Very recently @flamintittat2024, an American female blogger from the Illinois, kindly agreed to be interviewed by me. To find out why she's not into "extreme liberals", how she became a member of the 'hundred club' even though she doesn't know her "body count", and what Eddie Van Halen can expect when he goes round to her dinner party, please read her interesting answers to the interview questions below.
❓1. As a warm-up to the interview, here are ten quick-fire, this-or-that questions to answer briefly and quickly without thinking too much. The Beatles or The Rolling Stones? Dog or cat? Fries or salad? Coca-Cola or Pepsi? Beer or wine? Marilyn Monroe, Audrey Hepburn or Sophia Loren? Paul Newman, Robert Redford or Steve McQueen? Shaved, trimmed or au naturel? Cut or uncut cock? Spit or swallow?
Beatles. Both. Fries. Coke. Neither. Before my time so none really. Paul Newman. Trimmed. Cut. Both depends on mood.
❓2. When I approached you to be interviewed, you were initially hesitant saying you are "kind of just a small-town girl born and raised in Illinois." What's it like living where you live? And what are the best and worst bits about living where you are?
Where I live, it is a small farming community. Everyone knows everyone and that can be the best and the worst of it. But I would say the best is the sense of community and the worst is the distance to anything that is a major event like concerts, plays, high end dinners.
❓3. Why did you choose your username? When and why did you join this site? How successful has your search for what you're looking for been on this site? How many people have you met up with from this site, and how many from this site have you had sex with?
My username is a play on my first tattoo. I have a sort of tribal ring of flames around my left nipple. My search is never ending. Ultimately I seek my last love, long term relationship. I do not expect to find that here though. I prefer to find it organically, in person as we used to do. I use AFF as a sort of XXX social media nowadays. I have met about 15 men between my earlier stint here in 2014 to 205 and now from July 2024 to today. I have had sex with six between both then and now.
❓4. On your Dating profile, you write that you're "not interested in extreme liberals" and that it's "a man's role to Pursue, Protect, and Provide." I'm interested in your further thoughts to unpack what you're looking for. What is an extreme liberal, and what is it about such liberals that you find off-putting? Why do you believe in the traditional role of men (and presumably women)?
An extreme liberal believes men can be women and have babies or compete in our sports. They also believe that children should be allowed to make these choices. I do not. What I find the most off-putting is that rather than have a conversation they choose to just yell louder, be disruptive, and consider a peaceful protest burning buildings and cars. I believe here in the US and likely other places there has been a breakdown in the traditional family. And I would prefer a stronger more dominant man in my life. I have been both the man and women or mom and dad for so long now, I need a break or a partner to help. That does not mean I am a submissive in any area of life because I most certainly am not. It means, give me some of that toxic masculinity that will defend his home and family, provide when needed, and teach as well. And having said all of this I still believe in a woman's right to work as she chooses. Unfortunately our government prefers to break families and tax both parental units to death.
❓5. What three words would you use and what three words would a close friend or partner use to describe your personality?
Three words ... strong, independent, and stubborn. My brother and I just talked about two traits we have from our parents ... stubborn and hard-working is what he said and it applies to all three of us kids. Three words from a friend ... strong, smart, and loyal. I think my best friends would say I would do anything for them and I'm not afraid of anything. That is not entirely true. I am afraid of some things but I live by 'never let them see your fear'.
❓6. What sort of things do you like doing in your spare time?
In my spare time on a day-to-day basis, I am in my pool weather permitting, watching TV and surfing the net mostly. Planned activities are usually rock concerts and local fests. I also volunteer at a local horse rescue. And pot/weed/cannabis ... is part of my day no matter what I'm doing. I cannot do it all day anymore, but in the evenings and on the weekends it is a part of everything.
❓7. What is your favourite book, song, movie, television/streaming show and radio programme/podcast? And why are they your favourites?
I don't have a favorite book. I smoke too much pot to read as well as I used to. I find myself reading paragraphs over and over because I just don't retain it anymore. Reading blogs on here has been entertaining lately.
Songs - Shinedown's How Did You Love; the song title is tattooed on my shoulder so we can go with that although I love most all of their music currently. For an oldie but a goodie, I'd go with Ozzy Osbourne's Goodbye to Romance.
Movies - I like a few. Tombstone, The Shawshank Redemption, anything Fast & Furious (cheesy but I like the cars and the driving).
TV - I watch the three Chicago shows and anything Law & Order.
Radio - I'm on SiriusXM for the Octane station mostly. New harder rock.
