dan_is_wild2 49 M
2  Articles‚ Score 5.1
Why i came here   3/16/2019

I came to this site after i lost my wife to cancer. I was a lost man who was spoiled and loved at same time. I am here to learn what women of today want and what i can bring from the past to today and still enjoy . But to my shock after 4 years of great marrage that some women not all women on here are only after Itune cards or other things to have me buy for them. But im not here to buy ...


1 Comments, 6 Views, 2 Votes ,1.73 Score
ttazz316 53 M
8  Articles
please be polite   3/9/2019

what is it girls can;t reply and just say not interested thanks


3 Comments, 10 Views, 1 Votes ,1.10 Score
Love2Pleazer 42 M
5  Articles‚ Score 0.9
Scammer, fakes and frauds   3/8/2019

What is going here shaking my head? So many boys, scammer profiles and they're so aggressive like wtf!


3 Comments, 9 Views, 4 Votes ,2.08 Score
Not wanting to meet   2/19/2019

I have always said honesty is the best policy unless you are cheating. If you make a date after meeting a person and then decide it is not for you, do you ghost them or be honest and say no thanks after more thought i am not looking for what you offer? It sounds so lame via text.


4 Comments, 25 Views, 8 Votes ,2.55 Score
L00king4fun54 31 C
1  Article
Stupid one lines don't deserve a response   2/17/2019

When someone sends a message saying "I want to fuck" Or "I'm horny" I don't think a response is needed. We try to respond to everyone but disrespectful messages aren't worth our time.


5 Comments, 31 Views, 13 Votes ,3.31 Score
603BiFunCpl 35 C
1  Article‚ Score 0.1
Basic Manners   2/10/2019

It's always better to just say something as simple as, not interested or not our type; instead of just ignoring the person(s) who decided to contact you.


4 Comments, 26 Views, 15 Votes ,2.98 Score
Naughty_HotWife1 34 C
5  Articles
rejection   2/7/2019

how do you take rejection?


3 Comments, 20 Views, 10 Votes ,1.39 Score
Txmedic79423 46 M
2  Articles
Why is it so hard?   2/5/2019

I know not everyone is going to want to meet up, or even chat. But why can't people at least be civil and say they're not interested? sure this topic has been discussed ad nauseum, but it's really been burr in my saddle lately.


2 Comments, 24 Views, 13 Votes ,1.80 Score
Someone Else's F Shack   2/2/2019

This is something that happened several years ago. I started talking to a woman on here and hit it off very well. After some erotic chat and phone conversation, we decided to meet in person. It was very exciting, because we had some great conversation. <br><br> Since I had roommates, I couldn't host easily. She provided me with the option to meet her at her apartment. I agreed. I ...


1 Comments, 38 Views, 15 Votes ,1.91 Score
southernbbc89 29 M
2  Articles
A lot of guys on here   2/1/2019

What i dont get is how or why guys hit me up with stuff like-- let me suck your dick and I try to be nice and say not my style and then get pissed. Its making me respond like more of dick that I want, but only way to get left alone.


6 Comments, 37 Views, 15 Votes ,2.52 Score
barracuda05 49 M
1  Article
Does it hurt ot have proper manners?   1/27/2019

So, I was sitting here thinking, 'How hard is it really to just reply and say "No Thank You, I'm (We're) not interested." <br><br> I know there are people who will be ultimately be idiots and not take the simple straight forward hint, but those should be the exception and not the norm. <br><br> If we all were to make a concerted effort to be more ...


6 Comments, 34 Views, 17 Votes ,3.83 Score
JoshRook7 22 M
4  Articles
Saying No Half-Way   1/23/2019

It really needs to be understood that just because you said "yes" to sex, doesn't mean you're obligated to continue. <br><br> People get uncomfortable. They have second-thoughts, lose interest, or just decide they aren't ready. <br><br> And that's totally okay. <br><br> This especially applies to women, but for everyone out there - you ...


3 Comments, 35 Views, 13 Votes ,2.98 Score
psylckr520 35 M
3  Articles
a simple "no thank you"   1/21/2019

A simple "not interested" would be better as opposed to being ignore, but whatevs. <br><br> p.s. this is for points


5 Comments, 35 Views, 17 Votes ,3.55 Score
xxxmedicxxx 46 M
1  Article
Why is it so hard?   1/12/2019

Why is it so hard for people to just say it?


3 Comments, 23 Views, 8 Votes ,3.48 Score
Fogger312 50 M
5  Articles
Be polite?   1/10/2019

Why is it so difficult to say "no thanks" if the person is not interested? It's frustrating enough being rejected, but there's no to completely ignore a request (unless they are harassing you). <br><br> Thoughts?


3 Comments, 21 Views, 9 Votes ,2.57 Score
anotherfamousduo 52 C
1  Article
Don't be rude!   1/8/2019

I prefer responding to say "no thanks" rather than ignore someone. No one likes to be ignored.!


7 Comments, 30 Views, 10 Votes ,3.39 Score
simplepleasuresz 50 M
9  Articles
Now I know what the ladies feel like around here;)   12/31/2018

a straight guy just as my profile says. I respect all people's orientation mine is just mine. Notwithstanding my likes, I have repeatedly received requests from some local guy to suck my cock on . I've ignored them all. Now the guy sent me a message to complain about my failure to respond. I mean read the profile, not your match. I like my cock too but this is a little over the ...


5 Comments, 35 Views, 13 Votes ,2.81 Score
simplepleasuresz 50 M
9  Articles
Now I know what the ladies feel like around here;)   12/31/2018

a straight guy just as my profile says. I respect all people's orientation mine is just mine. Notwithstanding my likes, I have repeatedly received requests from some local guy to suck my cock on . I've ignored them all. Now the guy sent me a message to complain about my failure to respond. I mean read the profile, not your match. I like my cock too but this is a little over the ...


1 Comments, 19 Views, 10 Votes ,2.39 Score
BrisWarrior 37 M
5  Articles
Men’s Sex On Premises   12/30/2018

I would often attend a sex on premises venue where men, often older men, get the opportunities to cruise dimly lit maze style halls and rooms in search of a cock to suck. I must admit that I get horny when attending these places but do not find old guys attractive, in fact only really have an amazing nterest in nice looking hot, large cocks. Anybody in the same boat?


1 Comments, 20 Views, 10 Votes ,1.39 Score
ttazz316 53 M
8  Articles
are the girls really just looking for sex   12/26/2018

are the girls on this site really just looking for sex and why are their guys on here pretending to be girls


2 Comments, 22 Views, 9 Votes ,2.36 Score
Starcock83 35 M
6  Articles
Is it right to just ignore someone?   12/20/2018

Call me old fashioned but I feel that if smeone says hi to you in a chat setting, or Im even if you aren't interested you should say smething and not just ignore the person. m I wrong in this or is it right to just say ahhhh to hell with them....


3 Comments, 47 Views, 12 Votes ,3.15 Score
Catfish   12/13/2018

No thanks can be tricky. Meeting someone for the first time and they look nothing like their pics that have been posted. The best way I feel to deal with that situation is to tell them that they misrepresented themselves.


0 Comments, 33 Views, 16 Votes ,3.57 Score
walkinbanana2 39 M
6  Articles
Watching   12/12/2018

I have to, on a weekly basis, have to turn down fucking a girl with her husband watching. This must be way more common than I thought.


1 Comments, 29 Views, 12 Votes ,2.27 Score
meincovky 44 M
4  Articles
Hello out there   12/2/2018

I get it that free members have limited chats, but once in a while just saying "no thanks" to someone is helpful if you are being messaged first. Does help with the process of not hitting them up again....


3 Comments, 25 Views, 16 Votes ,2.54 Score
splitcase 38 M
6  Articles
Bar room pick up.   11/24/2018

Last night I went to my local water hole. When I got there it was the same locals relaxing around the bar. About half way through my beer, a slender red head girl walked in. She sat down a few stools down from me wearing a form fitting white button down shirt and tight black jeans. When the bartender asked her for a drink, she said just water she was waiting for her date. ...


2 Comments, 38 Views, 17 Votes ,1.71 Score
tyme2play4me69 43 M
3  Articles
Y is it that people would rather not respond than to tell someone no thanks not interested?   11/15/2018

Is it just me or is it that people would rather ignore you than tell you no thank you not interested why is that or is it just me that that happens to?


8 Comments, 62 Views, 21 Votes ,4.36 Score
Taking no for an answer   11/8/2018

Why can’t men jus take no for answer? I myself respect it when a woman says no and I leave her alone. I have heard men and talked to men that say they will not take no for an answer and they will continue to push to get what they want. Men should just respect it when a woman tells them no. How many of you out there agree with this?


2 Comments, 33 Views, 20 Votes ,3.64 Score
lookn4fun482 42 M
1  Article
how to say not interested   10/27/2018

i have come across a few that i wasnt interested or they werent interested i dont have a problem saying it but you have some that juust end up disappearing instead of saying there not interested is it that hard for some to actually say it and be truthful


1 Comments, 28 Views, 15 Votes ,3.28 Score
How to say 'no' after you meet up   10/18/2018

Hi, Sometimes you chat with someone and really hit it off. Unfortunately, when you meet up you just dont click. What is the nicest way to say no thank you without hurting anyone? thank you.


2 Comments, 43 Views, 9 Votes ,2.36 Score
siouxceedee 60 M
2  Articles
Be nice   10/14/2018

It seems people contact people but say nothing... of they just start with nasty openings.. Seem even though this site is to meet people ... I think being nice should be standard.. <br><br> fee members or paid members should get the same respect <br><br> be smart be nice be safe


1 Comments, 20 Views, 12 Votes ,3.33 Score
Being pushy   10/10/2018

Why are the single men in here so damn pushy not all but definitely came across a few of them


4 Comments, 62 Views, 28 Votes ,4.78 Score
BlackKnight71304 42 M
11  Articles
BBC Rejection!   10/9/2018

I understand not everyone is interested in Black Cock and I don’t try to force it on any female. Ladies if it’s not your thing I understand but don’t insult us at the same time you are rejecting the BBC. We are all big girls and boys I would hope so insults are not needed. Now if you want to explore the BBC there is a way to do that as well. Hit me up and let me give you a tip!!


2 Comments, 20 Views, 6 Votes ,1.66 Score
DirtyBoi1423 23 M
2  Articles
yes or f off?   9/24/2018

cant you just say no thank you? instead of telling someone to piss the fuck off and being a rude person. up your game and be respectfull


1 Comments, 21 Views, 6 Votes ,2.23 Score
6ftsexyFun 35 M
3  Articles
Bots! What’s up with the Bots?   9/19/2018

Okay so I can’t stand bots on sites. They drive me crazy! When your using a sit and you have to pay for sending messages, it really sucks when you start chatting with a bot, and don’t realize it at first. Why? Why do they do this? In all honesty I know why, but come on? Really?


2 Comments, 23 Views, 11 Votes ,3.73 Score
mahesh1975foru 43 M
1  Article
Woman looking for money   9/4/2018

Lot of woman on the site who are looking just for money. Not as a result of a friendship here but as the criteria to have friendship.


7 Comments, 56 Views, 21 Votes ,4.24 Score
n2udeep00 36 M
2  Articles
If they are not your type.   9/4/2018

How do you say no without hurting anyone's feelings?


4 Comments, 50 Views, 19 Votes ,3.65 Score
zeustaz316 54 M
4  Articles
why can't the women on hear juat say not interested   9/2/2018

what's up with the girls on hear they start talking ask for pics and then just stop if they are not interested why not just say that it is not a big deal just called manners and being polite


2 Comments, 37 Views, 14 Votes ,4.58 Score
prositioned   9/1/2018

say no somebody might be in a sting


1 Comments, 12 Views, 5 Votes ,1.19 Score
PleasureBoy4All 41 M
1  Article
No thanks   8/31/2018

It's hard to get to know someone without chatting with them to see if you click. But once they say no thanks, I do my best to stop bugging them. <br><br> Sometimes I say no thanks but that's normally just to the perv guys, lol... <br><br> Hope you all respect others.


0 Comments, 9 Views, 8 Votes ,3.71 Score
Thehorneydevel21 21 M
1  Article
Life is how you make it   8/16/2018

Life is how you make it if you want something to happen make it happen only you can do it no one else


0 Comments, 7 Views, 5 Votes ,1.84 Score
smithjack81 35 M
1  Article
Why is it weird for guys to say "No thanks"   8/9/2018

Why is it weird when a guy turns down a girl? Maybe hes not attracted... girls can do it all the time, but a guy does it and theres something wrong with him.


