrong! He opened his apartment door, and I ran! He went from looking hot like Terry Crews, to looking like Fred Sanford's friend, Grady! And his apartment was nasty!!! Whew!!
Running is the best option when all isn't right or doesn't feel right.
There are some wonderful people in the swinging world and some awful A-holes. You were smart to get out before it got really bad.
Hugs!!
Swinging people are just like 'normal' people - many good and some bad.
Only once did I have an encounter that left me uneasy. There weren't any obvious flags and things were odd but okay until I was leaving. That is when he tried to push me to my knees. Fortunately, that is difficult to do when you're built of "good, German farm stock" as my grandpa once said!
I'm good German farm stock too
I'm glad you were able to resist his advances.
Don't know if scared right word, yet guess yes. A death threat. Woke up a girl punching in chest hard as she could. Two girls taking me F own a dark alley .
They weren't good moments for you and more frightening than my moment.
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@spunkycumfun then there was a threat to be arrested by a psycho, then threat to be beaten up.
@bignicktx You've certainly had your moments.
Yikes!! No I have never put myself in that predicament.
There was safety in numbers with two of us, but it was an unnecessary predicament we put ourselves in.
I think your right a public place would of been better, the man seems a bit creepy to me. I have never felt scared during a sexual encounter that I can think of. But then I have never been a swinger so that maybe why.
I am glad you and your partner got out of there, and your both safe. I hope you enjoy a very tempting Tuesday..
There's safety in numbers when swinging as couples, but a public place would have been safer.
good move, i would have run probably
One advantage of swinging couples is that there's safety in numbers.
Yes, I’ve felt scared a couple of times during encounters, and in both cases I had good reason to be, because "something non-consensual" ended up happening, to use a euphemism. Although they weren’t proper dates, but rather delivery guys I had flirted with, and they completely misread the signal.
By the way, congratulations on getting your post published with those two photos! One of mine, with a pic not even a tenth as hardcore , though in the same spirit, was rejected just three hours ago… oh well.
Sorry to hear about your non-consensual experiences.
One of my photos did get pulled but I now know the reason why it was denied.
WOW, nope, never had a situation like that. Worst one was a local lady from this site the ended up being a pro and threatened to report me to the police for attempted R when I wouldn't go along. As in your case, the warning signs were all there, but I just didn't listen to them.
Sometimes we're not good at acting on the warning signs.
This blog post is part of a series of my swinging moments. See SWINGING MOMENT 1: FROM THE HOT TUB TO THE LOUNGE VIA THE KITCHEN, SWINGING MOMENT 2: THE SMOKIN' HOT CHAIN MAIL DRESS, SWINGING MOMENT 3: NEARLY A DOUBLE-PENETRATION AT A LUXURY HOTEL, SWINGING MOMENT 4: EVERYBODY WAS KUNG FU FIGHTING!, SWINGING MOMENT 5: SWINGERS HERE LOVE A PREMIER INN!, SWINGING MOMENT 6: JUST WATCHING OTHERS, SWINGING MOMENT 7: HALFWAY AT UTTOXETER, SWINGING MOMENT 8: BLOOD AT A SEX PARTY, SWINGING MOMENT 9: TWO BIG NIPPLES AND ONE BIG COCK, SWINGING MOMENT 10: AN 'ORGY' IN A HOTEL ROOM, SWINGING MOMENT 11: A ZIPLESS FUCK IN A JACUZZI, SWINGING MOMENT 12: NOT SWINGING WITH CANADA and SWINGING MOMENT 13: WOULD YOU HAVE SEX WITH SOMEONE CALLED POOPAL? for other swinging moments.
These posts are solely my recollections. I readily accept that others may recall the swinging moments differently, especially the interpretation of the moments.