❓8. What were you like as a kid? And when a kid, what did you want to be when you grew up?
As a kid, I was a handful I'm sure. I was a tomboy that never wanted to come in or go to sleep. I fought sleep every night. Then I did not want to get up. I played softball, volleyball, and basketball. I was on every sports team my school offered, even cheer just so I could be in the mix of whatever was happening. I even did makeup for a play once just to stay after school. I never came home on time. I frequently was not where I said I would be or with whom I said I would be with. And on top of that I was smart.
What I wanted to be? Early on I found one of my Dad's Playboy magazines. I wanted to be a bunny. Later I wanted to be an accountant. Eventually I was in food service for 20ish years and now I am a flooring contractor. I would never have imagined this is where I would end up but it has treated me very well.
❓9. If you had to advise someone on how best to seduce you, what advice would you give? And If you were trying to seduce someone that you find very attractive, what would you do? And what type of date would you arrange for the seduction to take place?
To seduce me, I don't know. Humor is usually a good catalyst. If we get each other's humor when nobody else is, that is a good sign. For me to seduce someone, even harder to answer without knowing who he is. I'd probably go for a good home-cooked meal served in my best lingerie.
❓10. What is your favourite sex position? And why is this position your favourite?
Ah the favorite position question asked so frequently on AFF. My stock answer is, it depends. I don't have just one and likely have a different one with each different partner. It matters how we move and fit together more to me than saying I love a single position.
❓11. What's been your best and worst ever sexual encounters? And why were they your best and worst experiences?
My best and worst encounters were probably both with my husband. Early on we fucked like rabbits multiple times a day and almost anywhere we felt like doing it. We used to say we had very powerful sex. Fast forward 12-15 years and he almost r+ped me a couple of times.
❓12. Where has been the most unusual place you've had sex?
Most unusual place would be the White Sox stadium. Paid a porter to let us on a closed level. Had sex on the ramp overlooking the parking lot. Had a few guys cheering from below. I'm a big fan of outdoor sex too. Any forest preserve is fair game.
❓13. Roughly (or even better exactly), how many people have you had penetrative sex with? And what's the most number of times you've had sex in one day? What's the most number of people you've had sex with in one day?
I have no idea my body count anymore. I'd say it was around 100 before getting married in 1994. Since then maybe 20. Number of times in a day is probably 7 or 8 with the husband. Most number of men in a day is 3 and none knew of the others.
❓14. Do you like sex toys and/or sex accessories? If so, what's your favourite sex toy and/or sex accessory to use on someone else and to be used on you, and why are they your favourites?
I'm not a big fan of toys. Vibrators come in handy when alone but otherwise it's not really for me. I've not used them on anyone else. I have had dildos, vibrators, and plugs used on me but again not really a fan. I like it real.
❓15. What has been your most embarrassing sexual moment?
Most embarrassing moment was when I was 19 having sex on a couch and I was riding him but he was controlling the movements and he slipped and hit my ass so hard I screamed, jumped, and ran to restroom. Another couple in the other room were laughing at me. They also told that story several times when I would have preferred they had not.
❓16. Are there any sexual acts that you have not tried that you would like to do? Have there been any sexual acts that you have tried that you'd never do again? Do you have any sexual fantasies and, if so, what are they? And what sexual act, which you've done, would have most shocked you had you known when you were first sexually active?
There is many I have not tried as I'm not into bondage or restraints. Nothing yet that I would never do again other than handcuffs. Fantasy-wise, a gangbang is exciting to think about but not really something I would go forward with unless I had someone I knew would protect me. It's a vulnerable situation and I would never allow it for fear of being hurt. I can't really say anything I've done has or would have shocked me. I had a very sexual imagination as a kid (back to those Playboys I found). And I have been active since I was 13 so there's that.
❓17. What is your most treasured possession, and why is it the most treasured?
Most treasured possession, can't say I have a material possession that is that important. My kids. I did not think I could get pregnant and did not want to have kids. Then at 29 I was pregnant and sick as hell for 9 months. I call my first son my miracle baby and once I had one, I had to give him a playmate so I have 2 boys. They are incredible young men and I'm not sure how I did it on my own but I did. They make me proud.
❓18. What is your perfect three-course meal? And what drink would you have with the meal?
Baked French onion soup, prime rib medium rare with a double baked potato, and a slice of French silk pie. Coke or water.
❓19. If you could invite three famous people, dead or alive, to join you at a dinner party, who would you invite?