4 Comments, 32 Views, 12 Votes ,2.98 Score
Curvedthick9 43 M
1  Article
Why can't most people do that on here?   8/9/2018

You won't offend me by saying no thanks, or just not interested. Why are people on here just rude in general. At least say hi if someone is being courteous. Have some frickin manners. Just sayin.


1 Comments, 27 Views, 14 Votes ,3.46 Score
1couple4fwbs 40 C
3  Articles
Try to be nice to everyone.   7/24/2018

We get a lot of messages from others that we are not interested in. I always try and tell them that we are not interested but appreciate them taking the time to us. Our response is thanks for the message but we are not interested in you but wish you luck in your search. We have had some that say thanks you to. Then we have had some that get very offended and say mean things. I sorry but we are ...


2 Comments, 63 Views, 16 Votes ,5.33 Score
snglguy9091 41 M
4  Articles
Chemistry   6/29/2018

So if you meet someone from here and find out the chemistry is just not there, how do you handle it? Do you treat it like any regular date, or because it started with an emphasis on meeting for adult fun, end the encounter quickly. Either way, i think its best to be thoughtful of the impact on others feelings.


2 Comments, 14 Views, 7 Votes ,3.30 Score
Slickgf2412 36 M
1  Article
Cam play   6/26/2018

Why is everyone so afraid


0 Comments, 19 Views, 12 Votes ,1.74 Score
lookn4yu2day 67 M
18  Articles
When The "No Thanks" is to online communications   6/23/2018

It is much easier for a person to give a "No Thanks" when a face-to-face meeting has never occurred. The less the communication before that "No Thanks" message...the easier the saying and the receiving on the other end of the "connection." <br><br> Yeah, I know..... all of this is "common sense." No newsworthy item there! However, remember... ...


0 Comments, 8 Views, 5 Votes ,4.12 Score
lookn4yu2day 67 M
18  Articles
When The "No Thanks" is to online communications   6/23/2018

It is much easier for a person to give a "No Thanks" when a face-to-face meeting has never occurred. The less the communication before that "No Thanks" message...the easier the saying and the receiving on the other end of the "connection." <br><br> Yeah, I know..... all of this is "common sense." No newsworthy item there! However, remember... ...


0 Comments, 7 Views, 6 Votes ,2.51 Score
lookn4yu2day 67 M
18  Articles
When The "No Thanks" is to online communications   6/23/2018

It is much easier for a person to give a "No Thanks" when a face-to-face meeting has never occurred. The less the communication before that "No Thanks" message...the easier the saying and the receiving on the other end of the "connection." <br><br> Yeah, I know..... all of this is "common sense." No newsworthy item there! However, remember... ...


0 Comments, 12 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
Excluding the "No" in "No Thanks"   6/21/2018

Rejection is difficult for some to hear. As always, try to be polite and circumvent negative words. This includes "No." <br><br> Most people who I have met are very understanding and come across as being mature. <br><br> So, in lieu of saying "No", try to express my preferences and thank them for the compliment.


0 Comments, 4 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
BoiButt 41 M
3  Articles
Be polite   6/17/2018

When somebody sends you a message about being interested in you, the least you can do if your not interested is just be polite and say “ no thank you “.


1 Comments, 25 Views, 9 Votes ,2.78 Score
orallygivingguy 37 M
5  Articles
How to say No Thanks, when meeting in person first time   6/15/2018

How do you politely say no thanks, once you've finally met in person, without coming off rude?


1 Comments, 26 Views, 4 Votes ,4.02 Score
lovethsebigtits9 40 M
3  Articles
when enough is enough   6/14/2018

when some becomes too pushy and you have to say no thanks, should be enough for any man or woman. letsd have some respect in this world.


0 Comments, 11 Views, 6 Votes ,2.23 Score
Parka462 40 F
5  Articles
Przyj\ciele   6/9/2018

http://Xmatch.com


0 Comments, 2 Views, 1 Votes ,2.40 Score
Rogueadventure2 47 C
1  Article
ouch   6/9/2018

I love all the people on here that take these amazing pictures that fool you into thinking they look amazing. Then they send you a more real picture, this is when I feel lied to! LOL I know that makes me sound shallow but I have a wide sweep in taste and some of these pictures are scary. I always get these after chatting for a while and then I never know what to say. I don't want to be rude ...


0 Comments, 32 Views, 8 Votes ,2.55 Score
up4goodtimennm 45 M
4  Articles
Xmatch IM   5/30/2018

Wondering what every ones thought are on the IM here. Is it just me or does it seem extremely rude to not at least say no thanks to a chat request. I understand some people get bombarded with requests but when I can see that it has been read at least say no thank you and move on.


3 Comments, 33 Views, 9 Votes ,3.00 Score
ttazz316 53 M
8  Articles
why do women not reply   5/26/2018

most of the women i send messages to don't reply they could at least say not interested or no thanks


7 Comments, 60 Views, 12 Votes ,3.33 Score
Saying "No Thanks"   5/23/2018

If someone writes you or even IMs you and you are not interested ... Please have the courtesy to say "no thanks" or "Sorry Im not interested". Dont keep them guessing if you are just busy. Thats how everyone on here gets annoyed and frustrated. Just a thought that might help others


6 Comments, 50 Views, 13 Votes ,3.31 Score
GiveMeCurves84 35 M
7  Articles
A difference between aggression and desperation   5/21/2018

I'm sort of torn commenting on this. <br><br> I love it when a woman is confident and strong or submissive and meek, either is attractive. It's hard to say no when someone is "desperate" though, too handsy, overly aggressive and sloppy...ya no thanks.


0 Comments, 10 Views, 5 Votes ,2.49 Score
Monologue Responding to IM messages   5/17/2018

I'm sure you all experience monologuing when you chat and no one else answers. Such a waste of time. All it takes is for you to reply "no thanks" don't leave us hanging.


1 Comments, 7 Views, 1 Votes ,5.00 Score
How Hard is it?   5/17/2018

This is just for points lol.


1 Comments, 14 Views, 8 Votes ,2.09 Score
arealbadboy333 50 M
5  Articles‚ Score 0.5
People that don't respond   5/9/2018

How hard is it to say "No thanks." or "I'll pass". With the sketchy performance of Xmatch's Messenger, how is any to know if an actual message is getting through? I don't mind saying, "Sorry, not what I'm looking for at this time." but...nothing??? That's just rude anytime and anywhere. Your thoughts?


1 Comments, 17 Views, 7 Votes ,4.06 Score
conversations   5/7/2018

Why is it so hard to start a conversation in IM?


1 Comments, 16 Views, 8 Votes ,2.09 Score
i wish   5/5/2018

i wish people has the respect to say no thank-you thank-you


1 Comments, 12 Views, 7 Votes ,2.02 Score
IDang4321 34 M
12  Articles
saying no   4/26/2018

just say no like the say in school


1 Comments, 11 Views, 5 Votes ,1.51 Score
Courtesy   4/22/2018

Seems that when people aren't interested on here, that they don't even say no thanks. That would reduce harassing texts. You only have to tell me once.


7 Comments, 34 Views, 9 Votes ,2.14 Score
TalentTaster 51 M
1  Article
Read and Respect the Profile   4/14/2018

I have made it clear in my profile as to my sexual orientation, preference. I enjoy doing webcast and interacting with the viewers. If you have seen any of the very few cast I have done I address the woman, but if i'm asked a question I'm going to answer or tell the guys to read the profile. I don't care who watches but if your not tipping or buzzing I'm going to block you. I ...


0 Comments, 14 Views, 6 Votes ,2.23 Score
thicknrealfun1 37 M
2  Articles
Persistence even after you say no thanks   4/3/2018

I get it quite a bit from couples... but the persistence these days when you say no thank you is crazy. I don't like reporting or ignoring people, but they continually think they are going to change you mind. This is especially the case with couples and gay men on here. <br><br> Anyone else running into this?


1 Comments, 25 Views, 6 Votes ,3.93 Score
deepcream4u044 32 M
1  Article
What not to do.   2/12/2018

So if some takes the time out of their day to message me, and I still have a chat request remaining (yea it's ridiculous I need a chat request to REPLY to an incoming message, thanks new Xmatch) even if I'm not interested if the person was at least some who I might have considered I like to answer and just say no thank you. What I don't like to do is just ignore them, leave the room ...


1 Comments, 43 Views, 16 Votes ,3.72 Score
gandchodh 34 M
3  Articles
It's best to say no instead of creating   2/7/2018

I use this site frm almost eight years and found here a lot of fake ID's. And many mention they are here for real fun but when any one contact them they said they are here for fun but they were passing their tym.with chat only. So I think it's better to say no instead of making other fool.


0 Comments, 36 Views, 24 Votes ,6.65 Score
iowabull008 44 M
2  Articles
polite people   1/28/2018

I know this is a pay site and prohibitive to people who aren't paying. I would just like people to tell me they're no interested instead of seeing a pic and ghosting. I am an adult. it's not like we all haven't had rejection in our lives. <br><br> please just communicate. <br><br> Thank you


5 Comments, 41 Views, 18 Votes ,4.22 Score
docklove1970 48 M
3  Articles
BULLSHIT people are phoney and have NO backbone   1/14/2018

Let me tell you all something, we all find out the hard way sometimes. It comes down to ppl are not raised right. They don't have a backbone and common courtesy. What is right? Just say NO thank you, and move on. BUT, people play you a long, play fucking ring a round the posey, beat around the bush. Ultimately you have pissed off people.


4 Comments, 41 Views, 11 Votes ,3.92 Score
When you chat and find out the truth   1/5/2018

It’s tough when you see a pic for the first time after chatting a while, but it’s always best to be hst.


5 Comments, 59 Views, 16 Votes ,4.16 Score
rm_hoganslogan 30 M
4  Articles
Why dont people have basic coutesy to reply a IM   12/30/2017

If you are not keen to talk to someone. Why not have basic coutesy to atleast reply them.. <br><br> You read the message n ignore.. thats so bad


8 Comments, 60 Views, 11 Votes ,2.42 Score
zekkstrom 33 M
6  Articles
Quick and easy   12/27/2017

One of the best ways is to simply say "Thank you, but I'm not interested. I wish you luck." This works great, as long as it is sincere. If people get upset at it, that isn't your fault, and you've done your part.


1 Comments, 17 Views, 11 Votes ,3.73 Score
looking4uinroc2 46 M
11  Articles
alone on the holidays sucks   12/22/2017

its hard when you meet someone and they are just not attracted or into you. I always just try be happy and move on but I always wonder why they don't like me. I wonder if it was just the way I look or if it is something I said I didn't say. I wonder if I could have said something different or if they just were not attracted to me or maybe its just the sound of my voice or the way I talk.


1 Comments, 13 Views, 7 Votes ,2.28 Score
Iwannabeused 42 M
5  Articles
So ummm   12/3/2017

Is it just me or are women very good at it? lol


0 Comments, 8 Views, 5 Votes ,1.51 Score
DOM_Mann80 38 M
6  Articles
how do you say NO to your partner   11/17/2017

how do you say no to your partner when you don't want sexxx ?


3 Comments, 14 Views, 3 Votes ,1.47 Score
SavvyBurlyReal 39 M
7  Articles
Lots of ‘bots’ or people just looking to make a quick buck   11/14/2017

It seems like when ever I have money I run into someone that wants money from me. I have no problem spending money on women but paying for sex is something that isnt in my book right now.


2 Comments, 15 Views, 4 Votes ,2.86 Score
fun4all195756 51 M
5  Articles
NOT JUST NO, BUT HELL NO   10/17/2017

I find it very funny how many people on here pose as couple, when it is just a bi guy. I also get a kick out of the number of women on here that are gun hoe till they find out you are not a young hunk. I myself don't see the need for a young hunk or a young woman to be here? I know they can find all the sex they want on their own. I was wondering how many people here find this site to be a ...


4 Comments, 44 Views, 11 Votes ,3.17 Score
Shinso13 36 M
1  Article
Honesty before things get weird.   10/16/2017

Sometimes you will find couples that want to do things together, whether you are into that or not is not the point of this, it is more to say that if you are up front with your limits or what you want out of something instead of hoping you can sneak it in you will get a lot farther in life and relationships.


