My first visit to a sex club was with my then girlfriend and now wife - see SEX CLUBS I'VE BEEN TO: LIBERTY ELITE for details about the club. She was a bit wary of going to a sex club with me. Before going, we agreed that we would only have sex with each other. In the bar over a few drinks we chatted and people-watched. After a couple of hours we decided to go upstairs to a private playroom to have sex. On entering the room we made sure that we closed the door behind us. Just as we had finished having sex, both of us noticed about six men masturbating in the room. Slightly in shock, we quickly got dressed, left the room and retired to the bar. A member of the bar staff then told us that the men shouldn't have opened the closed door!
Do you think men are sneakier than women when it comes to sex?
Generally I think men are sneakier than women at sex. I know that's a big generalisation.
My wife didn't enjoy the experience because of those sneaky men. That was the only and last time my wife visited a sex club!
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Yes! Such an interesting post! I love clubs where sex isn’t specific or symmetrical: places with a touch of class, a certain atmosphere of female nudity, CMNF-style, and with private booths for whatever happens next. I really miss that!
Let's hope you will visit such a club again.
As far as sex goes, I don't think men are as sneaky as they like to think they are.
I guess men are quite easy to read when it comes down to sex.
Great post! Yes, I find when I go to sex clubs, men are always in every room watching other men having sex with women, men watching woman on woman and man on man. They seem to outnumber the women. The adult book store I go to, the booths have no doors and the men always go from booth to booth to watch men jerk off, or join them in giving blow jobs to each other.
It's one of the golden rules of sex clubs, men far outnumber women. A bit like this site but at least men are vetted in clubs!
@spunkycumfun You are so right.
Yes! Men are sneakier and will say anything to get laid. Not all men, some. And this site brings out the worst pushiness by promising sex.
I am sorry your wife was upset by being watched.
Hugs!
My wife wasn't a happy bunny. And we never went to a sex club again.
I don't know about men being sneakier, if anything they are more blatant about 'expressing their needs'. In the situation you describe the guys only cared about the fact that they were aroused and wanted to jack off, there was no consideration given to whether you and your partner wanted them to do that.
Strangely we would have more 'privacy' in the club's main playroom than in a private room.
These orgy photos give me vertigo... too much going on all at once.
Strange as it may sound, the scene of two/several exhibitionists performing for an audience, seems more of a managed situation. I'd probably be one of the voyeurs - have done that and it was good. Although in my sexy dreams I imagine myself exhibitionist.
Sneakiness - I am not sure if it is gender-based. It's more of a personality thing.
I'm sure, like you say, that sneakiness is more down to personality than gender.
Women sneakier but guys wrong to enter
Men should ever never enter without consent.
I think that is crazy that they came in to watch even though you had the door closed. I have never had to deal with anything like that so I can't really say.
I hope your Tuesday continues to treat you well my friend..
It wasn't a good situation to see several men masturbating over us!
nice party
Thanks for stopping by.
I have been known to be occasionally sneaky but I'm pleading the Fifth Amendment as this is an American-owned site!
Do you think men are sneakier than women when it comes to sex? - YES, and for the same reason many cheat - because they HAVE to.
But yeah, that's a shame that you finally convinced her to go, and the experience served to only reinforce her negative perceptions of such places.
I'm interested to understand why you think cheating is because someone has to.
@mysexualgoodtime One partner is fine living without sex but the other one can't/won't.
@CleavageFan4U personally in my opinion if that's not how it is then you get the fuck out and you live your life how you want to. I don't believe in cheating.
@mysexualgoodtime I gathered that.
Those men shouldn't have done what they did, but there's no way I could pinpoint the man who opened the door to report them. The whole situation was a passion-killer. In some ways, we would have had more 'privacy' in the group playroom!
@spunkycumfun Bummer for sure. Killed not only the day, but the entire concept for her it seems. 😡
@CleavageFan4U Bloody single men at clubs!
the sailor man and i had a long conversation just yesterday about playing with a third and another couple. it was pretty deep. he told me about trying to play with another couple with he and his partner on his boat. he said his partner had a good time and he enjoyed hearing her have a good time (same room swap). he said the other dude's wife was NOT into, clearly doing it because her hubs wanted to do it. she was a smoker ( he is not ) and it also added to what he felt was not a good experience for him. he also tried to have a couple swap with his then wife at the time and she chickened out. he's had being a third with a couple and he's enjoyed it. we discussed our limits. he is probably the only one i have ever trusted in my 50ish years of having sex that i want to have these experiences with. i want to find us a lady, which is very hard to find, to have fun with us as well as a couple who is compatible with us. he's not that picky, i am but who knows.
When playing with another couples as a souple, there are six relationships involved. There are six times more chances of it not working than when two people meet up for sex.
Good luck in finding your unicorn.
@spunkycumfun I am actually a unicorn. However, I know that our search will take a lot of time to meet someone if ever.
@mysexualgoodtime But you are part of a couple looking for a unicorn unless I've misunderstood your situation.