Tom Petty to burn a doobie and chat. Robin Williams to beg him to know his worth and stay on this earth. Eddie Van Halen to watch him play and fuck him.
❓20. As the last question, please can you volunteer three bits of information about yourself that haven't been covered in this interview?
Three things about me. I come off as rough but I want to be soft. I am my own worst enemy and critic. I give too many chances to people who don't deserve them. Working on that last one.
Do you have any questions for @flamintittat2024? If so, please post them with a tag to her below?
Can you suggest other bloggers to be interviewed next?
If not already interviewed, would you like to be interviewed?
@flamintittat2024 is happy to stay behind and answer any questions you may have for her. So please post your tagged questions or comments below.
This interview is part of a series of interviews I have done with bloggers - see the first comment at the end of the thread below for the list of bloggers so far interviewed.
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@flamintittat2024, I like the Chicago series, too
Yet another great interview, Spunky 😁
Not only have I never watched Chicago, I've not heard of it until now.
Great interview!!
It is lovely to meet you @Flamintittat2024
I'm glad you enjoyed the interview.
I totally enjoyed this interview. She doesn't like extreme liberals, and neither do I!!
Now I'm wondering what little farming town she lives in - because I'm in IL also. This state sucks.
I'm glad you liked @flamintittat2024's interview.
Small world. We're only 30 min away.
East of Beecher
Robin Williams would fall into the extreme liberal category described. He was well known for his progressive and liberal views on all manner of things. Sadly, the interviewee won't see this comment as she has me blocked, I'm clearly what she perceives to be an extreme liberal, responsible for the collapse of civilisation and for the epidemic of transexuals who are a clear and present threat to the safety of the children that epstein, trump, and all the other beasts don't already damage.
Sorry for being a party pooper, but some things are just plain wrong.
I'm glad that there are lots of 'extreme liberals' around.
On a different note, did you see a very recent poll on Brexit? It found that two-thirds of respondents regretted Brexit. Given Brexit was a very tight decision - almost 50/50 in the referendum, the poll suggests a significant shift in public opinion. It means 15 per cent of those who voted for Brexit now wished they voted Remain. There's hope!
@spunkycumfun
Yes, I saw that. Sorry, but I'm a bit down on it all at the moment, looking at farage and reform's polling figures. I even had to listen to someone complain the other day on national radio that 'they kept that £350m per week for themselves, the politicians did, so let's give farage a chance'. Really! So of that 15% who regret their vote, how many do you think will 'give farage a chance'?
Also, having been put in the same category by Tier1 Review here as the pig who thought it funny to be insulting and abusive towards another member, because I had the temerity to rebut the abuse, I don't really hold out much hope for anything. Needless to say, the abusive member is a fully paid up gold member, so of course it's okay for them to spout right wing abuse and nonsense. It's a bit like this post, too much pandering and appeasing going on. Sorrrreeeee . . .
@lindoboy100 I think there's a chance, no more than a chance, for Labour to re-position itself as pro-EU to both counter the Reform UK and the Liberal Democrats/Green threats. It will have to tread carefully though. Business and trade unions would largely support such a stance.
I'm not appeasing anyone.
@spunkycumfun
Sorry, wasn't saying you were appeasing, but allowing such drivel to be written unchallenged doesn't help anything.
Similarly, Labour responding to every little move made by farage is pandering and appeasing. We should be welcoming immigratant and showing people the value other cultures bring. We should be cracking down on anyone with any sort of racist history (such as farage), not responding to his every move in an effort to appease the right wing media and their efforts to stir up hate and victimise poor people and anyone of non-white christian background. All of that just lends weight to their abhorrent position.
Sometimes I feel like I'm the only voice making the right noises.
Sorry if that offends, feel free to delete.
@lindoboy100 Your comments don't offend me.
On the first point you make, I deliberately chose to ask a question in the interview about this issue. As an interviewer, I have a duty of care - I'm still wearing my academic hat - to ensure that the interview is a safe place. I'm not minded to ask hostile questions as the purpose of an interview is primarily to get to know a blogger better. Others are free to ask questions whatever they like - I only delete abusive comments.
On the second point, I agree with you. But my observations are about political strategy/tactics as opposed to principle/ideals. Labour does have a problem with Reform UK and I agree that it shouldn't try and out-Farage Reform UK.