1 Comments, 18 Views, 8 Votes ,3.01 Score
sweetness9001 66 F
1  Article
Please if you can read my whole profile   10/8/2017

It seems I am having to say no thanks to a number of men simply because they can't or don't read my whole profile. I am a young 65 year old who does prefer a younger man. As my profile states though please no one under 30 or over 55. It is not that difficult to understand yet I am having to say no thank you to a number of men. I am always polite say hello then tell them sorry no the ...


7 Comments, 109 Views, 17 Votes ,4.54 Score
Politeness   9/20/2017

I always appreciate when someone says no thanks if I page them on IM. If someone pages me and I dont want to chat I always let them know instead of ignoring them.


1 Comments, 21 Views, 8 Votes ,3.94 Score
Just decent   8/16/2017

How many times have you messaged someone and gotten no reply? I always answer my messages even if it is to say "No Thanks" at least then the other person has an answer. It is just common decency.


3 Comments, 25 Views, 9 Votes ,3.21 Score
totalreelielitt 40 M
4  Articles
Choices that have very fine sinus congestions in the end of the wrong turn I made...   8/13/2017

Is it so very negligent to leave your pets all about and without proper behavior? Really I'd rather swim in the ocean and find gold perhaps at the bottom of the abyss than date a bismol. That way the never ending battle I had with Achilles and guess what. I offer his soul back up to Zues himself. The little pixie liked to pick the wrong fights and found out that I'm superman compared to his ...


1 Comments, 11 Views, 2 Votes ,1.73 Score
bigboystwo2 48 M
11  Articles
gotta be gentle   7/24/2017

some come ready to play.. so if you don't want to, ,, ,, be nice.


1 Comments, 11 Views, 7 Votes ,1.00 Score
ebonylover2019 50 M
6  Articles
funny i would love how to learn to say no thanks!!   7/17/2017

saying no thanks must be a woman thing, cause as a guy, not sure I would turn down any woman who wanted to meet.

most women on Xmatch are very sexy, they may not have sexy hot bodies, but they do have sexy hot minds. If they don't I am not getting to the meeting part of chat!!

as long as women are hot any horny, and seem like they enjoy pleasing people sexually, I am all in!


1 Comments, 13 Views, 9 Votes ,3.00 Score
Lukin4allofU 55 M
11  Articles
Is it so difficult?   7/2/2017

Whenever I make contact to anyone, If I am not going to enjoy time with them... 1. I don't lead them on 2. I am always polite 3. If asked to get together, it's easy to refuse and let the (person or individual) know I will not be meeting them.

Sooo, why is it so difficult for other to do that? Many members I have found do not ever let you know, we are not a match!

Shameful!!!! ...


1 Comments, 22 Views, 14 Votes ,3.30 Score
Maks1960 58 M
3  Articles
why cant people   6/26/2017

Every time I try chatting most will not answer. If they are not interested why cant they say so.


8 Comments, 73 Views, 15 Votes ,1.75 Score
Respeitar o não!   6/24/2017

A mulher como todo homem sabe, é de fases uma hora está com o humor dos melhores outra hora está com o pior possível, ela pode dizer que está afim de transar e no mesmo instante dizer que perdeu a vontade. Muitas vezes isso é de deixar o cara puto, porém o que sempre prevalece é a vontade de ambas as partes no que em minha opinião é requisito fundamental para a relação ser prazerosa, ...


1 Comments, 9 Views, 5 Votes ,3.47 Score
rimee59 49 M
10  Articles
Two Guys   6/12/2017

I was offered one time to meet two guys at a park. I told them I was not interested in that. Then one guy was talking to me and asked if I would just meet him for an exchange blowjob. I said I would consider that. So we made arrangements to meet. The park was about 40 miles to get to for each of us. When I got there he had a camper trailer attached. He was parked in one of the more inside the ...


1 Comments, 151 Views, 18 Votes ,4.22 Score
bigboy_aloha 43 M
1  Article
do women get offended?   4/25/2017

I'm curious if a lady would be offended if I politely declined after meeting? Sometimes the vibe isn't there and inquiring minds want to know.


10 Comments, 84 Views, 12 Votes ,3.33 Score
lickforher69 20 M
1  Article
no to a bad night   4/17/2017

when you are out partying trying to enjoy your night when all of a sudden you get a gut feeling knowing something isnt right with the girl thats trying to get with you fallow the gut on feelings that night i had that feeling then found out that girl that was trying to get with me got locked up for having a shit ton of drugs in her car


1 Comments, 20 Views, 5 Votes ,2.16 Score
Xxentric_1 44 F
6  Articles
Don't knock it   4/10/2017

Don't knock it till you try it, don't judge it before you've had a chance to understand it don't deny it before you've had a chance to accept it.. I think that it's rude when somebody hit you up even if they are outside spectrum of Desire or expectations as far as what you're looking for on this site or every day in the world. I think the bypass somebody or not consider them simply because of ...


8 Comments, 114 Views, 23 Votes ,4.53 Score
sexylund119 33 M
9  Articles
no thanks   4/1/2017

when u say o any one for some of work u r happy


1 Comments, 13 Views, 3 Votes
izzynshe 68 C
1  Article
Manners   1/23/2017

We recently became members to this site... We have gotten several flirts, emails, and our profile has been viewed by many. We have been busy checking out profiles that fit what we are looking for and I must say we enjoy and are having fun already.. However there are a couple of single men that have commented and sent us emails and we have found that even though we didnt request single men they ...


7 Comments, 139 Views, 16 Votes ,4.89 Score
msusoccer 39 M
1  Article
emailing   1/15/2017

Why does it seem like on this site women are significantly more interested in just ignoring emails rather than saying no thanks. I get the emails that are short, 3 or 4 words, but when a guy takes the time to compose a thoughtful email, shouldn't that at least deserve some kind of response? What happened to common decency?


11 Comments, 77 Views, 6 Votes ,2.23 Score
tght14u03 47 M
5  Articles
Meeting up   12/21/2016

I'm beginning to think everyone is pic collectors. No one wants to meet without pictures. Remember when we didn't have the internet and we met for drinks. I have never had a problem meeting in person and either you are into them and great or one of you is not into the other and gi your separate ways. We're all adults. Once someone has had their identity stolen, fake profiles made and see how hard ...


4 Comments, 53 Views, 10 Votes ,4.78 Score
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1 Comments, 8 Views, 3 Votes ,3.92 Score
ussion topics are for original mat   11/21/2016

ussion topics are for original material written by members. Any plagiarized material will be removed from the site. Also, please observe the HornyWife Terms of Use. If you see material that is inappropriate for HornyWife, or that may have been publish


1 Comments, 11 Views, 3 Votes ,0.49 Score
sexaddictdon 61 M
42  Articles
Is being crazy contagious? - There is always a price you must pay!   11/16/2016

While riding the train downtown last evening (yes we now have light rail trains in and around Los Angeles) to the Lakers / Brooklyn Nets game(at Staples Center) my phone blew up (figuratively not literally) with texts from not one but two former booty calls. What was strange is both of the booty calls have from time to time tried to reconnect with me a time or two in the past. I have ...


3 Comments, 144 Views, 27 Votes ,5.45 Score
sexaddictdon 61 M
42  Articles
SexCapades ..Sex Tourism .... Sex vacations..are they worth it?   11/1/2016

SexCapades ..Sex Tourism .... Sex vacations..are they worth it? A few days ago, at the Lakers home game / season opener, I ran in to a good friend and an acquaintance I've know since high school. It was nice to see them and talk to them at the game and catch up since we don't talk on a regular basis, except at a gathering, social event or party once or twice every year. They were both in ...


1 Comments, 92 Views, 6 Votes ,5.07 Score
Inheatat46 52 F
4  Articles
This Member "djhits20072 " Male 55yr Old Harassing Me   10/30/2016

This guy seemed nice in beginning conversation. We only conversated on the phone. After awhile, he began having notions that I would video us and put it on this site. If you go to his profile you will see that he is definitely not the type of male you guys would want to see in a video with me. Anyway, he kept talking about us being videoed. He began going over and over again about being videoed ...


1 Comments, 56 Views, 10 Votes ,4.38 Score
ItsRight4now 42 F
1  Article
We all have different tastes   10/15/2016

I think it should be fine to just message back saying you are simply not interested. I have had people tell me they aren't interested for one reason or another and I think you just have to remember that we are all individuals with individual taste. How many of us would be left out if we all had to fit into a specific mold? That being said I also don't think people should get all pissed off when ...


6 Comments, 58 Views, 12 Votes ,4.21 Score
1BigWetPhatKat1 53 F
15  Articles
SAY NO THANKS AND RUN WHEN...   10/15/2016

Hi my fellow Xmatch brother and sisters,

I want to offer some friendly advice, not only to men but to women too. Please beware of the little foxes and wolves on this site who are on here targeting us innocent people on here just trying to have fun and meet great people.

We have to remember that some people are on here with BAD and DESTRUCTIVE motives. Be sure to keep ...


5 Comments, 82 Views, 19 Votes ,7.08 Score
OneLustyGuy 44 M
6  Articles
The other way around   9/29/2016

Typically, more commonly than not, men are the ones being rejected when approaching someone of interest, for this or that reasons. Reasons are not really the subject of my post. But I was curious, how often does it happen to the ladies? how did you girls react to the rejection? Did you think it was acceptable, totally unfair, did you get upset or were you oblivious to it and moved on as fast as ...


2 Comments, 24 Views, 4 Votes ,3.25 Score
notbender2 47 M
4  Articles
Is it rude to say "No Thanks"?   9/16/2016

I think we all need to learn when to say it and when to hear it without comment. Let's bring back "no, thank you" and follow it with a full stop.

In this world of over-sharing, it can be tough to stop at "no, thank you." It feels awkward, but you will get used to it.

You are not being rude by saying "no, thank you." Anyone who refuses to accept it is being rude by questioning ...


1 Comments, 36 Views, 6 Votes ,3.65 Score
petpan2000 52 M
17  Articles
being polite   9/12/2016

we are all here pretty much here for the same reason...

this doesn't mean that one should insult or be impolite to each other... the way I see it - there is either attraction or not - if not - say no, no thanks or not my type...

I understand that this refers mainly to responses from women to men BUT some men also need to accept a NO and not further bother the ladies on this ...


1 Comments, 14 Views, 4 Votes ,3.25 Score
jrhammer44224 37 M
3  Articles
Personal Preference versus Racism   8/30/2016

I'm all about equality in life, every human being has a fundamental right to try to make a living and find happiness. I may not like some aspects of how a given group of people approach their ethical practices towards others, but it is behavior that transcends race and creed.

That being said, I was recently approached on another site by a woman. Nice, similar cultural interests, ...


4 Comments, 42 Views, 4 Votes ,3.63 Score
Secretsforus2015 33 M
5  Articles
The Best Ways to Say No!   8/30/2016

So I am always curious what a woman on here believes is the "best way" to say no to someone she is not interested in.

I know a fair number have decided not responding is a solid route to get men to stop messaging them. At least eventually.

Women, what have you found is the best way to let a man know "I am not interested' but at the same time get a man to stop messaging you over ...


3 Comments, 29 Views, 8 Votes ,2.78 Score
kedde1988 30 M
1  Article
getting ignored   8/29/2016

I hate when I send a PM or chatrequest and never get any answer. I think that its common respect to at least tell me "No thanks i´m not interested" instead of ignoring me


4 Comments, 29 Views, 7 Votes ,6.10 Score
Just be Candid   8/26/2016

One of the more difficult things we encounter is to 'not feel the same way' as someone we might meet. In other words- we simply are not attracted to them and would prefer not having intimate relations. How best to let someone down

In my experience candor with compassion is the best way. We are all humans with many insecurities and doubts. No one is perfect and no one is for everyone. ...


0 Comments, 8 Views, 2 Votes ,5.20 Score
Tea compared to sex   8/26/2016

If somebody offers you tea or coffee- and you say yes- that does not necessarily mean that you Will have tea every time you are together with this person.

The same goes with sex.


1 Comments, 7 Views, 4 Votes ,4.02 Score
RhymesWithSassy 44 T
3  Articles
SENSITIVE EGOS   8/25/2016

Some people just don't take "no thanks" very well. If someone gets on your nerves...

My advice:

When it comes to blocking memebers, don't forget to be on the FULL site (go through My Account, Blocked Members) so that you can check ALL the boxes to block them from seeing your profile (which contains multiple vulnerabilities). Just blocking someone on the MOBILE site only ...


