When I first moved to Nottingham, I attended a few sex parties, though they were more so-called gangbang parties with roughly 15 men and 5 women attending.
At one such party was held in a house in Cheshire, and on exploring the house sussing things out, I heard one woman making very loud noises of pleasure coming from one bedroom. On entering the bedroom, I saw four men around the woman while she was lying on the bed. One man was fucking her, two men were either side of her tweaking her nipples, and the fourth man was getting his cock sucked by her at the end of the bed.
Given the noise she was making, she was clearly enjoying herself. She was a black woman with a very curvaceously gorgeous body. I stood by the bedroom door to watch and soon got turned on. Generally I'm not a great voyeur as I get impatient and want to join in. But there was no room for me to join in, so I left the bedroom for another bedroom.
At the end of this party, I was invited to the next gangbang party. The party was held in a club in Sheffield during the daytime. I went to the next party with a mission, I wanted to get to know and even have sex with that black woman.
At the club, there was just one big room. I knew or at least had seen most of the men and women attending the party. That always helps. The black woman was there but she was again surrounded by a lot of men and again making a lot of noise. Instead of joining the admiration society, I started talking to a woman and we eventually had doggy sex on the club floor. While having sex, another man decided to start masturbating over us; fortunately another woman came over and steered him away from us.
After having sex, I noticed that the black woman was free from her admirers. I went over to her and started talking. I can't remember what I exactly said but I must have invited her to a more private room downstairs. It was a dungeon. I strapped her to the bench and had doggy sex with her. Things were good, at least for me, but others came down searching for us. That somewhat spoilt the moment.
When someone is very noisy while having sex, is this a turn-on or a turn-off for you, or neither?
Do you do dirty talk involving others when having sex with someone?
Before I left the club, I approached the black woman again and asked her out. She agreed to a date, and she soon became GIRLFRIEND 29. We saw each other for a few months but, for one reason and another, we decided amicably to split. But sex between us was always very noisy involving a lot of dirty talk.
I've found since that experience several girlfriends liked dirty talk including talk about other men having sex with them while I was having sex with them - see GIRLFRIEND 14, GIRLFRIEND 15 and GIRLFRIEND 21. But there's a big difference between dirty talk during sex and that talk being enacted in reality. Dirty talk is often fantasy talk, in these cases, it may have been my fantasy and not their fantasy, or maybe just joint fantasy talk not meant to come true.*
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Loud, genuine noise during sex is awesome. The fake, like a porn star BS just annoys me. And I have seen women at parties making noise just for attention or to encourage men.
I have a friend who always fakes loud orgasms with men. I want to smack her and tell her to stop. How will a man ever learn what actually feels good to her if she isn't honest?
Cowboy enjoys dirty talk. It was of a fantasy nature. Always geared to make him happy. I have never had a man talk that way with me so no clue if I would enjoy it.
I always like to pretend that any fake noises are real noises caused by my incredible sexual skills!
Question 1: I am always the noisy one
Question 2:
At times, if the guy asks
I've heard your noises from afar! I mean I've watched your noisy video clips.
Talking during sex? No thanks. It's too distracting. But if the other party is verbalizing his sensations, it doesn't bother me as much since I'm not expected to reply.
I wouldn't want a conversation about cooking or doing the laundry while having sex!
Dirty talk or verbal commentary is a turn-off for me as well. I don't need it to get aroused, and focusing on the words becomes a distraction from the physical sensations, from the moment itself.
I have been known to make noises but nothing overly exaggerated. Think martial arts type of loud exhales -- noises of exertion or release, rather than ecstasy. Usually it's nothing to do with genital sensation or climax. The source of those noises comes from what's going on in the abdomen or chest regions, sometimes even sensations that travel up the spine. It depends on the position and how my body is responding to the "pounding."
Too much noise and talk can be very distracting.
Fantastic fantasy let's join
It was a true fantasy! Thanks for stopping by.
@spunkycumfun great i love that
Loud or obnoxious verbal commentary is a definite turn‑off for me. It feels more like performance than connection, and that takes me out of the moment.
I would never refer to or compare with other experiences while in the midst or afterward — that would break the intimacy.
What I do enjoy is sensual encouragement that acknowledges the pleasure given and received. That can be expressed in different ways: a few words, a touch, or even eye contact. For me, those kinds of exchanges keep the connection alive without distraction.
Too much or very loud noises of sex can be distracting from the pleasure that should be experienced.
Turns me on hearing bthe guys tell takem cock baby and her moaning and most definitely hearing that pussy get soak from them cocks slamming in her
That's good to know. Thanks for stopping by again.
Damn love to se a woman really loves Bing gangbang that's sexy
It's good being the centre of attention sometimes!
Dirty talk isn't necessary, what's most important is that we connect and feel one another's energy.
You make a good point.
Interesting. Not into heavy talking. Some noise and sounds of enjoyment good
The noises of sex are fascinating.
Yes!
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When someone is very noisy while having sex, is this a turn-on or a turn-off for you, or neither?
Do you do dirty talk involving others when having sex with someone?
I will have to say, definitely YES. The dirtier and more explicit, the more turned on I get. If she speaks in Spanish, I am even more aroused because by that point I can't even control myself.
On the flip side, if she makes no noise at all, that will kill the mood. I tend to be someone who is looking for cues. Be it verbal or movements or any response. If she doesn't give me any signal in any way, shape or form, it is a dead fuck to me. A girl I dated who I was really into and I thought was hot, when we finally got down to the act, it was dead silence. No words or sounds or moans or sign. It was the worse fuck to me because I felt like I had failed.
