One couple from South Wales, which is a long way from Nottingham (perhaps not by American standards but certainly by British standards), wanted to meet us and wanted to come to our parties. My partner and I were getting quite a lot of mail like that. Clearly our parties were becoming known amongst swinging couples.
The couple didn't pass our above-the-line shaggable test. Or rather the woman passed my test but the man didn't pass my partner's test. My partner and I compromised as the other couple were prepared to drive to Nottingham to meet us. We agreed to meet them over a meal in Nottingham and offered them a bed for the night.
The meal with the other couple was okay, certainly better food-wise than socially. It was clear that we weren't compatible socially and sexually.
After the meal, they came back to our place. My partner soon made her excuses to go to bed. I quickly followed her. It became apparent throughout the evening that the woman of the couple seemed to have significant learning difficulties. That's not a problem but it's not a situation I wanted to take sexual advantage of.
How long would you drive or even fly to meet up with someone for sex?
We did invite the couple to our next party. They came but it was clear that they didn't have a good time; they just didn't fit in. They spent most of the evening sitting on the sofa together; they didn't even sample the hot tub. If only I had listened to my partner from the outset!
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Well, to be honest, I’ve never gone more than 100 km on the highway for something like that...
Though it’s funny how I’ve gotten proposals from people living 12,000 km away, across a couple of seas, an ice cap, and an ocean, who says, “Oh, that’s just a plane flight...” I get the feeling a lot of people have never actually seen a globe... you know, the kind they have in plastic in schools. Do they really think someone is going to travel 24 hours and cross half the planet just so some total stranger living in a caravan park can have a quick shag? … LOL.
Never mind me
Some people on this site, mainly men, are clearly fantasists!
@spunkycumfun Yes, too much I am affraid.
The woman had significant learning disabilities? Yikes. Poor woman.
Hugs!!
It appeared she had learning difficulties. I didn't ask her outright.
I have driven and I have flown. It was usually someone I had been chatting with for a while. The AOL chatroom scene was before the internet dating apps. Before a person was limited to the area that the lived at and the surrounding towns nearby.
The advent of the internet technology seem to open up field for dating and encounters.
The internet has definitely opened things up - it's made the world a smaller place. We would never have known each other before the internet.
@spunkycumfun I have to agree. If I were visiting GB, I would definitely try to meet with you and have a few pints. You are a good chap I would say.
@CallMeMrWrong69 There are some fine beers in England.
I hope the fellow wasn't taking advantage of his partner!
That was my concern too. There was no outward sign that he was taking advantage of his partner.
Nowadays, I wouldn't go out of my way to meet anyone. If they can meet me somewhere that's convenient for me, then I'll consider it. Since I had it really good with my bubble bath buddy, I guess I'm reluctant to meet someone new just to get disappointed.
A meet has to be convenient for all concerned.
I had a couple of occasions where I drove a couple of hours to meet someone who I'd been chatting online with for a long time. In both cases there was not in-person chemistry so I'd be hesitant to do that again.
In another case, I met someone who lived 200 miles away, when he happened to be in my town for work. We hit it off, and ended up driving to visit each other semi-regularly (once every 6-8 weeks?). He did the driving more often - in his view he would rather drive 3-4 hours than clean his house and feel like he was responsible for entertaining me, haha.
Americans seem more prepared to drive longer distances than Europeans.
I can see the man's logic wanting to drive and not clean!
An hour or less works for us. We would never fly anywhere to meet someone.
I've flown to Edinburgh to meet a friend with benefits.
Would never fly, and the longest was driving with a partner 150 kms , now being lazy , my distance has dropped to 30 kms maximum
It's a bus or a train ride for me as I don't drive nowadays.
@spunkycumfun Lucky you, now if only our public transport was as good, would give up the car
@taurean62dbn Public transport is excellent where I live.
@spunkycumfun No one beats you and the europeans for public transport, but a friend that was recently in Shanghai begs to differ
@taurean62dbn I've not been to Shanghai. But Amsterdam takes a bit of beating for public transport.
@spunkycumfun I agree , having lived there for 5 years . The dutch pride themselves, you never have to walk more than 100 metres door to door to anywhere in the country.May have to change buses , trams or trains a few times
@taurean62dbn Amsterdam is one of my favourite cities in the world. I'd love to live there.
Listening important. Was once willing to fly to Iceland
That's a long way to fly to meet someone.
@spunkycumfun had chatted via net for year. Thought she might be last one
@bignicktx I'm guessing things didn't work out.
@spunkycumfun nope previously discussed
@bignicktx I think I remember previous discussion.
I have never driven far to meet anyone, when I have been out on dates it's always been ina public place as one can never be to careful, especially us ladies. I don't think I would of traveled far to meet anyone as I have said previously that I haven't been with that many men as I believe that quality is much better than quantity.
I think you should of listened to your partner about this couple as they were clearly not a good fit for your swinging parties.
I hope your Tuesday is a very tantalizing one my friend..
I should have indeed listened to my partner about the couple.
On three occasions I've driven almost a full day to spend the weekend with a lady I'd never met in person. But all three were blogger-babes I "knew" well despite having never met in person. ALL three weekends were exceptionally fun. 😁
I have driven about three hours for a tryst. For long distances, I'll catch a train or take a plane.
@spunkycumfun I've never gone to the extent of boarding a plane, but there is one lady in particular has surely got me considering doing so.
@CleavageFan4U I flew to Edinburgh from Southampton otherwise it would have been a very long drive. The flight was less than an hour.
This blog post is part of a series of my swinging moments. See SWINGING MOMENT 1: FROM THE HOT TUB TO THE LOUNGE VIA THE KITCHEN, SWINGING MOMENT 2: THE SMOKIN' HOT CHAIN MAIL DRESS, SWINGING MOMENT 3: NEARLY A DOUBLE-PENETRATION AT A LUXURY HOTEL, SWINGING MOMENT 4: EVERYBODY WAS KUNG FU FIGHTING!, SWINGING MOMENT 5: SWINGERS HERE LOVE A PREMIER INN!, SWINGING MOMENT 6: JUST WATCHING OTHERS, SWINGING MOMENT 7: HALFWAY AT UTTOXETER, SWINGING MOMENT 8: BLOOD AT A SEX PARTY, SWINGING MOMENT 9: TWO BIG NIPPLES AND ONE BIG COCK, SWINGING MOMENT 10: AN 'ORGY' IN A HOTEL ROOM, SWINGING MOMENT 11: A ZIPLESS FUCK IN A JACUZZI, SWINGING MOMENT 12: NOT SWINGING WITH CANADA, SWINGING MOMENT 13: WOULD YOU HAVE SEX WITH SOMEONE CALLED POOPAL?, SWINGING MOMENT 14: THE MAN WITH A CANE AND A NON-PLAYING WIFE, SWINGING MOMENT 15: CALLING KEVIN OUT and SWINGING MOMENT 16: A CARPET BURN, AND NOT FROM SEX! for other swinging moments.
These posts are solely my recollections. I readily accept that others may recall the swinging moments differently, especially the interpretation of the moments.