1 Comments, 13 Views, 3 Votes ,3.43 Score
nerdygirl721 29 F
2  Articles
Sorry, Ill have to decline   8/15/2016

I have no problem responding back, even if I dont want a meet and greet. But sometimes I may want to still talk. So many guys on here are so focus on the meet and greet that they miss out on other opportunities. Like phone sex, I would be open to that or playing sex games on the IM. Not everytime you message a girl will lead to an physical encounter, but at least there is still fun to be had.


2 Comments, 43 Views, 14 Votes ,4.58 Score
ohmamma1 31 M
2  Articles
what happened?   8/7/2016

you know it really bites when you're trying to just say hello on the IM and people don't respond. Id much rather hear not interested than wonder if my IM isn't working. then it's me sitting there wasting my time and points trying to get a message through to the person and not understanding why this isn't working?


1 Comments, 21 Views, 4 Votes ,4.41 Score
EOOkuro 25 M
2  Articles
Fake   7/24/2016

Why are their so many fake profiles. I wish their was away to eliminate them from all these sites completely. I have to say no not because we arent a good fit but just because of the stupid profiles.


0 Comments, 7 Views, 1 Votes ,3.70 Score
pariapos 36 M
1  Article
hayır   7/12/2016

hayır


0 Comments, 0 Views, 0 Votes
To many   7/12/2016

Where the real woman its to many man trying to get at me. I'm not gay


1 Comments, 10 Views, 2 Votes
JR20163 35 M
5  Articles
Is it that hard to say no thanks?   7/10/2016

Is it that hard to say no thanks? simple polite response just saying your not interested?


4 Comments, 17 Views, 0 Votes
toungeman4woman 62 M
7  Articles
changes on Xmatch   6/19/2016

So about three days ago Xmatch was at it again change the cam vire you could not even see you owen cam WTH is going on here new management or what


1 Comments, 12 Views, 0 Votes
It is better   6/14/2016

To say no thanks than to simply ignore. Most people will at least try to remember and not bother you again if you can be honest enough to say "no thanks".


6 Comments, 33 Views, 6 Votes ,4.79 Score
toungeman4woman 62 M
7  Articles
Xmatch CHANGES TP STANDARD MEMBERS   6/13/2016

As modt Standard members now know Xmatch is charging point soe just about everthing. Im CHAT VIDEO VIEW ETC


3 Comments, 23 Views, 2 Votes ,4.50 Score
sexaddictdon 61 M
42  Articles
An older man and the younger woman .....   5/20/2016

Half-your-age-plus-seven. This formula has somehow become the definitive rule for the youngest age of a woman a man can date.

So a 59-year old guy can date a 36/37-year old girl. No problem there. But if she’s 30 years old…I am now called a pervert or creepy guy.

Okay, maybe that’s an exaggeration. But still so many people in ...



7 Comments, 242 Views, 15 Votes ,3.90 Score
funsmartfriendly 50 C
4  Articles
5 Tips to Make "No Thanks" Easier   5/15/2016

It's more fun to say yes than no. Unfortunately you will encounter the latter more often. The million dollar question is how to let others know it's no?

Here are 5 tips we try to follow in response to a first date. Yoda would tell us to "do" not "try" but we all can't be sages like Yoda.

Oh, and yes, some of these won't work when you are being propositioned to play ...



0 Comments, 67 Views, 5 Votes ,4.12 Score
fashionablegma 75 F
22  Articles‚ Score 8.8
How do you   5/11/2016

say you are not interested in the best possible way


4 Comments, 47 Views, 13 Votes ,4.49 Score
SeanTheDon3 23 M
10  Articles
Home   5/6/2016

I'm bored and want points


0 Comments, 11 Views, 4 Votes ,1.30 Score
psbiguy 59 M
3  Articles
Whats the best way to say not interested.   4/27/2016

I have gotten a lot of response to my profile that are younger then what I am looking for. My profile heading is even Coffee Buddy 60+ w/benefits". I don't want to be rude, just I am not looking for younger. A few times I had the same couples ask repeatedly and finally had to block them.


1 Comments, 23 Views, 2 Votes ,3.12 Score
Neil1980s 30 M
1  Article
Why is it diificult for some to at least say "No Thanks"?   4/7/2016

With so many people from all over the world on this site, it's fair to say you'll find someone you're interested in meeting with pretty quickly, though it's also fairly likely that that person may not be interested in meeting you, for whatever reason.

That's fine, but as far as I'm concerned, basic courtesy dictates that if you receive a message, then you at last reply to it, if only to ...


8 Comments, 63 Views, 6 Votes ,4.22 Score
Hamiltonman1094 40 M
14  Articles
when you hear no thanks?   4/4/2016

When you hear no thanks


3 Comments, 21 Views, 1 Votes ,2.40 Score
Wantodouto123 55 M
2  Articles
Do you have morals!   3/26/2016

OK so this actually happened to me in about 10 years ago. I was out partying with my best friend and his wife and we went to a local bar where we live just to have a good time and play pool..... As The night went on we all were getting pretty buzzed up....Now let me say Jennifer his wife is extremely gorgeous and I admit I've fanatized about her, anyway I made my way to the bathroom when ...


3 Comments, 44 Views, 3 Votes ,4.90 Score
TabithaBeau 43 F
1  Article
being Gentle   3/23/2016

my own policy when it comes to turning someone down on an adult site is simply to say, no thank you, thank you for understanding. There is no advantage at a point of rejection to be offering specific excuses, as it only creates a defensive situation.


4 Comments, 37 Views, 14 Votes ,5.06 Score
Lizzy6969 49 F
2  Articles
Doesn't matter how you say it..........   2/26/2016

It doesn't matter how you say it, the person on the other end 95% of the time gets offended. Its a lose lose situation. I have said it so many different ways, changed my profile so hopefully they wouldn't even email me (that does't work, men look at pictures), I have even just deleted the emails being rude and not saying a word but that don't help either cause they continue to email ...


9 Comments, 79 Views, 14 Votes ,4.58 Score
You have to say what you mean....   2/1/2016

There are some people who think that "no" is the hardest word to say in the world. I am not one of them. Some people believe if you say "no" you will lose friends, or be unpopular. Better to be friendless and unpopular, than to say yes to something that will put you in a poor position.

So, "no thanks" is often necessary. And it's actually better than radio silence. There are many who ...


2 Comments, 27 Views, 10 Votes ,5.38 Score
You have to say what you mean....   2/1/2016

There are some people who think that "no" is the hardest word to say in the world. I am not one of them. Some people believe if you say "no" you will lose friends, or be unpopular. Better to be friendless and unpopular, than to say yes to something that will put you in a poor position.

So, "no thanks" is often necessary. And it's actually better than radio silence. There are many who ...


0 Comments, 3 Views, 2 Votes ,1.73 Score
jacobmille565565 34 M
3  Articles
They get there and they aren't what you expected   1/21/2016

Has anyone ran into the situation where you invited someone from Xmatch over with adult fun in mind only to find they are not as advertised? How did you handle this situation. I'm sure it is really awkward for everyone involved. Or maybe there was something that just turned you off when they finally got there. How did you handle saying "no thanks"?


11 Comments, 155 Views, 14 Votes ,4.74 Score
TheOnlyHotspot 40 C
5  Articles
I might be too blunt   1/13/2016

If I'm not interested it's going to be a straight up answer. I am nice but blunt is anyone else like that or am I the only bitch. If you n I have nothing in common I'm sorry but it's not happening

NO THANKS


4 Comments, 33 Views, 5 Votes ,3.80 Score
THETRUTH575 40 M
11  Articles
Temptation NOT   1/5/2016

Remembering my fun days i just sit back and smile. Always been great at showing my passion when i have sex. Saying this to say i have had a lot of unforgettable times. But time stops for no one if you don't take care of your self it shows. So when a old sex partner hits me up on social media I look sometimes and be like damn what happened. No thanks even if i remember how delightful your pussy ...


0 Comments, 13 Views, 0 Votes
rm_WERYRYIO 42 M
1  Article
YES or NO   12/13/2015

we do say YES when its come about sex life and normally word NO in sex life was just a word thats mean nothing. As long we live and ability to want means YES to our sex life


2 Comments, 20 Views, 4 Votes ,1.30 Score
KIngofAces5 21 M
1  Article
Sent mixed signal and chasing a lost of interest   11/11/2015

This is usually the reason why people pursue after someone. Because they thought they may be interested in them or may possibly give them a chance however when the individual decides to say no then the aggressor typically a man ( Man dominated cultures and in this chase America) thinks the chase (woman/man) is just playing hard to get. It is the flirts, misinterpreted body language that has ...


1 Comments, 30 Views, 10 Votes ,4.38 Score
rejection on reason basis and strength of rejection   10/30/2015

some people just do not like to accept "i don't like you" as an answer. what could be done in this case? one of the good choices could be reasoning and explaining the reason unless he/she is some kind of psycho, in which case rejection should be strong and exempt from reasoning


2 Comments, 22 Views, 4 Votes ,3.63 Score
rm_NOPoet30 67 M
51  Articles
NO!   10/29/2015

Hey Look Ppl - No is NO and they usually [90%] mean just that = NO. Once should be enough! To keep going is not only pointless, but it is also very annoying and can lead only to trouble. Listen and comply.


4 Comments, 19 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
clubg24 77 C
1  Article
JUST SAY "NO".   10/8/2015

Some people are just so sweet hearted that even on a sex site they have difficulty saying NO to someone who is trying to get them into bed. No one enjoys being rejected but...for something as serious as giving my body to someone for their pleasure and me indulging in theirs I feel a need to be extremely picky. Maybe if you don't get many invites and you are desperate to get laid your expectations ...


10 Comments, 155 Views, 31 Votes ,6.50 Score
1BigWetPhatKat1 53 F
15  Articles
Traveled the Road Less Traveled   10/4/2015

Well Ladies and Gentlemen, I tried to travel down the road less traveled and let me tell you... I learned some major lessons.

As Oprah would say, what I know for sure is... what I like and do not like and what I will and will not tolerate.

Let me explain I traveled down the road of younger guys and what my experience was... the sex was great, but... and we all know that the but ...


3 Comments, 74 Views, 11 Votes ,4.48 Score
Hotplombier34 37 M
1  Article
FILLES open sur la rivesud de montreal ??   9/19/2015

Yas tu du mondes sul party a soir


0 Comments, 2 Views, 2 Votes ,5.20 Score
SoCarolinaMan 60 M
2  Articles
How do you feel when you make a "date" for swinging and the other party does not show up?   9/12/2015

Whenever a party says they will meet for a sexual encounter and they do not show up, what do you do?


4 Comments, 39 Views, 9 Votes ,4.07 Score
TwoPlusOne4Funnn 34 C
1  Article
whoa can we meet you before your genitals   9/6/2015

Why ...just why lol do people think it is attractive to send genital pics in their 1st ever message to you like hi this is my stuff do you like....um I don't even know anything about you yet...immediate turn off


8 Comments, 45 Views, 11 Votes ,6.35 Score
1BigWetPhatKat1 53 F
15  Articles
Male Head vs. Female Head   8/28/2015

This is a repost of an blog I did in 2012

I am just flabbergasted about a NSA that I had with a dude here on Xmatch. 1st of all he did not read my post. 2nd he was selfish and lazy. 3rd he wanted me to give him head but not return the favor. 4th he had the ordasity to get upset about it. 5th he still wanted to have sex after I left.

This is a 38 year old man (now he's ...


4 Comments, 82 Views, 17 Votes ,6.24 Score
rm_DeAnnaGray22 37 T
1  Article
Harsh Articulation   8/15/2015

In response to the email I received asking if I am interested in you I will begin by stating that I read your profile thoroughly in an effort to offer a no ‘bs’ and sincere answer. Typically I would simply not take the time to read through a profile without a profile picture attached. It shows a lack of confidence and conviction. That, in and of itself, is less attractive than the homeliest ...


4 Comments, 48 Views, 8 Votes ,4.87 Score
Say No Gracefully   6/21/2015

If something is not working out, just let the other person know as soon as possible. When you tell them, be as gracious as possible. Thank then for what they have done for you in the past and/or pay them a compliment. Then, gently let them know that things are not working out, why they are not working out, and then tell them that things must end. When you tell them the reasons, try not to blame ...