For Labour to remain in power after the next election, it will have to regain support lost to other parties, particularly Reform UK. I think, much as it doesn't want to, it has to accept the Brexit referendum result for now though it should and is pushing for better and closer relations with the EU. And it has to realise it's operating in a hostile environment with regard to the media, especially newspapers, and with regard to financial markets. I know I'm being pragmatic but I see little point in Labour being in permanent opposition and labour, at least in England, is the best hope of redistributing wealth, tackling poverty, etc.
Thanks for your comment lindoboy, great point about Robin Williams!
I can’t understand why some folks are so obsessed with trans people.
@smartasswoman
Thank you, I can't tell you how much I appreciate that Smarty.
@spunkycumfun
I appreciate that you are exercising your duty of care not to ask hostile questions. But by extension, shouldn't that also apply to hostile responses? The response here is hostile to trans people, peaceful protesters to a fascist regime (who constitute the vast majority of protesters), women who don't see their place in life as secondary and subservient, and to liberals who, it seems, are responsible for the breakdown of civilisation. Don't you have a duty of care to push back against that?
Your blog all the same, you can do what you want, within reason. But the higher moral ground surely needs to be equitable?
@lindoboy100
I readily accept that you would have handled things differently than me with this interview, or rather I accept you think I should have handled things differently with this interview. But I want to defend myself.
When I asked her to be interviewed, I didn't know her views. In fact I didn't know her well at all. If I had known, would have I asked to be interviewed? Yes, I probably would. I don't see much point in interviewing people who just share my politics.
On seeing her views about 'extreme liberals' and the role of men, I purposefully decided to ask her a question in the interview to elaborate on her views. I could have easily skirted the issue, I didn't.
I'm going to keep going back to my perceived duty of care when doing interviews. I want interviews to be a safe place so people can say what they want. I'm not going to ask hostile questions, nor post hostile replies to comments or replies to comments. I want to be an ethical interviewer.
I don't think her reply to my question was that hateful to even warrant a hostile response. She was just speaking her mind. Though I think her views are very mistaken and they are views I don't share, I prefer to engage with people who don't share my views. Who needs another echo chamber?
In my interviews, others are invited to ask questions and leave comments. I don't try to shut down debate; I only delete comments if they are abusive.
Generally I prefer to engage with people who don't share my views in a hopeful rational, evidence-based and civilised manner. I realise that's not possible with trolls. But I don't think the person I interviewed is a troll. I can only do things here on this site that I'm comfortable with.
I think you know my views on Trump, MAGA, etc. I have blogged many times about Trump/MAGA. I regularly blog about climate change. And I've blogged about trans in a very pro-light in the past. I don't stand for racism or misogyny/sexism. We all counter these things differently.
Though I never claim to be on the moral high ground, I don't think I'm on the moral low ground. And I'm no appeaser. I'm polite but I don't appease!
What a great interview she is an amazing lady and I have to say I am with her one hundred percent on her meal. That's my kind of meal too, and having Robin Williams to a dinner party I so want to join in. He was one of the most amazing comedians of our time.
Thank you for sharing her story with us my friend, and I hope you both enjoy your Friday and may it be a fun start to your weekend..
I hope @flamintittat2024 will invite you to her dinner party!
Really enjoyed the interview and thanks for posting the list of the previous interviews. I look forward to reading more of them.
I'm glad you enjoyed the interview with @flamintittat2024.
Interesting read Spunky - thanks. I can honestly say I'd never spotted this lady before this.
My question for @flamintittat2024 relates to #11 above. WHAT HAPPENED? From fuck-bunnies to forced sex is quite a change!
That is quite a big jump.
@Flamintittat2024 It's the site. I'd wait a while to see if it appears.
@Flamintittat2024 🤔Did you get a message that it was denied? I could see where different reviewers might make different calls if you used the r-word, or even a variation of it. Guess we'll see eventually.
@Flamintittat2024 It has stuck. Thanks.
@Flamintittat2024 Both your earlier answers now appear. It's the site's review process which is the problem. My guess is that the 'cocaine' word meant your reply got referred for review.
@Flamintittat2024 YIKES, quite the story and completely understandable that you cut him off sexually. 🤗
A pleasure reading this interview. She says: "I give too many chances to people who don't deserve them..." yes, I can understand what she means
Now older and wiser, I'm much meaner with the chances I dish out.
Interviews have been conducted with the following bloggers:
A spoof interview was conducted with kzoopair - see AN INTERVIEW WITH A CHINESE BALLOON.
As payback for these interviews, CleavageFan4U interviewed me - see Turning the Tables on That Nosy Brit.