@spunkycumfun no you didn't misunderstand. It's just I am myself a unicorn. But I'm looking to play with the sailor man. But he doesn't necessarily come along with the package so to speak. I've had several threesomes with couples and only one was truly bad. And all of my threesomes have just been me being watched by the hubby my preference. There was one that I had with a marine and his playmate which ended up with us meeting on occasion, just the two of us to have mad sex. But I prefer being watched if I'm the unicorn and not have sex with the man. Especially since I have my own lovers. It's just that me and the sailor man had a good us playing as a couple with a third or another couple. I've never desired a male male female situation. It's too much going on and I am just too ADHD actually diagnosed to let that happen. I don't think I could give pleasure and enjoy pleasure like that intensity all at the same time but I am a unicorn when it comes to playing. Couple but I can't seem to find that couple.
@mysexualgoodtime It's not easy finding what you want in the swinging world.
@spunkycumfun you got that right
@mysexualgoodtime And non-swinging people often assume it's easy by wrongly assuming that swingers will have sex with anyone.
@spunkycumfun bingo. I don't mind the term sport fucking but I am very very picky. There are lots of messages that get sent to me from travelers that are dying to meet me as they pass through. I'm not a drive-by. And even though I'm on this application, I still kinda have a morals. I'm not into quantity as as much as I am into quality. I I'm OK with having a few play partners with no commitment but that too is hard to find on this application. So I read the blogs. I write the blogs. I answer the decent messages and live my life.
@mysexualgoodtime I have been quite picky though I've had my fair share of lapses!
This blog post is part of a series of my swinging moments, not presented in chronological order. See SWINGING MOMENT 1: FROM THE HOT TUB TO THE LOUNGE VIA THE KITCHEN, SWINGING MOMENT 2: THE SMOKIN' HOT CHAIN MAIL DRESS, SWINGING MOMENT 3: NEARLY A DOUBLE-PENETRATION AT A LUXURY HOTEL, SWINGING MOMENT 4: EVERYBODY WAS KUNG FU FIGHTING!, SWINGING MOMENT 5: SWINGERS HERE LOVE A PREMIER INN!, SWINGING MOMENT 6: JUST WATCHING OTHERS, SWINGING MOMENT 7: HALFWAY AT UTTOXETER, SWINGING MOMENT 8: BLOOD AT A SEX PARTY, SWINGING MOMENT 9: TWO BIG NIPPLES AND ONE BIG COCK, SWINGING MOMENT 10: AN 'ORGY' IN A HOTEL ROOM, SWINGING MOMENT 11: A ZIPLESS FUCK IN A JACUZZI, SWINGING MOMENT 12: NOT SWINGING WITH CANADA, SWINGING MOMENT 13: WOULD YOU HAVE SEX WITH SOMEONE CALLED POOPAL?, SWINGING MOMENT 14: THE MAN WITH A CANE AND A NON-PLAYING WIFE, SWINGING MOMENT 15: CALLING KEVIN OUT, SWINGING MOMENT 16: A CARPET BURN, AND NOT FROM SEX!, SWINGING MOMENT 17: TWO VERY LONG DRIVES FOR NOTHING, SWINGING MOMENT 18: SOMETIMES IT'S NOT FAIR, SWINGING MOMENT 19: BEWARE OF CAMBRIDGE SWINGING COUPLES, SWINGING MOMENT 20: A WOMAN TAKES HER MAN FOR A WALK, SWINGING MOMENT 21: A HARLEY DAVIDSON AND A PANG OF JEALOUSY, SWINGING MOMENT 22: A MAGICAL TIME IN LINCOLN, SWINGING MOMENT 23: SEX WITH A 'DIRTY WHORE', SWINGING MOMENT 24: A COUPLES NIGHT AT A SEX CLUB WITH A UNICORN ENDING, SWINGING MOMENT 25: SHROPSHIRE MEETS SHROPSHIRE IN CHESHIRE, SWINGING MOMENT 26: FROM A NEVER ENDING BUKKAKE TO A NOT-SO-HAPPY ENDING BUKKAKE?, SWINGING MOMENT 27: A PROWLING WITNESS TO A DOUBLE-PENETRATION, SWINGING MOMENT 28: THE WOMAN FROM ST LOUIS SWINGING MOMENT 29: MY BEST EVER DINNER PARTY, SWINGING MOMENT 30: THE LAST PARTY, SWINGING MOMENT 31: AN EMBARRASSING INCIDENT IN THE TOILETS, SWINGING MOMENT 32: PIMPING AT A CLUB, SWINGING MOMENT 33: FUNCTIONAL VERSUS SOCIAL SWINGING, SWINGING MOMENT 34: FALLING ASLEEP ON A TOILET, SWINGING MOMENT 35: THE BEAUTIFUL AND THE UNWASHED, SWINGING MOMENT 36: BAREBACK SEX IN RETFORD, SWINGING MOMENT 37: A PLANNED FOURSOME IN LEXINGTON PLACE, SWINGING MOMENT 38: FOND MEMORIES OF SHIRLEY and SWINGING MOMENT 39: A PRE-SWINGING ENCOUNTER for other moments.
These posts are solely my recollections. I readily accept that others involved may recall the swinging moments differently, especially the interpretation of the moments.