6 Comments, 41 Views, 12 Votes ,5.98 Score
Women don't have a patent on preference   6/1/2015

There's no doubt that the man to woman ratio on this site is 500/20. That means a man has a 4% chance of actually getting as much attention as a woman on here. This doesn't include couple status. The women seem to be the smart ones on here. The ones worth talking to are selective, as a man should be. Some people just don't get it though. All I can do is shake my head when I hear a woman talk ...


6 Comments, 70 Views, 9 Votes ,5.14 Score
rm_fun2play6709 44 F
1  Article
But they won't go away!   5/16/2015

I have met a few guys on this site. I usually message back and forth, then either make a decision whether I want to continue on or cut the ties. Behavior that is persistent, constantly messaging me on my phone while I'm asleep or at work...ugh! This is why when I get messages from guys I know there is not a chance in hell we will have any chemistry, I don't respond. I also have a message that ...


4 Comments, 71 Views, 17 Votes ,4.12 Score
girly4girlyfun 44 F
1  Article
I agree with something SensuousShades said.....   5/1/2015

If I am approached in a polite respectful manner....I will likely respond in the same way. You get what you give.

If you repeatedly email me "hey lets fuck", "me in ur pussy" Or "come suck my cock"... You will get nothing from me. Honestly, I don't "owe" anyone anything if I don't even know them. That's part of the territory in this community. If you don't get a response......don't be ...


6 Comments, 62 Views, 19 Votes ,7.21 Score
SensuousShades 34 C
3  Articles
I suppose   3/18/2015

The way respond to unwanted emails or IMs is based on the request we've received. If the person messaging us is polite we'll respond with "thank you for your interested, but you aren't what we're looking for."

Sometimes people say things that we can't actually respond to so we leave those messages unanswered. Messages like "Hi, I want to cum on your face" don't get responses.


6 Comments, 68 Views, 17 Votes ,6.24 Score
lookin4funinBC9 58 M
2  Articles
At least say No!   3/13/2015

Just wish if you contact someone they would say No! Saying nothing is worse.


10 Comments, 105 Views, 15 Votes ,4.36 Score
1HORNYOLDBUGGER2 54 M
3  Articles
How to let down some unwanted suitor.   3/4/2015

Ever have this happen to you.. You check out your e-mail and find someone from the same sex hitting on you, or a sexually unattractive member wanting you to have an encounter with them. Face it the world is a crap-shoot. That's the adventure called: romance. How to not to seem rude and decline the offer. Just say in a polite manner, " I'm flattered that you have found me attractive, but I'm not ...


10 Comments, 86 Views, 11 Votes ,3.17 Score
Mean People Suck   3/1/2015

I've been here for while. I've been successful. I had a lot of fun, and I've met some very special ladies. I think about each one as a bottle of wine, the bottle that I shared with them: Chardonnay, Riesling, a particularly good vintage of South African Wine, and yes even a Merlot. I've also met some real jerks, at least on line.

I have sent at least 200 emails to which I received no ...


4 Comments, 59 Views, 5 Votes ,5.10 Score
IM   1/28/2015

i am a charming guy trying to make conversation and too many times i get someone just suddenly end an IM conversation. isn't there a more polite way to say we should end this?


2 Comments, 18 Views, 1 Votes ,2.40 Score
fredericton_4fun 34 M
10  Articles
This has probably has been discussed alot but.   12/17/2014

How do you best say your not interested in another couple in a face to face meet n greet? I have always respected being honest with people but sometimes a white lie in these cases are too bad. Tell me your thoughts ....


2 Comments, 47 Views, 5 Votes ,3.14 Score
Bbcnmad 37 M
2  Articles
I think this might mess our friendship up   11/18/2014

Tell them that there a really great person but our friendship means more to me then just a hook up


1 Comments, 61 Views, 6 Votes ,2.51 Score
rm_robpsf415 27 M
12  Articles
Saying No   11/13/2014

How would you go about saying no thanks to someone who is incredibly persistent yet sweet at the same time?


14 Comments, 105 Views, 12 Votes ,3.86 Score
rm_goodsxwithu 53 C
10  Articles
Too much   11/12/2014

Saying no just got to be too much now we just ignore profiles that we're not interested in.


5 Comments, 71 Views, 13 Votes ,4.15 Score
Using IM   11/8/2014

I find that many simply never respond to an IM request for chat. Is there any etiquette on this matter?


12 Comments, 108 Views, 9 Votes ,4.49 Score
kimdan4fun 35 C
10  Articles
Testimonials   11/7/2014

Do you sometimes say no thanks to someone that has given you a testimonial?


5 Comments, 49 Views, 7 Votes ,5.08 Score
capecodhottie4 30 F
10  Articles
To thank or not to thank   11/6/2014

I use to love going on the IM but I rarely do now because all it turns into is a steady stream of vulgar come ons from every jerk ever put on this site. I not only don't say no thanks I ignore them altogether and let them wonder if their IM is working.


3 Comments, 63 Views, 18 Votes ,5.85 Score
pilloprncess4 43 F
1  Article
What's the best way to say, I'm not interested.   11/3/2014

I get a lot of men that are not in my desired target (too old, couples, everything but single, live too far away) messaging me. I put in my profile specifically what I'm looking for but the majority of contacts I get are not what I'm looking for. What's the best way to say, no thanks I'm interested or don't hit me up.


3 Comments, 65 Views, 9 Votes ,3.64 Score
prettyinpink838 31 C
6  Articles
No   10/31/2014

Saying no has become very easy to say on this site especially with single guys.


1 Comments, 41 Views, 5 Votes ,4.12 Score
rm_3xthefun99 32 C
4  Articles
Blocked!!!   10/21/2014

There's no need to feel like you have to answer all these guys, just block them period.


2 Comments, 44 Views, 11 Votes ,4.29 Score
It is always better.   10/16/2014

It is always better to know whether a person likes you or not..Or better to tell another person that you do not like them. Why leave a person hanging. If you go to a meet and the person is not the same as the picture, or is just someone you do not feel is what you are looking for, then let them know. I prefer to know and have had a few ladies tell me why and it makes me understand their point ...


2 Comments, 24 Views, 6 Votes ,5.36 Score
funcouplerus2 33 C
5  Articles
No thanks.   10/15/2014

Do single guys realize that most women and couples get hit repeatedly every day with stupid emails from single guys? We have jobs we don't need another one answering all the stupid stuff that comes our way. Oh and here's an idea try writing things that make sense and that don't reek of coming from an 11 year old.


10 Comments, 77 Views, 19 Votes ,4.84 Score
MovingOn001 61 M
9  Articles
The Best Way to Respond to "No Thanks" Replies   10/14/2014

Like anyone who has been on Xmatch for any length of time and has tried to make contact with someone, I have received my share of "Thanks, but No Thanks" replies. I have been told however, that my response to those "No Thanks" replies is quite different than what most women receive from those kinds of replies.

I am not rude or abusive to the woman who told me "No Thanks". I do not whine or ...


1 Comments, 68 Views, 12 Votes ,4.92 Score
rextaylor941 48 M
1  Article
Honesty the best policy?   10/11/2014

If you are not interested, what's the best way to say...No Thanks! Ignore someone or just say no?


4 Comments, 34 Views, 6 Votes ,3.37 Score
MorganJ 49 F
2  Articles
Since you asked...   9/30/2014

As I glanced at the articles on the Saying "No Thanks" page, I noticed that 5/12 of the articles on the first page were all regarding the fact that women here often don't give a polite 'no thank you" when emailed or IMed. I certainly don't expect that posting my reason for not responding to those who contact me will make a dent in the future "why are women so rude" questions, but here goes ...


7 Comments, 113 Views, 18 Votes ,3.81 Score
Why does this seem to be so difficult....   9/21/2014

I can understand that a huge amount of requests are posted on this site especially in the chat rooms & IM, but so many people just don't have the time to reply with a polite "No Thanks", it's almost like everybody is in such a rush or seem to hold themselves in such a high esteem that it's below them to do so (you know who you are people, admit it). I was always brought up to be polite and it's ...


7 Comments, 84 Views, 12 Votes ,1.39 Score
hotasiantaiwan 30 F
12  Articles
CAN YOU CHANGE YOUR DIRTY SEX MIND?   9/8/2014

A couple of years ago I was really into nipples. Human nipples in particular (you wanted to take it there). I loved the way my partner’s nips felt up against my skin, and the way mine felt against their man-chest and lips. I loved the sensation and the eroticism of the little weird evolutionary phenomenon. I think my curiosity turned into a playful exploration of all the cool things you could ...


5 Comments, 118 Views, 22 Votes ,4.93 Score
sweetboi1234 28 M
10  Articles
avoid shit   9/4/2014

Sometimes u just have to say no wat is for u is for u don't rush life avoid unexpected stuff in like avoid say no


1 Comments, 28 Views, 9 Votes ,2.14 Score
It has to work for both or not at all   9/4/2014

Whenever I talk or chat with someone about meeting, I try to make it very clear that even though it may sound like a match and a hot time ahead, you don't know if it works for you until you meet. Everyone has their own preferences and attractions, I always meet with the agreement that if it won't work for either one, it is a thanks, but no thanks, a handshake, and good luck to you. I am not ...


4 Comments, 84 Views, 3 Votes ,5.39 Score
Ebonyforwhite 43 F
1  Article
Do men read profiles at all   9/2/2014

Yes i like both men and women but at this time I'm looking for only women to play with but these men seem to think they can change you mine by saying I need dick if i want dick i will get dick but i want and need pussy no thank you another black men s


6 Comments, 81 Views, 13 Votes ,4.82 Score
rm_KidP09 27 M
2  Articles
Saying No   8/29/2014

When someone isn't attractive to you but keeps coming at you how do you let them down easy?


4 Comments, 45 Views, 5 Votes ,3.80 Score
rm_tnhotcock469 36 M
1  Article
Being Polite   8/25/2014

I wish that people on this site would try a little to be polite. If somebody sends you a message and you are not interested in them; just respond back and say that you appreciate their interest in you, but you are not interested.

I do not think it is very nice to just ignore their message. Think of it like this: they found you attractive enough to take the time to send a message, you ...


13 Comments, 108 Views, 25 Votes ,2.69 Score
BBWFREAK856 36 F
9  Articles
not interested   8/18/2014

Why do ppl constantly message you especially on I.m when you say your not interested and they just keep at it. I blocked this guy and he changed his screen name 3 times just to keep bugging me. Why is im not interested so hard to comprehend? It bugs me with the persistance of some people. I hate to be rude but sometimes thats all that will work.


4 Comments, 44 Views, 16 Votes ,2.25 Score
Second Encounter   8/17/2014

How do you let someone know that you're not interested in a second encounter?


2 Comments, 48 Views, 4 Votes ,1.30 Score
kittykitty05 47 F
3  Articles
The best way   8/15/2014

What's the best way for a girl to tell you that they aren't interested? Do you want a response? Is an explanation needed or is "no thanks" enough? Do guys realize that many will send back a response that mimics the attitude that the interest is given?


4 Comments, 54 Views, 9 Votes ,5.56 Score
Ways to not say "no"   7/23/2014

If you send someone a friend request and your YIM and then suddenly start ignoring all messages, even those that say "Hey, it's ok if you are not interested, JUST LET ME KNOW, " that is rude. Please just say "Sorry, I am really not interested in pursuing anything further with you." Believe me, most people on here are mature enough to say in response, "OK, good luck, " and move on to the next ...


12 Comments, 70 Views, 10 Votes ,2.39 Score
Wittyneel 47 C
3  Articles
Hypocrisy?   7/12/2014

Xmatch has been a good platform for like minded people to get to know each other...express themselves. But i guess the reality is very different. Many a times the profiles are misleading. The response one gets is so different that what's in profile. Knowing well that with distance, different priorities and in general the circumstances it would not be possible to always meet in person. The big ...


4 Comments, 85 Views, 7 Votes ,4.06 Score
NuBoyToy4u 32 M
10  Articles
just say . . .   7/8/2014

no.

i've already had enough to eat.

thanks though.

k.

bai.


2 Comments, 13 Views, 3 Votes
kcutemilf 51 F
1  Article
The Polite No Thank you   7/5/2014

So, here you are on the instant messenger. You log on to see who's chatting, someone flashes across your screen with a hello, you quickly view their profile, you're not interested! What do you do?

Well, from experience that my significant other has had on this site, most people just ignore the other person if they're not interested.

I am one of the types that believe that's not ...