Afterward, I eventually asked her why she didn't even make a sound or even a sigh. She told me that she enjoyed it but when she was married, she had three kids and they would wake up to whatever noise in the room next door. So for years, she was use to having sex that way.
Well as far as I was concern, it was game over for me. If a woman can't be expressive during lovemaking, I may as well not even show up to the dance as the southerners say.
Sex with someone silent is a bit of a turn-off for me too.
I'm presuming you are fluent in Spanish.
@spunkycumfun Yes. although I think in English, I read, write and speak Spanish fluently. My parents were Hispanic a didn't speak much English, just a few words. So, at my house we spoke Spanish to my parents but between my siblings and I we spoken English or a form that we called Spanglish which was English peppered with Spanish and usually for emphasis we usually used the Spanish words because they had more "umf" to them. My cursing in Spanish sound so damn good it can come off scary to whomever isn't used to it.
I have also been told that when I speak Spanish to a woman, for some reason, without me realizing it, my tone drops down a bit when I speak and have been told it sound sexy as hell to them. I was un-aware that I was doing that until someone told me that.
@CallMeMrWrong69 It sounds that your Spanish voice should be regularly used as a secret dating weapon!
Sounds like some more great parties you attended there my friend. And I am glad you got to enjoy some sex with the lady who enjoys multiple partners.
You it used to be a turn on hearing others having sex, but now what is sex again? As for as dirty talking I loved doing it and hearing it too as it was such a turn on for me.
I hope you enjoy a wonderful weekend my friend..
I'm beginning to fail to understand what sex is about!
When someone is very noisy while having sex, is this a turn-on or a turn-off for you, or neither? - VERY MUCH a turn-on.
Do you do dirty talk involving others when having sex with someone? - Not when I am actively engaged in having sex, no. But I have been in situations where a group of us will be watching a scene and (quietly) discuss among ourselves with is going on.
I've never been involved in such a group discussion.
This blog post is part of a series of my swinging moments, not presented in chronological order. See SWINGING MOMENT 1: FROM THE HOT TUB TO THE LOUNGE VIA THE KITCHEN, SWINGING MOMENT 2: THE SMOKIN' HOT CHAIN MAIL DRESS, SWINGING MOMENT 3: NEARLY A DOUBLE-PENETRATION AT A LUXURY HOTEL, SWINGING MOMENT 4: EVERYBODY WAS KUNG FU FIGHTING!, SWINGING MOMENT 5: SWINGERS HERE LOVE A PREMIER INN!, SWINGING MOMENT 6: JUST WATCHING OTHERS, SWINGING MOMENT 7: HALFWAY AT UTTOXETER, SWINGING MOMENT 8: BLOOD AT A SEX PARTY, SWINGING MOMENT 9: TWO BIG NIPPLES AND ONE BIG COCK, SWINGING MOMENT 10: AN 'ORGY' IN A HOTEL ROOM, SWINGING MOMENT 11: A ZIPLESS FUCK IN A JACUZZI, SWINGING MOMENT 12: NOT SWINGING WITH CANADA, SWINGING MOMENT 13: WOULD YOU HAVE SEX WITH SOMEONE CALLED POOPAL?, SWINGING MOMENT 14: THE MAN WITH A CANE AND A NON-PLAYING WIFE, SWINGING MOMENT 15: CALLING KEVIN OUT, SWINGING MOMENT 16: A CARPET BURN, AND NOT FROM SEX!, SWINGING MOMENT 17: TWO VERY LONG DRIVES FOR NOTHING, SWINGING MOMENT 18: SOMETIMES IT'S NOT FAIR, SWINGING MOMENT 19: BEWARE OF CAMBRIDGE SWINGING COUPLES, SWINGING MOMENT 20: A WOMAN TAKES HER MAN FOR A WALK, SWINGING MOMENT 21: A HARLEY DAVIDSON AND A PANG OF JEALOUSY, SWINGING MOMENT 22: A MAGICAL TIME IN LINCOLN, SWINGING MOMENT 23: SEX WITH A 'DIRTY WHORE', SWINGING MOMENT 24: A COUPLES NIGHT AT A SEX CLUB WITH A UNICORN ENDING, SWINGING MOMENT 25: SHROPSHIRE MEETS SHROPSHIRE IN CHESHIRE, SWINGING MOMENT 26: FROM A NEVER ENDING BUKKAKE TO A NOT-SO-HAPPY ENDING BUKKAKE?, SWINGING MOMENT 27: A PROWLING WITNESS TO A DOUBLE-PENETRATION, SWINGING MOMENT 28: THE WOMAN FROM ST LOUIS, SWINGING MOMENT 29: MY BEST EVER DINNER PARTY, SWINGING MOMENT 30: THE LAST PARTY, SWINGING MOMENT 31: AN EMBARRASSING INCIDENT IN THE TOILETS, SWINGING MOMENT 32: PIMPING AT A CLUB, SWINGING MOMENT 33: FUNCTIONAL VERSUS SOCIAL SWINGING, SWINGING MOMENT 34: FALLING ASLEEP ON A TOILET, SWINGING MOMENT 35: THE BEAUTIFUL AND THE UNWASHED, SWINGING MOMENT 36: BAREBACK SEX IN RETFORD, SWINGING MOMENT 37: A PLANNED FOURSOME IN LEXINGTON PLACE, SWINGING MOMENT 38: FOND MEMORIES OF SHIRLEY, SWINGING MOMENT 39: A PRE-SWINGING ENCOUNTER and SWINGING MOMENT 40: MY WIFE AT A SEX CLUB for other moments.
These posts are solely my recollections. I readily accept that others involved may recall the swinging moments differently, especially the interpretation of the moments.