10 Comments, 121 Views, 28 Votes ,6.73 Score
No Reply Is a Message Also!   6/27/2014

That's what the blogger wrote on my blog awhile back: "No reply is also a reply." I wonder about that really? I mean, I know it could be, but I also have found that days later after I have made an inquiry with someone by sending them an introductory email, they respond and not always in a negative fashion.

"I've just been so inundated by emails." one sweet lady wrote. Another said she ...


4 Comments, 40 Views, 4 Votes ,4.80 Score
bryan01962 54 M
3  Articles
Why is it so hard to reply   6/15/2014

Why do people, women, never reply to messages even if just to say "sorry no thanks". Surely it cannot that hard to do.


8 Comments, 123 Views, 18 Votes ,3.40 Score
vonoberfen 52 M
3  Articles
I listen to NO   6/14/2014

I listen when someone tells me no. I respect their choice, and will ask, if it is appropriate, what led to their decision. I prefer conversation to conflict, and think that feedback allows me to make changes if needed. However, that doesn't mean I won't ever ask again! There is a place for persistence, and I have even been called stubborn (really). I had a work place encounter that ...


0 Comments, 31 Views, 4 Votes ,3.63 Score
rm_Fort4084 32 M
24  Articles
women   4/2/2014

Women on this site are such ass wipes if u dou wanna take to a guy wen he sends a message tel them that don't not send a message and then I keep replieyin thinkin u didn't get my massage and then al of a sudden am a freak yr such ass hole


15 Comments, 166 Views, 18 Votes ,0.53 Score
sckrump1234 48 M
1  Article
be nice   2/16/2014

give some kind of response, let them know u got message, or they might keep mailing


3 Comments, 62 Views, 5 Votes ,2.49 Score
LIKESTOLICKMOORE 46 M
29  Articles
Everyone On Xmatch has been really, really polite to me   2/3/2014

People have either said no thanks and said why, or they've said, later and then contacted me later to get together.

I love this site, it's a great place to meet people.

I've tried some other sites and didn't have any luck whatsoever.


3 Comments, 58 Views, 9 Votes ,4.28 Score
annie444u 52 C
196  Articles
It's rare when we say no thanks, but when we do we're honest with them   1/23/2014

Be nice, be up front and be truthful to everyone.

We've had a hard time with three or four single guys - our add clearly states no single men but they continue to message us and one, after being told no for the fourth time went off on a rage on annie accusing her of being a slut, a whore and a cheating wife....we reported him and his profile soon disappeared from Xmatch.

Since then ...


3 Comments, 66 Views, 11 Votes ,4.10 Score
annie444u 52 C
196  Articles
It's rare when we say no thanks, but when we do we're honest with them   1/23/2014

Be nice, be up front and be truthful to everyone.

We've had a hard time with three or four single guys - our add clearly states no single men but they continue to message us and one, after being told no for the fourth time went off on a rage on annie accusing her of being a slut, a whore and a cheating wife....we reported him and his profile soon disappeared from Xmatch.

Since then ...


3 Comments, 41 Views, 9 Votes ,4.92 Score
How many 'No Thanks' can you take?   1/20/2014

Browsing down the categories to see where I should post this and the SAYING 'NO THANKS' heading waved and whistled at me..... Been married 35 years and it is a very strong marriage with some severe tests along the way; great highs, painful lows and buckets of tears and laughter along the way. We are very close and are best friends and the only secret I have from my wife is my registration on ...


5 Comments, 101 Views, 4 Votes ,2.47 Score
matrix976 40 M
10  Articles
How do you say No?   10/28/2013

Do you take the time to right back to the person and say why you aren't interested? Do you just reply with a simple NO? Do you reply with a rude turn down? Or do you just ignore the emailer if you're not interested.


12 Comments, 152 Views, 16 Votes ,3.42 Score
wildcatr27 47 F
11  Articles‚ Score 1.9
confused i am   9/23/2013

so many times men complain they do not get a reply from women either by email or on the IM chat.

well explain this.... as i have just been lectured by an 18yr old boy that i was rude for accepting his chat request and explaining my preferences to him, several times

he was then abusive and told me i was wasting his time by accepting the chat

so we get criticized when we ...


10 Comments, 141 Views, 22 Votes ,5.41 Score
TomRakewell 30 M
10  Articles
Constructive   9/18/2013

Do you give constructive criticism when saying no?


4 Comments, 51 Views, 8 Votes ,2.55 Score
how to say it and not be rude   8/6/2013

there seems to be a culture that says saying no is insulting, i have to disagree, asserting your right to make the choice you want without fear of peer pressure is fundamental part of life. admittedly i dont get to say no much on here!


0 Comments, 29 Views, 6 Votes ,3.93 Score
CO_adventures 32 M
7  Articles
If there is just no attraction...   7/21/2013

One of the tougher reasons to just say, especially if a woman on this site is showing interest and there is just no attraction towards her, but in the few cases, I have tried to be honest instead of just leaving it go. Thoughts?


6 Comments, 83 Views, 7 Votes ,2.79 Score
hawg4fun13 36 M
15  Articles
Safe Sex   7/9/2013

Play Safe!!!!


1 Comments, 27 Views, 5 Votes ,3.80 Score
promexa01 28 M
10  Articles
¿Qué no harías?   7/7/2013

¿Qué no te gustaría hacer?


0 Comments, 7 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
rm_xxx736581520 37 M
4  Articles
ok   3/27/2013

It hurts a little but its polite and averyone should have their say


0 Comments, 42 Views, 8 Votes ,2.55 Score
rm_xxx736581520 37 M
4  Articles
fitness   3/27/2013

lets try and look after our bodies. at least lets try. its always sexy to our partners


1 Comments, 25 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
jpj789 45 M
1  Article
I have a difficult time saying "no thanks"   3/14/2013

In general, women that I meet via Xmatch fall into three main categories: "Yes!", "Not great, but she'll do" and "No $%#@ way!!".

You can call me shallow. You can call me a sex fiend or a predator. I don't think so - just an ordinary guy looking for some fun.

The twist is that I'm a gentleman. I don't abuse the women that I meet. I treat them well - with respect and try to keep ...


5 Comments, 93 Views, 10 Votes ,2.79 Score
sexslavexoxo 26 F
1  Article
I wish it was easier to say NO   2/18/2013

People come on here, and verbally abuse young women when they are not interested. over and over again, messaging, not giving it up, it almost makes me scared to come on here. i wish there was a way to stop it.


6 Comments, 87 Views, 7 Votes ,3.80 Score
Linc1912 42 M
12  Articles
Implied "No Thanks"   2/16/2013

I can accept a "no thank you". Its clear, and easily understood.

What ALOT of us men get unfortunately, are NO responses.

If the man actually took time to write a paragraph that didnt include WANNA FUCK, or COME FUCK NOW, then shouldnt you return the common courtesy of a response?

NO response is just rude. If you had time to read it, you have time to type a response.


6 Comments, 94 Views, 11 Votes ,5.04 Score
Music_Lover69 26 M
10  Articles
rejection   2/12/2013

girsl probably reject a lot here.. i mena seriously they must get like 100 messages a day and they get to pick who they wanna fuckk.... isnt it tru ladies....


2 Comments, 45 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
annie444u 52 C
196  Articles
Question, Would You Rather Be Told No Up Front   2/5/2013

We have a couple we like and have been talking to on a regular basis for nearly two years. Both are extremely hot and both tell us that they want to take their first plunge with us, which I believe, but Danny is skeptical.

I say they're afraid to take the plunge, that it is erotica for them to talk to us, share pictures with us, talk of swapping; of their fantasies.

However, ...


8 Comments, 139 Views, 14 Votes ,4.10 Score
No Thanks and Just Being Ignored   1/20/2013

Well I had to come here and post an article. It is also a pet peeve of mine about sending out completely nice and respectful emails and never hearing a reply back. Sure, it's hard to say no thank you but it then leaves no doubt you're not interested.

Also what I hate even more is when I start an email conversation, goes for 1-2 messages and the woman stop replying. She's on but ...


7 Comments, 77 Views, 5 Votes ,1.51 Score
portorchardcoup 56 C
4  Articles
Isnt Easy   12/24/2012

you email you chat you share picks and you decide that you would like to me... You make the plans and you meet and on the surface all is cool...but under the conversation and laughter that lil spark required to get naked isnt what it should be.....you know it will never happen

been there done that...it just isnt easy since the underlying reason for meeting was to get naked.....I would ...


3 Comments, 83 Views, 8 Votes ,4.64 Score
XXXplaypal 57 M
14  Articles
Manners....   11/25/2012

Why do some people not takes a minute to say no thanks if they arent interested. It's only polite...


6 Comments, 62 Views, 7 Votes ,3.30 Score
CivetGlandHippy 35 M
11  Articles
Respect   11/23/2012

Why do some not understand that a simple no means just that...no? Please people respect is essential if you respect others you will simply get much further in the lifestyle as well as in life.


1 Comments, 8 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
portorchardcoup 56 C
4  Articles
No Thank You it stings only for a min   10/29/2012

We once had to have the most awkward of "No -Way back in the beginning, our first encounter actually..before the internet..so you spent time on the phone getting info and mental pictures from their descriptions. After a number of conversations we all agreed to drive half the distance to the other and meet for coffee.

They had got there first and looking for the car we drove and as we ...


1 Comments, 48 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
bigmoney22578 26 M
11  Articles
mm   10/27/2012

It Be Times When Some One ASk You If You Want This And That , but it want hurt you to tell them no thanks at times


0 Comments, 10 Views, 0 Votes
blackshirtj 41 M
1  Article
Why?   8/13/2012

I have come to notice that most people on this site are either to full of them selves to be polite or just don't care.

Personally, being ignored is a personal pet peeve and is the quickest way to piss me off. When you get a email or IM from me and take the time to look at my profile even if you are not interest you could do me the courtesy of saying sorry not interested vs just deleting ...


7 Comments, 66 Views, 11 Votes ,0.92 Score
nervouspervis469 46 M
3  Articles
Why are folks afraid to say "not interested", "thanks anyway", etc...   8/11/2012

Having been on here a while now, I have met some cool folks and exchanged emails here and off the site. What I just don't get though is the lack of response from members...

I've read and talked with others about how the sites full of fakes, nobody is real, etc...

Is that the reason for lack of response? Or is it lack of decency or some feeling of superiority? Something else?? ...


5 Comments, 65 Views, 9 Votes ,3.21 Score
One Should Accept No   6/27/2012

I am into swinging life style for last 8 years and over the years I have met many Couples and women.My experiences told me that No is a wonderful thing and one should accept it very gracefully. Not every one I met went forward to have sex. Many occasions we met and chemistry didn't worked out so we had our coffee or drink and left.Not many could take it gracefully and they bitch about you but few ...


0 Comments, 34 Views, 4 Votes ,0.92 Score
nobody328 26 M
23  Articles
DIFFICULT TO AVOID   5/30/2012

I MYSELF FIND IT DIFFICULT TO SAY THIS WHEN SOMEONE INTIMATES ME


1 Comments, 45 Views, 5 Votes
being nice   5/26/2012

saying no can be harder than saying yes? right? sometimes it is just easier to go with the flow and just sleep with a partner because easier than to say i dont like y64, that's life, you got to be strong.


0 Comments, 23 Views, 4 Votes ,0.92 Score
dtwts 54 T
3  Articles
Be Up Front and Fast   5/22/2012

The best way to do say no on the IM chat is to do it quickly, otherwise the message sender thinks you've stepped away from your computer for a moment (or whatever) and they'll keep sending messages and bugging u. Oh, and hoping that they'll read your profile to see what your preferences might be (a polite thing to do for sure) is a lost hope. Some people are just going to do what they do but if ...


3 Comments, 75 Views, 10 Votes ,3.19 Score
Matureneedednow 19 M
1  Article
How do you do it ?   5/7/2012

How do you say "no thanks" to someone without coming across rude?


2 Comments, 55 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
lonelycasahotfr 37 M
9  Articles
drugs are bad   5/3/2012

sometimes when I date a girl, she comes up with this stupid idea to do drugs, weed or white powder. It's really annoying, as if drugs enhance your stamina or improve your mindset

you just have to say no thanks, bang her and move on...


0 Comments, 33 Views, 7 Votes ,1.00 Score
babyneedsitnow 54 C
1  Article
We think No means No   4/22/2012

If someone is hesitant in any way shape or form then respect of their wish is imperative.


2 Comments, 56 Views, 8 Votes ,2.09 Score
LTRwhornyman 60 F
4  Articles
Courtesy is very easy to offer   3/20/2012

We can't account for the behavior of other people but we can account for our own behavior. Being on an adult sight doesn't give anyone a license to be a jerk.

There are lots of folks here without photos or any identifying information which I understand completely but the shame is that this level of anonymity often leads to very bad behavior...in other words a lack of general human ...


4 Comments, 53 Views, 8 Votes ,4.17 Score
Let's try it   3/11/2012

Small cub Friend alway say no ? He saw he wanted only he he had a big dick but he was all total safe -sez bottom. Good sex ass and friend for me.I says being a Total Top yes!

Small cub, finding top guys to bend his little ass oversize-ones with a thanks.


0 Comments, 19 Views, 0 Votes
__A_J__ 47 F
10  Articles
What's the problem?   2/1/2012

I don't believe a lot of people understand what the two words 'no thanks' means. How many times does a person need to say it? ...


5 Comments, 96 Views, 23 Votes ,3.60 Score
treasurepurrsbk 60 F
1  Article
No Thank you to Smokers   1/20/2012

I say over and over No thankyou .why cant a person understand No thankyou Im alergic to tobbacco. No matter how you try cover it up how sexy you think you are or how youll quit after No thankyou .I like to breathe


2 Comments, 70 Views, 11 Votes ,3.92 Score
darekprince 22 M
5  Articles
I just cant   12/22/2011

Have you ever had that one guy that no matter how much you tell yourself no and that you can do better still gets to you some how? Well I have a guy like that. Ever since the first time we hooked up I just cant say no. He can go without talking to me for a month but when he calls me or texts me to hook up I fight a little or make myself unavailable, but the sex is so hot that I just give in ...


5 Comments, 133 Views, 6 Votes ,3.65 Score
caguy45 52 M
1  Article
Distance Rejection   12/19/2011

I reject people who live more than 100 miles away and they get very upset typically. I dont understand why so many long distance people contact me and why they get huffy when I say no. Just happened todat with somone over 2000 miles away, and NO photo to send!


5 Comments, 98 Views, 8 Votes ,3.94 Score
badgirlfriend97 37 F
3  Articles
Please dont be a dick   12/9/2011

My profile plainly states im looking for a specific thing so please dont be a dick when you contact me and show what you dont have and im not interested. I know that makes me sound like a bitch i just know what i want and if you dont have it dont pretend you do in my opion your actualy the douch for wasting our time.


5 Comments, 224 Views, 18 Votes ,3.94 Score
silkyfine25 34 F
2  Articles
I'm just not Interested   12/7/2011

I get a number of emails, some i find very interesting and others i don't...I have no problem with respectfully declineing anyone if i don't feel there is a honest attraction....But i have noticed that i get alot of rude and tasteless emails as a reply, so my question is should i just ignore those that i'm not interested in or do i continue being repectful and letting them know that i'm not ...


2 Comments, 134 Views, 11 Votes ,2.98 Score
fisherman197008 48 M
23  Articles
always be both polite and firm   12/2/2011

I have found that when I am not interested in someone that being honest is best, you should try to be polite but firm, that way it spares hard feelings and embarasment for them. the honesty should be appreciated.their feelings may be a little hurt, but they will respect you for being honest.


1 Comments, 11 Views, 1 Votes ,3.70 Score
tr0ublesc0wb0y 37 M
1  Article
yes=no   10/29/2011

On my wife and I's couples profile we have experienced a lot of people not taking no for an answer. On several occasions had men and couple hound us even after we said we're not interested. When did saying no become saying yes? It seems people think it is ok to hound someone for sex just because this is a "hook up" site.


3 Comments, 30 Views, 2 Votes ,5.20 Score
dnafun11 45 C
16  Articles
Why is it so hard to say 'No thank you"?   10/20/2011

Why do people find it so hard to say "no thank you"? And for others to accept that response. We have a few couples that even though we have chatted a number of times and each time have come to the conclusion that we are not compatible together for various reasons. (For example one wants us to be exclusive to them only until they decide otherwise, they say it is for safety reasons being worried ...


4 Comments, 97 Views, 15 Votes ,5.58 Score
Where are the manners?   9/29/2011

I get it...not everyone is gonna be compatible and there is some amount of pure physical attraction that needs to go on for a connection to happen. BUT if there isn't, why can't people just say "thanks, nice meeting you, but i'm not interested".

Dunno, seems pretty simple and much nicer than ending the conversation, never to hear from them again - message is the same, but just a more ...


3 Comments, 93 Views, 7 Votes ,4.31 Score
standymanlyman 40 M
2  Articles
Thanks but no thanks   9/22/2011

Just keep right on walking Just keep right on walking

Dont dilly-dally, come right home I dont see why I must go home When in the streets the niceties Come pouring out and over me Its three oclock and here they come So many that my eyes are numb Familiar faces each and all But I've been ordered not to stall Thanks but no thanks, anywa I know that youre all OK, but My orders come from ...


0 Comments, 15 Views, 0 Votes
dnafun11 45 C
16  Articles
Saying and accepting "no"   9/9/2011

Lately I have seen a whole lot of complaints about people saying no thank you and being rude about it. Just a simple "Thank you for your interest, but I/we are not interested at this time" suffices. No need to go into details or get too wordy.

I seen the same with people getting aggressive and nasty when getting a no thank you from a member. Not everyone is going to say yes, it's a fact. ...


5 Comments, 114 Views, 23 Votes ,5.81 Score
takemeasiam74 43 M
10  Articles
no means no   8/16/2011

why cant some people just understand no means no, and respect the other person view.


0 Comments, 29 Views, 3 Votes ,3.43 Score
rm_zitalnbuf 40 M
3  Articles
The right thing   7/16/2011

So man games...if your not interested, a simply "no thanks" is the right and decent thing to do...


1 Comments, 66 Views, 4 Votes ,2.47 Score
Best way to meet a girl on here   6/19/2011

I have met women in the past for dates and right away I know I am not interested. I would hate to have a girl come to my house for the first time and not want to have sex with her from this site. I would feel guilty and give it to her anyway. What is the best way to figure out if this girl is worthy? Do you meet them somewhere real quick in public and make sure the sexual connection is there??


8 Comments, 169 Views, 15 Votes ,2.82 Score
sex4_u_on_a_stix 43 M
4  Articles
Almost scammed!   5/18/2011

I must start with how Xmatch is a Terrific site and how quick and helpful they were on acting with my problem.

It started with a member leaving a wink I checked out his page and Who-ow he was cute. I left a wink and hot listed him now we have all done that Yes!

This is were it begins the emails back and forth nothing vulgar or offensive, just innocent emails.

After a few ...


2 Comments, 245 Views, 8 Votes ,5.10 Score
rm_3some2013 29 C
2  Articles
no   5/6/2011

Do anyone understand no n e more?


1 Comments, 64 Views, 6 Votes ,4.22 Score
QueenBee1097 41 F
1  Article
Boobs/Pussy rejections....   4/21/2011

Since there was something about rejecting men with a small dick I'm wondering...has any man (or woman) rejected a woman because you didn't like her boobs/pussy?


5 Comments, 287 Views, 12 Votes ,2.62 Score
8inshape47 50 M
10  Articles
Condom use   4/8/2011

i have been rejected a couple of times because i want to wear condoms all the time...why do women turn me away because i am concerned about my health, not to mention i might have no idea if they are 100% clean or not?


8 Comments, 197 Views, 13 Votes ,4.32 Score
FlaCpl4Female 50 C
10  Articles
Best way   3/29/2011

What is your preferred way to tell someone you are not interested? Does it get any easier over time? Some people make it simple by being assholes but it's tough when nice people have to be told no.


4 Comments, 101 Views, 10 Votes ,2.99 Score
josmith5 57 M
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The Joys of Artfull Rejection.......   2/18/2011

1.) Man: "Haven't we met before?" Woman: "Yes, I'm the receptionist at the V.D. Clinic."

2.) In the department of "nice turn downs" there's this one: I'll have to think about that, thinking makes me tired, when I'm tired I want to sleep, not make love, so let's not, okay?

3.) Man: "So, wanna go back to my place?" Woman: "Well, I don't know. Will two people fit under a rock?" ...


2 Comments, 81 Views, 8 Votes ,5.33 Score
biggnhard09 38 M
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HOW DO YOU SAY IT WITHOUT BEING RUDE?   2/14/2011

i was wondering how you could say this without sounding rude or mean, help


4 Comments, 122 Views, 9 Votes ,4.07 Score
mauiluvahz1987 32 C
1  Article
blah   2/1/2011

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1 Comments, 66 Views, 1 Votes
TopicIncasToddy 28 M
13  Articles
gay guys   1/8/2011

im not interested in them. at this site they keep iming me asking me to show my ass or cock off.

pretty sick of telling them no. i need to go to a site that actually has chicks there


0 Comments, 60 Views, 4 Votes ,4.02 Score
TriesBefogGlint 33 M
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turning down a friend from becoming more.   1/1/2011

A few years back while going to college in fresno california i met a very pretty girl there while in political science class. we started chatting and as break time came along we went to the breakroom to get something to eat, while there we chatted and got to know one another a little bettter. she had been adopted when she was a child and told me about her family background and her ambitions and ...


2 Comments, 165 Views, 8 Votes ,1.62 Score
josmith5 57 M
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Bill and Lynn   12/20/2010

For months Bill had been Lynn`s devoted admirer. At long last he had collected sufficient courage to ask her the momentousquestion."There are quite a lot of advantages to being a bachelor, " Bill began, "but there comes a time when one longs for the companionship of another being, a being who will regard one as perfect, as an idol; whom one can treat as one`s absolute own; who will be kind and ...


1 Comments, 68 Views, 4 Votes ,4.80 Score
The Magic Pussy   12/1/2010



Well I'm not sure if I should let you in a on little secret. What's so special about my horny wife that I just have to tell every one who can read the printed word ? Fair enough keep reading and see for yourself.I've changed the names of all involved. So if you shout out her name in the heat of well.....now you know.

My wife Carrie is absolutly drop dead ...


5 Comments, 328 Views, 11 Votes ,1.67 Score
nonprobbwtranny 32 T
18  Articles
Saying no to Submissive men   11/6/2010

I'm having to say no thanks to guys that are looking to be submissive. I say that Two bottoms don't make a top. Im a feminine submissive bottom bitch and Im woman enough for a strong masculine man. I dont need someone else waring panties, waving their ass, and being a subby bitch.

I even put hat on my profile, that I am only a submissive looking for a dom.

Anyone else having ...


2 Comments, 92 Views, 7 Votes ,3.04 Score
nonprobbwtranny 32 T
18  Articles
I HAD TO SAY NO THANKS IN PERSON THIS WEEK!   11/5/2010

So, I sgree to meet this guy form here. The last couple of meetings before him were actually pretty good. Not bad at all. One was just a little TOO horny, but still not bad. One was perfect. Another was good too.

But this one guy from this week..... omg. He forgot to tell me he was missing half his front teeth. Among other things. I was completely...turned...off...and felt that he was ...


3 Comments, 156 Views, 5 Votes ,3.14 Score
_JKH_ 64 M
1013  Articles
Sex and Marriage !   10/26/2010

Sex is the price women have to pay for marriage. Marriage is the price men have to pay for marriage. ...


2 Comments, 59 Views, 21 Votes
nonprobbwtranny 32 T
18  Articles
When you say no...and they persist...sometimes you have to get ugly   10/24/2010

Sometimes, I will get replies from guys that read my profile, notice that they are NOT what I am lookiung for, yet still contact me. I think thats rude and a waiset of time. They also get "beggy" and presistant. Sometimes, I have to get ugly.

What do you do in situations like that?


5 Comments, 72 Views, 7 Votes ,3.04 Score
Sending a reply message   9/6/2010

If a person sends you an email try to be nice enough to reply back even if you are not interested. Lots on here use points to send emails and are not sure if the email was even received. So be nice enough to send a reply.


9 Comments, 127 Views, 13 Votes ,5.66 Score
ahhhh no........   9/3/2010

What is the best way to get away from someone you absolutely have ZERO interest in yet they think you are the stuff ? I have tried being nice. We are not "friends" she is just one in the crowd.


3 Comments, 60 Views, 3 Votes ,2.45 Score
studlyguy8922 36 M
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this one is easy   8/2/2010

the simple way of doing it is just be as polite as you can and just simply say no thanks. if they cant handle it its not your problem and if they get pissy i say oh well its not the first time someone has been mad at me and damn sure wont be the last so they have a long line to stand in lol


2 Comments, 45 Views, 7 Votes ,4.06 Score
racquel76 42 F
3  Articles
whymen call u a bitch   8/1/2010

Why is it that when a man sends u multiple messages trying to get your attention, and when you ignor them they call u afat bitch... I dont get it who was emailing who i the first place.


13 Comments, 273 Views, 17 Votes ,4.26 Score
josmith5 57 M
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???   7/31/2010

If a women is uncomfortable watching you masturbate, do you think:

(A) You need more time together ( She's a prude (C) She should of sat elsewhere on the bus


1 Comments, 35 Views, 9 Votes ,2.36 Score
gsobbw 51 F
1  Article
Its hard to let go   7/23/2010

Loving and lusting for someone is to different things you can have a huge flaming sex life and not connect in a mental way and in an master/slave relationship that mental connect is so important


0 Comments, 18 Views, 0 Votes
xNBKxUT 36 M
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Walking the walk.   7/16/2010

Ok boys and girls this is just a quick little piece on "saying no". We all know we have been in situations that put us in a position of weakness or addiction, especially when it comes to matters of lust and love. How we comprehend and what actions we take regarding this weakness is what makes the difference between a healthy relationship and a toxic one. Any time you feel the need to justify, ...


1 Comments, 62 Views, 7 Votes ,3.55 Score
bubb4363 60 M
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no thanks   6/30/2010

how hard is it for you to date, the same person, for a time, and every time sex come up, its always no thanks. when do you say good bye.


1 Comments, 59 Views, 2 Votes ,1.04 Score
__A_J__ 47 F
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Whatever!   6/6/2010

I don't believe a lot of people understand what the two words no thanks means. How many times does a person need to say it? ...


9 Comments, 160 Views, 33 Votes ,5.99 Score
_JKH_ 64 M
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Watch it !   5/21/2010

Your life can be changed in a matter of seconds by someone who doesn't even know you yet. ...


3 Comments, 117 Views, 12 Votes ,2.80 Score
_JKH_ 64 M
1013  Articles
Credentials!   5/21/2010

Credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being....


3 Comments, 37 Views, 12 Votes ,1.92 Score
nvrgetsenuf 50 F
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How Many Times Does A Lady Have to Politely Say No?   5/14/2010

Before she can't just flat out be rude? Have you ever been there?

My profile(check it out) is written to weed out the "undesireables." Sometimes it works & sometimes it doesn't. There always has to be one that thinks if he can just get you to say yes to meeting him he can sweet talk you into giving up some of that sweet stuff. You know the one I'm talking about...

He writes & ...


10 Comments, 172 Views, 16 Votes ,4.74 Score
_JKH_ 64 M
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Worry !   5/12/2010

Most of the stuff people worry about ain't never gonna happen anyway. ...


2 Comments, 31 Views, 10 Votes ,0.60 Score
Why do people do that?   5/2/2010

I need a little perspective on why people will start chatting and emailing you on here and you seem to get along well ... then you agree to exchange pics and then "POOF" once the woman gets your pic they disappear without a word. I mean I can understand that they get the pic and see that one is not their type ... but is it really all that hard to just say that so there is closure? Why do people ...


7 Comments, 208 Views, 11 Votes ,3.54 Score
_JKH_ 64 M
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Wondering !   4/29/2010

Sometimes saying, "No thanks, " will have you wondering later on if you were right, and sometimes you'll find out later on from an event, that you made a great decision in saying, "No thanks!" ...


2 Comments, 46 Views, 24 Votes
bmarietoo 50 C
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strippers   3/14/2010

male half



it's been years since i've been but the best way i've found to get rid of strippers who want to table dance for you is to have a line ready. mine have been, "sorry, you look too much like my wife." and "sorry, i'm saving all my money for the massage parlor afterwards".

any other good one liners? have some fun.


3 Comments, 113 Views, 8 Votes ,3.01 Score
Adventurer333 51 M
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Easier for Women to Say No?   2/22/2010

Is it easier for a woman to say "No thanks" then a man?

When meeting for the first coffee, I am not always interested in following through. But I also feel like I can't say no at that point. I have, and it wasn't well received even though I did try to be gentle.

I am wondering if the male stereotype comes into play: men don't say no to sex.

Women are propositioned more ...


4 Comments, 90 Views, 5 Votes ,4.77 Score
Livin4Lisa 33 C
1  Article
Come On People   1/9/2010

After reading people's articles in the category "No Thanks", I literally started to laugh out loud. I find it funny that people take so much offense from other's actions on their passion.com. "Come on people", please you are on the internet. You are not having one on one face time with people on-line. If your feelings are getting hurt becaue of people saying rude comments to you or because ...


12 Comments, 149 Views, 17 Votes ,4.26 Score
chrisomaha 39 M
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when saying no thanks politely doesn't go over   1/8/2010

sometimes it seems like i am very careful to pick my wording in my response, and i am still treated very rudely to someone i didn't pursue in the first place. i try to say things that won't hurt any feelings, stay respectful, and still are firm that i am not interested. i am wondering what everyone else does when this doesn't seem to do the trick and now some rude person won't leave me alone.


2 Comments, 27 Views, 5 Votes ,3.80 Score
rm_krisshh81 33 M
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Say 'no thanks' the right way   1/7/2010

Overview: It's a good practice to let job candidates know when they haven't gotten the job. Use this sample thanks-but-no-thanks letter to build goodwill with people who may be a better match for future positions.

One of the least pleasant aspects of the hiring process is conveying to candidates your decision to pass them over. But if you've decided to eliminate someone from contention ...


3 Comments, 57 Views, 5 Votes ,1.84 Score
cw101 47 M
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being polite but firm   12/9/2009

Well having read a few of the articles - it seems we're all more or less on the same frequency as it were.

Ive had quite a few occasions in the past where despite what my profile says - ie in a relationship and not looking to play, a few folks have been rather insistent - Ive found it an exercise in politeness but also firmness.

There do seem to be quite a few people for whom no ...


2 Comments, 73 Views, 6 Votes ,4.50 Score
anythingoes299 46 C
12  Articles
How do you tell a couple no thanks after meeting them?   12/5/2009

Weve not had to experience this yet because all the couples we played with were great, but how do you tell a couple no after meeting up with them and it's not what you want?


3 Comments, 90 Views, 8 Votes ,4.64 Score
josmith5 57 M
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when just saying no isnt enough...   11/1/2009

Guy: I would go to the end of the world for you! Girl: Yea but would you stay there?

Man:is this seat empty?

Woman:yes and this one will be too if you sit down!

Man:your bodys like a temple

Woman:sorry no sevice today.

Him: your place or mine

You: both, you go to yours, and i will go to mine

Sleazy Guyo you come here often? ...


2 Comments, 45 Views, 9 Votes ,1.93 Score
rm_bobbysgirl72 36 C
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Taking a break   10/25/2009

It came suddenly I'm sure for my husband but one night, I asked him how he would feel about suspending our Xmatch account temporarily. He asked why...my reply....I just want to take a break. It seemed like so much pressure to have sex with EVERYONE and that is NOT who I am or he is for that matter. I wanted to slow down and get back to us and remember what it was to feel passion instead of just ...


6 Comments, 262 Views, 13 Votes ,4.65 Score
playhouse40 48 C
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No Thanks   10/13/2009

How can another person say that they didnt c the sign when a person is no interest n then u shouldnt have 2 hurt some 1 feeling 2 say No Thanks !That person already knows they just dont want 2 accept the facts , no calls, no chat, no time and they cant get the picture mmmmmmmmm They got just leave me alone can they get that Live, Laugh, Love!


1 Comments, 61 Views, 4 Votes ,3.63 Score
MsRenica 56 T
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Nancy Reagan said it 1st   10/12/2009

Yes she did!


1 Comments, 32 Views, 0 Votes
dirtysexysailor8 28 M
3  Articles
i never say no   9/29/2009

no is not in my vocabulary especially when it comes to sex i will always try it atleast once! it is ok to say no but i just never do!


2 Comments, 78 Views, 5 Votes ,0.86 Score
_JKH_ 64 M
1013  Articles
Here's one way !   8/25/2009

Just tell whoever that your seeing someone and you don't want to cheat on them. ...


3 Comments, 78 Views, 31 Votes
BRON13 32 M
7  Articles
passing   8/4/2009

whats the best line you used to reject someone


3 Comments, 72 Views, 4 Votes ,3.63 Score
Dickeymo69 42 M
4  Articles
What's worse?   7/22/2009

Being horny as hell and laying in bed next to a hot chick or guy you can't fuck (for whatever reason) or being horny as hell and laying in bed next to a hot chick/guy that won't fuck you?


6 Comments, 70 Views, 3 Votes ,2.45 Score
sync94 49 M
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Really No Thanks?   7/21/2009

Saying No is not taken lightly by some.Saying No Thanks is a strong suggestion that the person really means the opposite. Men are attracted to women who use the NO word and always confuse the situation by thinking it means YES. For the life of me I cannot understand why? People are the same anywhere you go. They argue about everything then say no. When the opportunity comes for them to say really ...


2 Comments, 98 Views, 5 Votes ,2.82 Score
A Conundrum   6/11/2009

Several of you have mentioned that to be polite you should respond, even if not interested, to the sender of the message. I would agree that is good behaviour, and would like to be able to do so for each of the messages I receive, but have no interest in. Unfortunately, Xmatch puts a cap on the number of emails standard members (the majority of us) can send daily - so I wouuld end up using my ...


8 Comments, 101 Views, 13 Votes ,5.32 Score
_JKH_ 64 M
1013  Articles
Fatal attraction !   6/9/2009

Fatal attractions can come from just merely saying, "No thanks!"

Have you ever known this to happen to anyone near to you?
...


6 Comments, 96 Views, 33 Votes
rm_tlswordsman 33 M
1  Article
Not saying no means no?   6/2/2009

How many of you just leave an email unanswered if you're not interested?

How many of you actually reply to say "No thanks"?


9 Comments, 172 Views, 12 Votes ,3.15 Score
ALREADYTAKENAGAI 48 C
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Here is a scenario:   4/13/2009

We, as a couple, choose to play together with women..not necessarily other couples. We get propositioned all the time from couples that want us to come play with them. As inviting an offer as it is, we have more of an interest in playing with the female counter part of the couple as opposed to both of them. We do not full swap, as of yet, but most of these couples want us to "equally" share the ...


3 Comments, 83 Views, 1 Votes ,2.40 Score
wildcatr27 47 F
11  Articles‚ Score 1.9
why when we say 'no thank you'?   4/4/2009

Some guys say when they have been told No thank you, well 'your loss'

why is it my loss? if i don't think we match for whatever reason, how can that then be my loss.

It makes me laugh cause I can only assume that they think they are gods gift and that i should be grateful or something. To me a loss is losing someone who dies not someone I am not interested in having sex with. ...


5 Comments, 142 Views, 10 Votes ,2.99 Score
wildcatr27 47 F
11  Articles‚ Score 1.9
why not just accept the response no thanks   3/11/2009

wasn't sure whether to put this in the 'saying 'no thanks' or the rants & raves

So many times I get contacted by the same people who I have said no thanks to as politely as I can.

But yet they still do it and some even then become abusive about it.

One has even called me a 'saddo' today who 'needs a life' because I didn't want to talk to the pictureless, one line ...


6 Comments, 87 Views, 8 Votes ,4.87 Score
sussi1028 58 F
11  Articles‚ Score 33.6
How is it possible to say "No Thanks"?   3/8/2009

Having had some awesome play time with Conny&Co., some of my boy toys and friends wanted to know more about it, so I wrote down, what I could remember. Here is a link to it, if you like multiple people play you will love to read it I suspect

This is what happened at the Bel Air

[group_post 2309728 What an exciting weekend, what an awesome ...


1 Comments, 105 Views, 2 Votes ,3.81 Score
rm_hedonist5251 65 C
2  Articles
why why no pics?   3/7/2009

After being on this scene on and off for over 20 years we've come to realise its a total absolute waste of time and breath asking people to put SOME kind of pics in profile! Despite us sayin they dont have to be facial or explicit, still they dont! its especialy difficult if you're a standard member and therefore cant access some profiles fully. so that one little pic we CAN see makes ALL ...


4 Comments, 126 Views, 15 Votes ,4.05 Score